This is from a close friend. Your candid advise is needed plzzz.




what do i do? My boyfriend has impregnated another lady but he said it is me that he wants to marry?

U 've to ask urself, Can u cope with a polygamous familly?if ur answer is no, then dump him ASAP , 'cos most definately he's gon cheat on u when u're married. .
Ink where u @? Ur opinion is needed!

Candid advc. Leave him move on its a boyfrnd nt husbnd. I knw its nt easy but let go. If he wnts u he wnt b bleepin witout playin safe. Except u desire polygamy.

lol, phemmy88 my dear I was tryin to avoid answerin. I'll be back later with a answer, Gbemyte's answer sounds good to me.

When you fail to do your work, another lady did it for you.

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shut up FOOL. leave her alone.

Let him choose btw you and the gurl

He got another woman pregnant and you're still asking questions? Na wa o.

If you marry him and he continues to get other women pregnant during the course of your marriage, don't even complain, na you cause am in the first place.

MOBO444:

When you fail to do your work, another lady did it for you.

rotflmao.

Poster,
let the guy be, there are other guys out there.

Thank u guyz for ur responses, i have forwarded it to her. I am still expecting more

If u guys are not far from each other and u don't deny him s3x, move on. He has obviously been investing his sem£n in so many holes. It's not easy, dear. Be strong.

^^^ So if they are far apart that justifies him getting another woman pregnant?? Jeeez!

@ Poster

You friend's bf is very irresponsible and the earlier she realizes it the better. He's having sex with oda women without protection, what about stds?

It's like once a guy mentions the word 'marriage' girls become dumb!

Really!!!!!!!
Just move on with your life because it is almost certain that he has been messing around with other chicks.For him to even continue making noises about getting married to you means that he does not feel he has done anything wrong. It could even be that his friends could have been warning him about his actions and he would be like, Guys,forget it.I have this chick in my palm.I would just control her and everything would be fine. So just bone him because at the end of the day,you'll find out that the guy would just leave you for the lady who is pregnant especially if he is from the east and the lady in question happens to give birth to a boy.Then you'll have to start all over again and with a shattered heart so just cut your losses and leave him.

@Uju, was that the only thing you saw? And since I'm "justifying" infidelity, what is the bottomline of my post? Free me jor. . .

Depending on the sequence of the incident,

If he impregnated the girl WHILE THEY WERE DATING, I would suggest she pay attention to the red flag because any man that dates a woman that he wants to marry but impregnate another does not respect the woman he claim to "propose for marriage". Then again, it highly up to her to deal with the fact that her future husband has a child by another woman. Do she want to deal with the baby momma bullchit that comes along with it or do she rather have her own man to herself?

Most women cant deal with sharing their men rather it sexual or platonic, BUT INDIVIDUALLY SPEAKING, HOW DOES SHE FEEL ABOUT THE SITUATION AND CAN SHE DEAL WITH IT? IF SHE CANT, RUN!

MOBO444:

When you fail to do your work, another lady did it for you.

u nid a special deliverance

Inked_Nerd:

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shut up FOOL. leave her alone.

seconded

Ujujoan:

^^^ So if they are far apart that justifies him getting another woman pregnant?? Jeeez!

@ Poster

You friend's bf is very irresponsible and the earlier she realizes it the better. He's having sex with oda women without protection, what about stds?

It's like once a guy mentions the word 'marriage' girls become dumb!

Guess Ujujoan is ok with the man sleeping with another lady while having a serious relationship, but frown at the stupidity of him not protecting himself and indirectly the lady?

How lucky ur man is? He is free to bleep any lady if and only if he will use raincoat. How I wish I have somebody like u as girlfriend?


Back to topic,

The lady should run. The man is not serious at all.

I saw your complain on Nairaland and i think i should say something. U see, you should be lucky that it is not after your wedding that he impregnated another woman. So God has purposely allow that to happen so that you can see the true colour of your boyfriend. In the nutshell, he doesn't love you and the two of you are not compatible for marriage. I quite understand how painful to let all that memory to go away but you just have to let it go. It takes alot of pain to love again. You should think of letting that guy get behind you. Yesterday is gone and this is new you now. START A NEW LIFE AGAIN.
If you want more counseling, here is my private number: +2348069152021. I am Nelson.

ile olorogun ile ariwo, watch ur back.

all that you need to know has been written; fleeeeeeeeeeeeeee

ilev4all:

I saw your complain on Nairaland and i think i should say something. U see, you should be lucky that it is not after your wedding that he impregnated another woman. So God has purposely allow that to happen so that you can see the true colour of your boyfriend. In the nutshell, he doesn't love you and the two of you are not compatible for marriage. I quite understand how painful to let all that memory to go away but you just have to let it go. It takes alot of pain to love again. You should think of letting that guy get behind you. Yesterday is gone and this is new you now. START A NEW LIFE AGAIN.
If you want more counseling, here is my private number: +2348069152021. I am Nelson.

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Sorry ohh Nelson, why not counsel her on this forum so that other people who falls into this category can also learn. Well, I hope the op understand where I am heading to.

if u love ur guy this time to be close to him. be by him. accept the child as urs

ice234:

if u love your guy this time to be close to him. be by him. accept the child as urs

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Absolute rubbish.

How many ears do you have? if its two fleeeeeeeeeeeeee and look for your own husband. If he were your husband I will advise you in other ways but hmmmmmmmmmmm. You have no kids for him you are not married to him God has just saved you from a lifetime of wahala. Because that child will be your boyfriend's and men's children come before any other person even their parents.

If you decide he cant see that child he will hate you if you carry on with him in you have signed a lifetime of endurance. There is all possiblity that he will carry on sleeping with that woman cos they share a child.

My sister you dont want to look back in a few years and say to your self and I was told. Life is how you take it chose to be happy.

All the best. Despite horror stories you will get thru this and find a man that will worship you and love you .

ice234:

if u love your guy this time to be close to him. be by him. accept the child as urs

wat child, child wey in mama still they alive. y r u so sure d pregnant woman isn't looking to marry the guy, they r not even married yet for God's sake n u asking her to accept anoda ladies child as hers. there must be sometin about this guy dat iis making u think twice b4 leaving him, I guess he rich,,,,,,, women n money.

MOBO444:

When you fail to do your work, another lady did it for you.

Guy u no well at all . . . . So dat is d best advice dat u have to offer to som1 dat is goin thru alot on her head?

ilev4all:

If you want more counseling, here is my private number: +2348069152021. I am Nelson.

I dey feel u guy, carry on, nothin do u!

*HARD ROD COUNSELIN IS THE BEST*

This is one side story let here from the other side be4 we throw arrows and bomb.

As for the Poster, we wil love to here from the otherside.

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wetin u wan hia from d oda side?

Say na d poster fren geh d pikin abi wetin?

Ti e ga gan o!

@ poster i have similer experience, infact very fresh in my memory. it so so hurt to quit, expecially when u love the person, but notwithstanding, there's nothing more than having peace and rest of mind in one united family, just trust ur God, u will vercome the trauma, just  give it some times, indulge in some wholesome activities then u l gain new live.

Say goodbye and wish him all the best! There is decent man out there who will love you enough to be faithful to you (as you are faithful to him)! Thank God you are not already married to him!