Lexusgs430:
So many bitter ladies out there...... Not all girls qualifies to be a mother.....

as opposed to all the guys who deny their children but come back years later after all the suffering part has ended to come and be demanding for forgiveness from the children, abegiiii.

Fuckyoumod:
will you sharap dia? What is fear men... Of everything he narrated about his thrive to be a true father to his daughter, you didn't see that part.

And the only thing you know is make a stray and blanket criticism " fear men".

That young man is a real man!

Unlike you that will run away for life.

Abegiii when people say "after devil fear women", where were you to come and be talking yen yen yen about blanket statement.

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Adesolomon2014:


Wait to be in that shoes, at least he indeed admitted and tried to correct his wrongs...na people like you dey form mr perfect or know it all, your own dey ur body....gerrahiahere mehn!

Niqqa shut your trap... Nobody is denying that nd I said what I said

MarieSucre:

as opposed to all the guys who deny their children but come back years later after all the suffering part has ended to come and be demanding for forgiveness from the children, abegiiii.

Ladies should know who they decide should plant a seed in their garden........

Saintmary:

It's hard to see the positive side here. He rejected a child before she was born, walked away, came back to sabotage the mother's authority over the child, and all other things he didn't mention. Where's the positive?

But he's making up for it, would u prefer he abandoned his child forever or realize his mistakes and make it up to her.
No one is perfect, every now n then we make bad decisions, but he's good he realized his early.

Lexusgs430:


Ladies should know who they decide should plant a seed in their garden........

This is why women of nowadays don't respect men. When it's suits you, you beat your chest, you're a man, you're the head, you can't stand a woman who is not submissive, too independent and does not take to your decision yen yen yen. When it doesn't suit you, you run away and start saying ladies should do this... ladies should do that. When you marry that woman do you think she will ever respect you seeing as she knows you're an indecisive mudafuka who dumps everything in her shoulders as soon as the heat gets hot.

MarieSucre:

as opposed to all the guys who deny their children but come back years later after all the suffering part has ended to come and be demanding for forgiveness from the children, abegiiii.

This girl is still very little, in fact at a yr old he was already trying to be in her life, it's not like he abandoned her for yrs.

charliboy654:

This girl is still very little, in fact at a yr old he was already trying to be in her life, it's not like he abandoned her for yrs.

She is 2 years old. He did not even tell his parents about her. Not like the girl had a choice of not telling her parents, pregnancy no dey hide.

MarieSucre:


She is 2 years old. He did not even tell his parents about her. Not like the girl had a choice of not telling her parents, pregnancy no dey hide.

Ya my point is that he realized his mistake early enough, or u prefer he just abandon her for life.

charliboy654:

Ya my point is that he realized his mistake early enough, or u prefer he just abandon her for life.

is he expecting some accolades? He wrote a long epistle making it look like his ex-gf does not have reason to be angry with him, if it's you that your gf gave birth and left the child at your doorstep, then comes back later for the child won't you think she is bad influence on the child and a horrible person?

I hope he has truly changed and I hope the girl does not find out that he wanted to abort her.

adorable29:



So much stupidity in a single post. Firstly, stupidity made you reason that 29 there means age and even it did that this is 2018 and marriage is no longer used to shame people. Stupidity made you reason I was single or married. Stupidity made you not infer logically that he didn't want ANYTHING to do with the child whom he inferred was a distraction to him until he was done with school forgetting that his girlfriend was also in school.
Stupidity is saying a woman shouldn't have a relationship two years after having a child. Stupidity is saying she "took advantage of a broke guy" as it relates to to the story. Stupidity is you not realising that now they have settled the issue, he didn't need to start shading the woman on social media and painting himself the angel. Stupidity is you not realising that he shouldn't have said the 4 year child chose him knowing fully well that even if by a LONG STRETCH they go to court and the case is not thrown out, the child will be seen as too young to make that decision for the court.
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After all said and done, you are just a stupendous imp.

I still insist that u can only be fixed when u start relating with people, either known or strangers, with dignified representation of yourself...this is highly poor.
I don't know if you had similar experience when you were still young or someone close to you did but wisdom should communicate to you (if u allow it anyway) that they both had secx DAT led to the pregnancy. As the boy was foolish to have engaged in such act, so was the Lady, so none should be treated like an hero/one in this situation and both should be due for whatever situation they faced as an outcome of their indulgence. Have that firstly, at the back of ur feeble mind.
Then, practically, the best thing for any reasonable man in his shoes was to firstly sort out what will cater for the family peradventure they form a union. Even if they didn't get over it, the only thing that can be reasonable for the man is for him to take care of the basics according to his capability and capacity.
Now, we can't say precisely may be the guy abandoned her because he did not mention that but the girl is not seen to claim that she never wanted an irresponsible (then) 'boy' to father her child.
A lot of things that are not yet revealed here have happened BTW them and during that trying period, so you can't use you miniature mind to judge the guy forgetting the fact they can still come together as couple. After all, they are not as stranded as you are .

At first this man wanted this baby aborted #fact. I am glad he has right his wrongs now.

adorable29:


Naaaa. They disappoint every damn time. They seem scared of the large percentage of guys on this platform or don't want their "market and DM value" to reduce so they hide and kiss the ass.sses of nairaland guys and never defend their gender. Instead they even join to condemn based on wife material bullcrap.
I see through them.

You are actually right.

Boyooosa:

I still insist that u can only be fixed when u start relating with people, either known or strangers, with dignified representation of yourself...this is highly poor.
I don't know if you had similar experience when you were still young or someone close to you did but wisdom should communicate to you (if u allow it anyway) that they both had secx DAT led to the pregnancy. As the boy was foolish to have engaged in such act, so was the Lady, so none should be treated like an hero/one in this situation and both should be due for whatever situation they faced as an outcome of their indulgence. Have that firstly, at the back of ur feeble mind.
Then, practically, the best thing for any reasonable man in his shoes was to firstly sort out what will cater for the family peradventure they form a union. Even if they didn't get over it, the only thing that can be reasonable for the man is for him to take care of the basics according to his capability and capacity.
Now, we can't say precisely may be the guy abandoned her because he did not mention that but the girl is not seen to claim that she never wanted an irresponsible (then) 'boy' to father her child.
A lot of things that are not yet revealed here have happened BTW them and during that trying period, so you can't use you miniature mind to judge the guy forgetting the fact they can still come together as couple. After all, they are not as stranded as you are .

The issue with you is that you are quite unintelligent. You are so biased and unreasonable that you are cooking up ludicrous stories to add to what was presented.


You lack basic emotional intelligence that you can't tell that this is not about heroism or no heroism.

Read this slowly.... Everyone knows they both made a mistake. Everyone knows they could have supported EACH OTHER and gone through the storm together. Everyone knows he was having none if it and hid it from his family for two years. Everyone knows he is now ready to be a good dad. Asides you that is daft, every other person agrees to all the above.

The bone of contention however is that the immature guy has BROUGHT IT TO SOCIAL MEDIA and made it seem as though he is the hero. Hence the backlash. He even used the baby in all of this.

You are too d.umb to understand the larger picture.

What do you even mean by stranded? Are you well at all.

MarieSucre:


This is why women of nowadays don't respect men. When it's suits you, you beat your chest, you're a man, you're the head, you can't stand a woman who is not submissive, too independent and does not take to your decision yen yen yen. When it doesn't suit you, you run away and start saying ladies should do this... ladies should do that. When you marry that woman do you think she will ever respect you seeing as she knows you're an indecisive mudafuka who dumps everything in her shoulders as soon as the heat gets hot.

Why is it that when an argument is initiated, you resort to using swear words ? May I wager because you eventually know you would lose the argument or too weak to stand your corner, hence resorting to insultive insinuations/innuendos?

You do the same in real life, face2face and online ........ And you always wonder why you are left carrying the baby alone ?

adorable29:




The issue with you is that you are quite unintelligent. You are so biased and unreasonable that you are cooking up ludicrous stories to add to what was presented.


You lack basic emotional intelligence that you can't tell that this is not about heroism or no heroism.

Read this slowly.... Everyone knows they both made a mistake. Everyone knows they could have supported EACH OTHER and gone through the storm together. Everyone knows he was having none if it and hid it from his family for two years. Everyone knows he is now ready to be a good dad. Asides you that is daft, every other person agrees to all the above.

The bone of contention however is that the immature guy has BROUGHT IT TO SOCIAL MEDIA and made it seem as though he is the hero. Hence the backlash. He even used the baby in all of this.

You are too d.umb to understand the larger picture.

What do you even mean by stranded? Are you well at all.

Left to me, I can handle you... I can help you restore your factory setting and its been reflected tru the emboldened.
So you knew this when you mentioned that the guy abandoned her blah blah... I am educating you that such situation would have been followed by alot of things not revealed here.
Thank God you even ran quickly to the valid point raised by other reasonable peep that condemns the act of discussing such issue in a public dormaun which I also condemn. But critically, this story would have blessed a million guys this morning cos of the emotions that follow the story if digested positively:
1, it cautions not to go into casuals when u r not ready
2, it also encourages young men (baby daddies) to charge themselves into full responsibility of the lives they have created and probably establish another good home.
3, it can also guide other dudes in the same position now, on how to go about recovery or reconciliation in such situation.
4. Being a lovely father is the best thing that can ever happen to a man after being a good husband.
All these learnt in one uniquely summarised story is a blessing to those who read with broad mind and not the ones that read with mischievous and frudtrated hearts, always ready to pick offence and get frustrated in every piece done by happy children of God. He felt accomplished having hope of getting her jewel back, u dey there dey frustrate.
Here in my place, we don't kill joy! We even get creative when people celebrate!
And ur 'shading', everyone is not like u that fights herself after all efforts to fight everybody remain futile; the tone of that piece doesn't reflect shading or what did u call it, but pure sound of victory and hope.

freshvine:


read paragraph 5 of op.
custody battle started 3 weeks after kid was born and lasted for 4 years. that's mean he man up but baby mama wanted something more but he chosed his daughter and career above her desire.

good comprehension. You got the story right unlike the one who claimed to understand it better.

adorable29:


It is too early for me to be faced with his kind of IQ.
Madam, where did "extra" and marriage come in contact in this story. You think this is Africa Magic where impregnating a girl automatically means marrying her.

You got the story wrong. The baby girl was just three weeks old when battle for custody ensued. So there was never a time he abandoned the mother. Only that he wasn't ready for marriage.

Boyooosa:

Being single @29 is not a total lost hope my dear...
The guy summarised the story and detail might put light in the whole situation which we are not ready to even dig out for now until 'the other part' of the story comes up.
MW, remarking by his text, they both made the mistake of early pregnancy. So they ought to bear the brunt together. He did not mention that he abandoned her at any point in time but needed to fix the basic part of his life so as to be responsible for both the mother and the kid, even himself. No evidence that he left her to suffer but in your own African assumption and personal judgmental opinion.
According to the available information here, I think it was too early for a young mother to move on within two years of birthing, more so, the guy has not denied her nor the child. I think she just took advantage of the broke status of the guy to shift the responsible to another person she felt might be able to help financially.
She might still need to review that decision if she finds out that that guy has a good heart, well, I hope it will not be too late.

Love this submission.

dynicks:
for viagra?...

this is a topic about daughter father custodianship...

you don't last long during bedmatics or what?

this is one of the reasons I love Nairaland because of comments like that comes with faces like that lol

tetula123:
2years and your parents didn't know...fear men.

there's something I noticed on NL. if you express yourself, no matter how good it is, some humans here will and by will I mean WILL always think the opposite, and they will always find a way to throw insults at you, for expressing yourself.
if you not tough, and you among those who view and never comment please keep it that way, because those comments and replies you see here that makes you laugh, is getting someone somewhere depressed or angry.

if nairaland were to be a physical gathering na back to back fighting go close the gathering.

funny but true

Saintmary:

Does a good man abandon a pregnant woman?

There is always 2nd chance in every human's life and repentance is sacred. Let he that has never been wrong cast the first stone.
Moreover, I did not read it anywhere in the story that someone abandoned the other. One was scared of the responsibility ahead and the other moved on which is natural considering the circumstance. Why now the sentiment of abandonment...abeg.

Daughters love are priceless
my girls love toward me are unconditional
They always see the best in me and very protective of me
my girls rock

7footre:


Niqqa shut your trap... Nobody is denying that nd I said what I said

e dey ya body aboki.

7footre:
You told your gf you didn't want a child after you got her pregnant and she had d child and you come ranting about what? What if she had obliged you and terminated?

How would the daughter feel when she grows up and learns you didn't want her to start with?
We are supposed to act happy for you and all that but this is how I see it

What happened is the past,
she will understand
If he continue to be the best father he can
You can't change the love the daughter have for him

adorable29:


Look at this one below who quoted me

just so you know, both you and freshvine did the same thing: you both made assumptions on incomplete information using your inherent/residual bias.

This was the information: "As a broke college student I told her I’m not ready for anything extra now other than graduating and getting my life together. So it was tough"

you assumed he left her to suffer and go through pregnancy and childbirth alone
while freshvine assumed extra meant marriage

Boyooosa:

Left to me, I can handle you... I can help you restore your factory setting and its been reflected tru the emboldened.
So you knew this when you mentioned that the guy abandoned her blah blah... I am educating you that such situation would have been followed by alot of things not revealed here.
Thank God you even ran quickly to the valid point raised by other reasonable peep that condemns the act of discussing such issue in a public dormaun which I also condemn. But critically, this story would have blessed a million guys this morning cos of the emotions that follow the story if digested positively:
1, it cautions not to go into casuals when u r not ready
2, it also encourages young men (baby daddies) to charge themselves into full responsibility of the lives they have created and probably establish another good home.
3, it can also guide other dudes in the same position now, on how to go about recovery or reconciliation in such situation.
4. Being a lovely father is the best thing that can ever happen to a man after being a good husband.
All these learnt in one uniquely summarised story is a blessing to those who read with broad mind and not the ones that read with mischievous and frudtrated hearts, always ready to pick offence and get frustrated in every piece done by happy children of God. He felt accomplished having hope of getting her jewel back, u dey there dey frustrate.
Here in my place, we don't kill joy! We even get creative when people celebrate!
And ur 'shading', everyone is not like u that fights herself after all efforts to fight everybody remain futile; the tone of that piece doesn't reflect shading or what did u call it, but pure sound of victory and hope.

What da flying fccuk!
Uncle, are you sure you are mentally okay?! :

I say they both made a mistake by having unprotected sex when they aren't ready to have kids and you go on to write all this plenty jargons.

Just go and take your meds or smoke your weed and sleep. Sincerely ( and this is not me entertaining myself on nairaland to while away time ) I from the bottom of my heart think you have skoinskoin!

olaboy1:
Kids don’t think like selfish adults and that’s why they are kids. They have angelic hearts and understand what true love means.
The most important thing is the relationship the little girl is having with her father today and she would forever be grateful for that.
I noticed the only thing materialistic adults could pick from this story is a cheap notebook, notebook bought for the purpose of improving contacts, but all the small narrow minded adults could see are bribery and gifts.

He has shown his willingness to partake in the child’s life from the long drawn custody battle of 4yrs.

Kids don’t think like selfish adults and that’s why they are kids. They have angelic hearts and understand what true love means.

monex:


just so you know, both you and freshvine did the same thing: you both made assumptions on incomplete information using your inherent/residual bias.

This was the information: "As a broke college student I told her I’m not ready for anything extra now other than graduating and getting my life together. So it was tough"

you assumed he left her to suffer and go through pregnancy and childbirth alone
while freshvine assumed extra meant marriage

For someone who told us he "booked tickets" just so he can see her as if booking tickets is such an achievement in the child's life, he definitely would have added that he took care of the baby.
Same person whose own PARENTS had no idea they had a grand child for TWO WHOLE YEARS ASIDES THE NINE MONTHS PREGNANCY is the one you say was caring for mother and child? There is something called deductive intelligence. You can deduce intelligently from a part to form a whole.

Saintmary:

It's hard to see the positive side here. He rejected a child before she was born, walked away, came back to sabotage the mother's authority over the child, and all other things he didn't mention. Where's the positive?

Please people we don't need to have narrow mind
He did not reject the daughter
The positive thing is that he is a father and he want to play a major role in his daughter life
He doesn't want to just be ATM
90% of unplanned pregnancy have lot of issue