Read his instructive writeup and share your thoughts;
"Nigerian families destroyed most marriages Shar..
From tribe, to jealousy, to insecurity.. it's terrible..
A sister feels her brother is being jazzed by his wife because he bought her a car..
But she's keeping malice with her own husband because he hasn't done same for her

Most mother's want to overwork your wife to be to see if she's the one for you.. but be quick to advice her own daughter not to let her in-laws use her as a servant.. why ?

A father believes his son should be constantly sending him money not considering the fact that he has his own family to cater for.. and eventually when he doesn't have to give, they go with the narrative that he's spending on the in-laws more.. then the bad blood starts rolling

Families will tell their male kids not to marry a poor girl that doesn't have anything she's doing.. same families will caution their jobless daughter to only marry a rich man that can take care of her very well..why's that ?

A Yoruba girl would rather settle for a TUNDE with four to five girlfriends than an EBUKA who is a proper loyal gentleman, because she's has the orientation that nothing good will come out from dating the latter.. it's more like a song for them when they were younger. Tribe!!!

Every other family is not clean.. you'll take their names to several pastors for prayer before you decide if they can marry your child.. but did you equally take names of your own family members ?

In my town, we were made to believe that all ESAN people are witches and troublesome, that we can't marry them.. hardly will you see a delta man who's married to an ESAN woman. Hardly.. my same people dislike igbo's because they believe they're ritualists.. but what re we ?

Some families even see churches as an obstacle.. they're redeemed we re Catholic.. we can't marry them.. i mean.. isn't it the same God ?.. someone said to his son, even if it's an slowpoke I don't mind as long as she's from our town.. LoL. Really ?

Me for one never really cared about anyone I settled with.. as long as she brings me peace and makes me happy.. be her Yoruba, Igbo, efik, Tiv or idoma.. even igala and ebira.. but the family factor always plays in my head.. it's terrible. �

One of my best relationship was from a Kaduna girl.. about 4yrs older than me... Her name was arashiiaa.. she was near perfect, matured and peaceful.. the day I told my uncles about her was the day they talked me out of the relationship.. we no go fit go that side they said �

-dem too dey spoil.. she old pass you sef. Abeg go fine better girl.. everyone had flaws but us.. now If u decide to say Bleep all and go against them.. the world will turn on you when life goes south on issues which aren't even relating.. smh"

https://www.torimill.com/2018/07/man-writes-on-how-some-families-have-destroyed-the-marriages-of-their-loved-ones.html

My Dad once listed the number of states I shouldn't marry from, I reminded him he had listed all the 36 states ���

They ask if youre married, have kids, have a career, have cars and houses as if life is some kinda grocery list. Nobody cares to know if you're happy.

A Yoruba girl would rather settle for a TUNDE with four to five girlfriends than an EBUKA who is a proper loyal gentleman, because she's has the orientation that nothing good will come out from dating the latter.. it's more like a song for them when they were younger!

TRIBALISM: one of the main problem of NIGERIA.
Why can't we live like brothers and sisters and leave alone the hate and spite?!
In ONE NIGERIA we believe.

Families can only destroy a marriage of weak and unintelligent couples.


If your marriage get destroyed by your family, you are a fool and should be held responsible for allowing a third party destroy your marriage or joy.


If you know your stand in your marriage, your parents will know their boundary.

He is very correct. The worst part of it is that those our fathers, mothers, uncles and aunties that set boundaries for us; talked us out of our beloved relationship will not live with us in the house and know what we will be passing through. The family members only visit but they expect you to live with your spouse until death do you people apart irrespective of what you are going through. May the good Lord help us.

All these rules applies in your 20s by the time as a lady you are 35+ they'll just accept anything you bring

What about religion? You can't marry a girl because she's a Muslim and you're a Christian

subtlemee:
All these rules applies in your 20s by the time as a lady you are 35+ they'll just accept anything you bring

Lol, you are so very ON POINT!

Some families even see churches as an obstacle.. they're redeemed we re Catholic.. we can't marry them.. i mean.. isn't it the same God ?.. 

Food For thought!

Priscy01:
Read his instructive writeup and share your thoughts;
"Nigerian families destroyed most marriages Shar..
From tribe, to jealousy, to insecurity.. it's terrible..
A sister feels her brother is being jazzed by his wife because he bought her a car..
But she's keeping malice with her own husband because he hasn't done same for her

Most mother's want to overwork your wife to be to see if she's the one for you.. but be quick to advice her own daughter not to let her in-laws use her as a servant.. why ?

A father believes his son should be constantly sending him money not considering the fact that he has his own family to cater for.. and eventually when he doesn't have to give, they go with the narrative that he's spending on the in-laws more.. then the bad blood starts rolling

Families will tell their male kids not to marry a poor girl that doesn't have anything she's doing.. same families will caution their jobless daughter to only marry a rich man that can take care of her very well..why's that ?

A Yoruba girl would rather settle for a TUNDE with four to five girlfriends than an EBUKA who is a proper loyal gentleman, because she's has the orientation that nothing good will come out from dating the latter.. it's more like a song for them when they were younger. Tribe!!!

Every other family is not clean.. you'll take their names to several pastors for prayer before you decide if they can marry your child.. but did you equally take names of your own family members ?

In my town, we were made to believe that all ESAN people are witches and troublesome, that we can't marry them.. hardly will you see a delta man who's married to an ESAN woman. Hardly.. my same people dislike igbo's because they believe they're ritualists.. but what re we ?

Some families even see churches as an obstacle.. they're redeemed we re Catholic.. we can't marry them.. i mean.. isn't it the same God ?.. someone said to his son, even if it's an slowpoke I don't mind as long as she's from our town.. LoL. Really ?

Me for one never really cared about anyone I settled with.. as long as she brings me peace and makes me happy.. be her Yoruba, Igbo, efik, Tiv or idoma.. even igala and ebira.. but the family factor always plays in my head.. it's terrible. �

One of my best relationship was from a Kaduna girl.. about 4yrs older than me... Her name was arashiiaa.. she was near perfect, matured and peaceful.. the day I told my uncles about her was the day they talked me out of the relationship.. we no go fit go that side they said �

-dem too dey spoil.. she old pass you sef. Abeg go fine better girl.. everyone had flaws but us.. now If u decide to say Bleep all and go against them.. the world will turn on you when life goes south on issues which aren't even relating.. smh"

https://www.torimill.com/2018/07/man-writes-on-how-some-families-have-destroyed-the-marriages-of-their-loved-ones.html

Lalasticlala Mynd44 Dominique

The bolded is so true.

Unfortunately.

what abou age difference??
so many things have ruined potentially great unions

ok

Nairaland ruins marriage faster

post=69538593:
A Yoruba girl would rather settle for a TUNDE with four to five girlfriends than an EBUKA who is a proper loyal gentleman, because she's has the orientation that nothing good will come out from dating the latter.. it's more like a song for them when they were younger. Tribe!!!

TRIBALISM: one of the main problem of NIGERIA.
Why can't we live like brothers and sisters and leave alone the hate and spite?!
In ONE NIGERIA we believe.

Unfortunately this can not change anytime soon. Especially because of this social media thing.

What Nairaland, Twitter, Facebook and others are doing to relationships dis days no be here o

deepwater:
Nairaland ruins marriage faster

Lol

Priscy01:
Read his instructive writeup and share your thoughts;
"Nigerian families destroyed most marriages Shar..
From tribe, to jealousy, to insecurity.. it's terrible..
A sister feels her brother is being jazzed by his wife because he bought her a car..
But she's keeping malice with her own husband because he hasn't done same for her

Most mother's want to overwork your wife to be to see if she's the one for you.. but be quick to advice her own daughter not to let her in-laws use her as a servant.. why ?

A father believes his son should be constantly sending him money not considering the fact that he has his own family to cater for.. and eventually when he doesn't have to give, they go with the narrative that he's spending on the in-laws more.. then the bad blood starts rolling

Families will tell their male kids not to marry a poor girl that doesn't have anything she's doing.. same families will caution their jobless daughter to only marry a rich man that can take care of her very well..why's that ?

A Yoruba girl would rather settle for a TUNDE with four to five girlfriends than an EBUKA who is a proper loyal gentleman, because she's has the orientation that nothing good will come out from dating the latter.. it's more like a song for them when they were younger. Tribe!!!

Every other family is not clean.. you'll take their names to several pastors for prayer before you decide if they can marry your child.. but did you equally take names of your own family members ?

In my town, we were made to believe that all ESAN people are witches and troublesome, that we can't marry them.. hardly will you see a delta man who's married to an ESAN woman. Hardly.. my same people dislike igbo's because they believe they're ritualists.. but what re we ?

Some families even see churches as an obstacle.. they're redeemed we re Catholic.. we can't marry them.. i mean.. isn't it the same God ?.. someone said to his son, even if it's an slowpoke I don't mind as long as she's from our town.. LoL. Really ?

Me for one never really cared about anyone I settled with.. as long as she brings me peace and makes me happy.. be her Yoruba, Igbo, efik, Tiv or idoma.. even igala and ebira.. but the family factor always plays in my head.. it's terrible. �

One of my best relationship was from a Kaduna girl.. about 4yrs older than me... Her name was arashiiaa.. she was near perfect, matured and peaceful.. the day I told my uncles about her was the day they talked me out of the relationship.. we no go fit go that side they said �

-dem too dey spoil.. she old pass you sef. Abeg go fine better girl.. everyone had flaws but us.. now If u decide to say Bleep all and go against them.. the world will turn on you when life goes south on issues which aren't even relating.. smh"

https://www.torimill.com/2018/07/man-writes-on-how-some-families-have-destroyed-the-marriages-of-their-loved-ones.html

Lalasticlala Mynd44 Dominique

Because we are HYPOCRITES!
But you are too sensible. You no no say Naija and hypo are 5&6

subtlemee:
All these rules applies in your 20s by the time as a lady you are 35+ they'll just accept anything you bring

lol! Even if you bring an slowpoke.

HeWrites:


My Dad once listed the number of states I shouldn't marry from, I reminded him he had listed all the 36 states ���

he meant you should marry a white girl

Tflex01:



Unfortunately this can not change anytime soon. Especially because of this social media thing.

You have a good point here.
It's a pity.

post=69538593:
A Yoruba girl would rather settle for a TUNDE with four to five girlfriends than an EBUKA who is a proper loyal gentleman, because she's has the orientation that nothing good will come out from dating the latter.. it's more like a song for them when they were younger. Tribe!!!

TRIBALISM: one of the main problem of NIGERIA.
Why can't we live like brothers and sisters and leave alone the hate and spite?!
In ONE NIGERIA we believe.

The only time she will settle with the Ebuka is if he is Stupendously rich like that my Igbo brother who proposed to that one that kept face like praying mantis inside yatch!

Tribe

subtlemee:
All these rules applies in your 20s by the time as a lady you are 35+ they'll just accept anything you bring

you have not met some very strict parents.....very rigid...even if you are 40..they won't shift post.

baddosky1:


The only time she will settle with the Ebuka is if he is Stupendously rich!

Hmmmm, food for thought!

Welldone

When problems arise in a marriage, relatives are so in a hurry to take sides further dividing the couple.
Some are so quick to encourage the lady to leave him and come back to the house only to start chasing her again after six months: go back to your husband's house.

My village people strongly thinks Igbos eat humans

That Youruba women are promiscuous

That Hausa girls can't cook

That Bini women are extremely wicked

But me think My people are wrong

Insightful.

Sarang:

Because we are HYPOCRITES! But you are too sensible. You no no say Naija and hypo are 5&6

agree

Ukalejohn:
What about religion? You can't marry a girl because she's a Muslim and you're a Christian

That's too far. You can't even marry a Catholic while you are a Deeper life.

Real men don't adhere to such instructions, they follow their heart.

truth, I have always been told never to get close to Ibadan girls, they said they are worst in all , wherereas my most love girlfriend was Ibadan and the one that visit there frequent, they even warned me against abeokuta girls , they said there juju and destroying of man fortune no get part two and egbira girls for promicicous nature, I just weak be dey look like mumu