ITgurlie:

First of all he has a girl now, does he really love her? Or he's just using it to pass time.

Secondly you've discovered another part of him and you've fallen for him so should you follow it or just move on.

All these can be answered by the guy, why not just gist with him and indirectly ask about his girlfriend and how far is he willing to go.

Also you have to search your heart cos you have to think with your head, but you listen to your heart, cheers

Hi,

Thanks!! Good advice!! It does depend on him doesn't it.

It's not that I don't want to move forward, it's just that I've always believe that men always know how to get what they want, he hasn't come to get me because he doesn't want me. My girlfriend says that he loves his girlfriend more than his girlfriend loves him, and that's what always deters me, maybe he's mature because he's with her, because he has found someone who he has decided to change for and maybe the twinkle is really just that, just a twinkle.

I think this is a tough situation, because I am not a home-wrecker , so I would never want to put thoughts into his head, because I can imagine how his girlfriend would feel. For a long time I went into auto-mode, I just blocked all his signs because my girlfriend (who happens to have had a crush on him by the way - and stood in the way of us initially), told me that he was seeing this girl when the guy was still coming over to visit me and trying to woo me.

I think this might be a dead end situation, I like my life to be simple and straight forward, so maybe I'll just continue with what I'm doing and forget it.

Thanks nonetheless.

Well, cut the long story short, I saw him yesterday, and he still had that [b]twinkle [/b]in his eye - I was not imagining it!!!! He still looked at me, in fact he checked me out (but then again he could just like looking at legs ). I was with two other of my girlfriends, (one is his bestfriend - and main reason I was so sceptical of him and got all my dirty info. about him from).

topup:

Well, cut the long story short, I saw him yesterday, and he still had that twinkle in his eye

steve49ja:

Honestly? Let him go

It might be hard now but couple of day's you'll thank God you did.

If He does anything nasty with you while with his girl then imagine what he would do with another girl when you're his girl. Karma is always a b.i.t.c.h

And please never bring up the issue of you two being together, comes off as cheap

My advice then? Your's will come, if it's him, he'l come for you but never take second place. You're more than that

mikkyphp:

@topup :There's no reason you shouldn't fight for what you want, whether guy or girl. how u go about it is what matters. But what i hate is the passiveness, is that what being a girl usually is like? you like a guy and hope things should fall in place without any input from you at all? It's not a fairy tale world. i guess it's time to wake up. Only the tough last, you'd probably make the same mistakes again by allowing sentiments to override your judgement. You cared too much about alot of things apart from what you genuinely wanted. Be wise gurl,
ps : @ topup :i'm a huge fan

This is SO true!! It is the way you go about it, of course if a girl throws herself over a taken guy then it doesnt benefit her, and it lacks class. But also some guys literally read signs and move on- and like I mentioned I wasn't returning the signals at one point, it's not my call to make whether he genuinely is committed to his girlfriend, it's his, and in these situations I am pretty sure that you need lots of time to avoid the rebound situation - when a guy jumps from girl to girl.

I also hate passiveness, but I think my deal is more to do with taking too long to make up my mind than passiveness, I reciprocate, but I do like to be approached first, I don't play games or make it ridiculously hard for a guy to see me, as I don't have time to waste like I did before , too much stress I tell you, I've never been a game player anyway.

You're right I cared about too much before, and didn't act probably when it would have been more understandable to have acted.

P.s. thanks

tkb417:

i bet you dont want him to add you to his growing list of 'games'

i understand the way u feel about him and im sure thats how all the gurls he has been with felt about him

SAY NO TO HIM and look my side

i have that 'twinkle' in me eye too

Lol. . the famous twinkle eh

Yeah you're right, I'm not the first to probably feel this way about him, especially since he used to be such a flirt.

ITgurlie:



Cool, you'll find your own soon, cheers

And cheers to you too!!