livinbygrace:


Igbo girls are more tribalistic than the Yorubas.You still have many Yoruba girls getting married to Ibo men,but hardly you see an Igbo girls getting married to a Yoruba man except he is rich.They tagged them Onfemanu.So mentioning Yoruba girls in such comments is meaningless and unrealistic

donstan18:
Families can only destroy a marriage of weak and unintelligent couples.


If your marriage get destroyed by your family, you are a fool and should be held responsible for allowing a third party destroy your marriage or joy.


If you know your stand in your marriage, your parents will know their boundary.

janellemonae:


I think men actually are the cause of the entitlement mentality.

Girls/women started to wise up when they saw dt their men would rather spend on some dependent side chic than them dt never ask for anything. I'm sure u see married men flying their side chicks 1st class while their families fly economy. His daughters are also watching and learning.

dopemama:
If u want ur in laws to hate you! Marry their breadwinner!... African proverb!

omooba969:


You tried but didn't make any sense whatsoever. It appears your mind is conditioned and locked in the narrative you just expressed.

Only you can set yourself free.

victorian:
If you don't believe in yourself, and stand up for yourself, u don't have your own mind and beliefs, irrespective of what parents or family or friends say, then you are finished.. They will play you , your relationship and marriage like ludo.. Until u are left empty and dry.

Last last at the end, they will blame u and say don't u have sense? Can't u think with your brain? So if I tell u to jump into fire, u will jump Abi? Abeg gerrout!
See Mumu.
Have heard such phrase before within my family.
For me! I follow my mind.

bjayx:
They ask if youre married, have kids, have a career, have cars and houses as if life is some kinda grocery list. Nobody cares to know if you're happy.

mayour16:



I hope you are happy.

boyjo:


I care. How are you doing today?Hope you`re happy?

bjayx:
They ask if youre married, have kids, have a career, have cars and houses as if life is some kinda grocery list. Nobody cares to know if you're happy.

omooba969:


You tried but didn't make any sense whatsoever. It appears your mind is conditioned and locked in the narrative you just expressed.

Only you can set yourself free.

derrydinny:
you are obviously not married. How will you react if you see your mum crying in her room and she says your wife abused her? How will you react when your wife gets angry because you believed your mother over her? How will you react when your father calls your in-law and tell them how your wife abused his wife even when she didn't? don't under estimate the role of family in your marriage bro, even marrriage counsellors divorce when the pressure of family is too much

sheettle:

LOL! The difference between what you were told and what mum tells me is that she includes Lagos girls to her own list.

alfredfrddy:

There's this general assumption that the above "grocery list" gives one happiness and so they bother less to ask about your happiness.

BabbanBura:


Very true my Brother but it all depends on us either to take this shit or not. When my mum started seeing girls outside her spec visiting me, together with her husband started shame-calling the girls' tribes, family history or region. I had to surmon the both of them for a meeting where i made it clear that the sentiment shit they are talking about can not and does not apply to me. Whoever and whereever my love is and come from provided we are of same religious and personal ideology - boom! i will wife her. They started justifying their concerns to the extent of saying "the devil you know is better than the angel you do not know". I said "Mum, Dad, i am no marrying any devil, worst case if i know she is one. I will take my chances at finding that angel i do not know". Case close, no one pressures me anymore.
One of the very reasons many buckle to this balckmail is fear of being cut off from the family. Go and succeed, damn them respectfully, and na them go come look for you later. Don't worry about that dream exotic wedding you want them to sponsor, you can do that much later when they come back to you.
Cheers

merahki:


You are rude, and threatened by my post
Why?
The answer (if you are truthful to your self) tells you everything
That One Nigeria is a scam, big one
I love Nigerians but I hate Nigeria
Deal with it Sir
And be more polite going forwards, it helps discourse and soothes the mind
Bye

Newmanluckyman:
....i understand you. But the greatest disappointment you will ever have is when the said girl comes into your life and proved exactly what your parents are scared off ab nitio. Bad xter, etc. I have come to realized that most times our parents are always right in their accessment.

BabbanBura:


Valid point my brother - my grand dad looked at a lady i introduced to him as my prospective wify. The guy tild me that this lady wont make a good wife - mind you she passed all that my perents want - same tribe, same religion, educated, respectable family (we are even family friends) - Guess what? All the signs that she won't be a good wife were obvious but i was trying to have us work on her flaws - leopard doesn't change it's spots. That relationship didn't last more than one more month, she left me. That was when everyone started telling me that my angel babe is an Olosho. Those Fridays i dey go find her in school and they will tell me she has gone for one outreach or excursion etcetera, she was out ourtreaching he pu.cy to Alhaj's.
Back to the point i want to make, before you dare your parents over a girl, be sure who you have, who that babe is. Done go and loose at both ends.
Secondly, never slam the door behind you. Even of your parents are as hard as Pharoah, you can, with persistence, logically walk your lady into their hearts. You can employ other resources such as Pastors/imams, Relations that have gotten to know the lady better and believe in her, family friends and friends of your parents. If your lady or guy is worth having, you can weather the hardest rock to have her / him. Wisdom, Logic, persistence, persuation should be the strategy.

donstan18:
Families can only destroy a marriage of weak and unintelligent couples.


If your marriage get destroyed by your family, you are a fool and should be held responsible for allowing a third party destroy your marriage or joy.


If you know your stand in your marriage, your parents will know their boundary.

derrydinny:
you are obviously not married. How will you react if you see your mum crying in her room and she says your wife abused her? How will you react when your wife gets angry because you believed your mother over her? How will you react when your father calls your in-law and tell them how your wife abused his wife even when she didn't? don't under estimate the role of family in your marriage bro, even marrriage counsellors divorce when the pressure of family is too much

Grupo:


All you listed will only happen if you live in your family house with your wife.

As a man, endeavor to move away from your family house before getting married. Else, you will face some problems in your marriage, irrespective of where you married from.

donstan18:
Families can only destroy a marriage of weak and unintelligent couples.


If your marriage get destroyed by your family, you are a fool and should be held responsible for allowing a third party destroy your marriage or joy.


If you know your stand in your marriage, your parents will know their boundary.

baddosky1:


The only time she will settle with the Ebuka is if he is Stupendously rich like that my Igbo brother who proposed to that one that kept face like praying mantis inside yatch!

derrydinny:
what if your mum comes to visit you when your wife puts to bed or she can't?

oruma19:
same Naija families will celebrate their 25 year old son that brings in a 65 year old white lady for marriage...all in the name of yahoo yahoo, green card etc.. i saw one boarding the plane with me on the 10th of this month from warri to lagos,..i just laughed beacause if the lady was a nigerian the family would never agree. well , wetin concern me..