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Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by ezeagu(m): 11:56pm On Sep 24, 2010 |
A-ZeD: Are you sure you're replying to the post you quoted? Reference: Let me just say now that is not my business who anybody chooses to marry, my issue is the notion that inter-ethnic marriages 'force' ethnic harmony, just to clear that up for anybody. Okay, you have to understand that there's a difference between being an immigrant and having two indigenous homelands clipped and bounded together, that whoever those black people in Europe are getting higher positions, doesn't mean that they will go to the town hall meeting, city hall, etc and start to be speaking Igbo or some other language; these immigrants have to assimilate to, which brings me to the point that I have always made, the indigenous/dominant culture. Every country needs one, and from observation, you will see that every country (and that is every single one of them) without a dominant culture is failed or declining, or non existent (Yugoslavia), Nigeria is no different, no matter how much inter-ethnic mixing that so many countries, kingdoms and empires have already tried, nothing will unite a country like a dominant culture, it's obvious. Nigeria has three broad dominant cultures battling it out in every section of the country. Anyway this is for another thread. The point is that inter-ethnic mixing doesn't create a nation, culture does. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:48am On Sep 25, 2010 |
ChinenyeN: Very true. But the chances for all those disadvantages to occur is farrrrr greater than in intra-tribal marriages. Just spend some time with both side of the family, inlaws etc, before getting married. Know who you're dealing with. @post Can think of one advantage. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by akwaowoudo(m): 2:57am On Sep 25, 2010 |
Tolulop001:Ambiguity _ . . . moving on with the girl or with another. ezeagu: |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 3:08am On Sep 25, 2010 |
Billsmith: Eyah. . . . sorry eh. Just try to get over her. How old is she? If she's a woman, how can they still be beating her up for seeing you? |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by akwaowoudo(m): 3:17am On Sep 25, 2010 |
ezeagu:I need the source of your information. Be it from encyclopaedia, "your survey" is wrong. Have a re-check of the last census data of women in Nigeria and tell me how the duo lead. There are many more prominent and independent women from Nigeria representing well in their endeavours. Extending a little, what can you say of the first female university vice chancellor in Nigeria? 1 Like |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by akwaowoudo(m): 3:42am On Sep 25, 2010 |
Ileke-IdI:Abeg, i need explanation on " . . . If she is a woman . . . As you portray, what powers does she have towards the situation? |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 3:53am On Sep 25, 2010 |
akwaowoudo:Did you get bored and decided to quote me for argument purpose? "If she's a woman" and "how old is she?" should be clues enough. How can her sisters be beating up an at-marriageable-aged woman for seeing a man? The worst they could do is talk to her harshly or disown her. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by tpiah: 4:29am On Sep 25, 2010 |
Example: quarter theirs you mean. since their mum was half hausa. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by tpiah: 4:30am On Sep 25, 2010 |
Billsmith: this is definitely a gigantic lie. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by akwaowoudo(m): 4:41am On Sep 25, 2010 |
Ileke-IdI:You've said nothing _ i still insist on "if she is a woman". Explain. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Omokemesi(m): 4:51am On Sep 25, 2010 |
I am enjoying and learning from your contributions, patriotic Nigerians. I believe other viewers are learning too. But is it not possible for a damsel to outrightly disregard the wish of her parents not to risk inter-tribal marriage? Any repercussion? Please, carry on, fellow Nigerians! |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by tpiah: 4:55am On Sep 25, 2010 |
the ekiti ibadan guy. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by johndavid1(m): 10:14am On Sep 25, 2010 |
tpiah:you sure say na lie? because e fit happen oh |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 10:18am On Sep 25, 2010 |
ChinenyeN:Well as I said you can't just be generalising and saying things like "current societal views". That is just too vague. It mostly depends on the man himself and how courageous he is too stand up to his relatives and potential inlaws. Anyway this is not a new thing but in fact has always been happening since Nigeria came into existence. There is nothing new or revolutionary about it. After all people like IBB from Niger State had a long and sucessful marriage even though his wife was from far distant Delta State. You are kidding yourself if you think inter-state marriage it is not widespread in Nigeria today. To be fair though, a man whose profession takes him across the country is more likely to engage in this type of marriage compared to someone who has never left his home state. 1 Like |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 10:27am On Sep 25, 2010 |
Omokemesi:Again not every parent is prejudiced against people from outside their village. Some are very prejudiced. But it is up to the couple to stand up and persuade these kinds of parents to ditch their prejudices and unwise stereotypes. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by sleekch1c(f): 12:13pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
i think if u really want to be together,just pray about it and the inlaws will come around afterall,marriage involves only two partners and the families shld knw their place!
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Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Tolulop001(f): 2:35pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
akwaowoudo:nope! moving on is moving on! to the next of course! akwaowoudo: 'if she's a woman', as in she is not a young girll that should be beaten up anyhow what is ur own with english self |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by PrinceBYC: 3:19pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
akwaowoudo: This plain and simple! My understanding of 'Woman' in her post was if the lady is above 24 at least Do yu expect parent/guardian to be beating up a Lady of this age range for hanging out with a guy? |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by ChinenyeN(m): 3:37pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
Really, tensor. . Generalizing? So is it no longer true that our society is one that asks "who is your father?" |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 5:19pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
PrinceBYC: Tolulop001: That's why I asked him if his purpose of quoting me was for an unnecessary argument. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 5:22pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
tensor777: Some parent would actually disown their own before they ditch their prejudices. And I think most of their acions has to do with public criticism. "Se o moh iya iyabo, omo Igbo ni omo e lo gbe wa le. " 1 Like |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by tpiah: 6:46pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
john david: its a mighty and boldfaced lie. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 8:27pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
ChinenyeN:As I have said before you have not yet come out and boldly stated YOUR OWN views on inter-state marriages. You keep on hiding behind what the "society" may say. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 8:33pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
Ileke-IdI:Well you can't just come out with such a blanket statement. Maybe its their very prejudices that makes them take account of what other prejudiced people may say. Those that are liberal, by their very nature, would not really care about those types of caustic remarks. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by ezeagu(m): 9:12pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
Ileke-IdI: Your children may be a bit less ignorant of other cultures. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by ChinenyeN(m): 9:17pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
I'm really confused as to what you're trying to get at, tensor. How am I 'hiding' behind truth? Also, my thoughts on the matter have already been expressed in this topic. Wait, I think I see the problem. We're here jumbling up two separate topics. Ethnic/Tribal Sentiment & [Dis]advantages of Inter-Tribal Marriage. Let me make things clearer for you then. In terms of the [dis]advantages, inter-tribal marriages aren't much different from other marriages, if at all. In terms of ethnic/tribal sentiment, those still run strong in our society. There's no denying that. Ileke-IdI:True @ the Italicized, but it still takes us back to the bolded. And it's because of the bolded that I stated the below. ChinenyeN: |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 9:51pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
kcjazz: Isn't it normal to feel uncomfortable with people you are just meeting for the first time? As you get to know each other over time, won't that uncomfy feeling disappear? Is that not how life is? New food What is particularly so new about Nigerian food? Rice, beans, garri, plantain, yam etc, don't we all eat them? If at all there are distinctions, is it not only soups? |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 11:39pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
ezeagu:That can be done without marrying from other tribes. Immigration dey, internet dey, etc. tensor777:LOL True true. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Iyineda(m): 11:52pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
I am a result of an "inter-tribal" union. That alone overshines the negs. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by sandee575(f): 11:54pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
There is a biological advantage in inter-tribal marriage. Your off-springs have better chances of having superior genetics. |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 11:58pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
sandee575:Oh dear!!! Iyineda:What tribes would that be? Just curious 1 Like |
Re: Advantages And Disadvantages Of Inter-tribal Marriage by AloyEmeka5: 3:30am On Sep 26, 2010 |
tpiah: Maryam Babangida was half hausa?. Maryam whose mother was interviewed during her funeral was half hausa?. If her mother is Igbo and her siblings are Igbo and their father was from Asaba, how was she half hausa? 1 Like |
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