My wife has been really helpful from when we started dating, she has actually taken me from grass to grace and helped me from a self contained to a 3bedroom flat. She has been helping with house expenses for over a year now, I do work but my salary is very small, just around 60k.

She is into business which flourished so much but it's a little down for now. She helped made our marriage possible by contributing far more than i. She is every woman's dream and is even poised to help me secure a better job and a side business.

I have also contributed my part in helping her grow her business though not financially but through technical support, expert advice and more as she just started her business the very month we started dating but though in a small way with very little capital.

I feel I have over burdened her with my own problem and she is carrying way too much on her shoulders cos her parents and siblings are also depending on her.
I felt a pinch of her frustration when I asked her if she could help transfer a little sum of 200 naira to me for airtime, she was about doing it when I told her I actually wanted to send the amount as airtime to my dad,then she flared up saying she will take care of me, herself and even my parents! I felt bad and terrible cos I rarely ask her for money to send to my people except on very rare occasions which are but a few.

I kept mute and didn't feel like talking to her and we haven't exchanged a proper conversation since last night when it happened.

What do I do? Even when I try to initiate a conversation, she doesn't seem interested

Money is the problem make money and all your problems are solved

Is a personal issue bro solve this issue by ur self not to bring ur family issue to nairaland u are man bro

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My dear your wife is stressed. Try and double your hustle you too. If your wife has really achieved this much and has been very supportive from your narration indeed she's a wife material.

Pls try and get an additional income biko...the situation of the country presently isn't something for someone to just be lazy or dependent on one source of income.


Pls reason with her biko

Guy, you know what to do. She's your wife dammit!

If you need public opinion on how to tackle malice then you have no business getting married in the first place.

Thanks guys please I don't want this on front page

now you are trying to be an ingrate, you are not even shameful enough that a woman is catering for you, you now want to prove a man to your family with her money. SMH! tell them you don't have money and stop adding to the woman's stress.

go and pet your wife and you find for 200 naira to send to your father, atleast, must she do everything for you, atleast grow some balls, you are not a baby that she will be spoon feeding, you be adult, if you get car do uber or taxify to add to your salary.

Hw is she d one catering for u wen u earn 60k monthly..

Wetin u dey use ur 60k do?


Wen i said i rather remain single for life dan get married wit a 60k income u pple thought i woz joking baa.

U see y I tell people that Business is more profitable than white collar jobs......
Bro ur wife has challenged u to step up ur game
Y not start looking for a Business and start......
With little time u blossom highest six months
Bro u don't reason...
Y cant u think of if them no pay me nd my wife no go shop means say we no go chop...
Start to look for a business now to start up.......
Because if not u will do more harm not only to ur wife but to ur generation yet unborn

xendra:
now you are trying to be an ingrate, you are not even shameful enough that a woman is catering for you, you now want to prove a man to your family with her money. SMH! tell them you don't have money and stop adding to the woman's stress.

Too harsh

Op, biko, what do you use your 60k For?

xendra:
now you are trying to be an ingrate, you are not even shameful enough that a woman is catering for you, you now want to prove a man to your family with her money. SMH! tell them you don't have money and stop adding to the woman's stress.

ah ah madam take am easy. why u dey para pass him wife onto dis matter?

OP just give it time, wiffy is probably stressed up please try to ease some of her burden by working extra hard. God ll see you through

Ur amu is small,ur money is small
Y do u marry?

Mk money ma friend or she will fork everybodi

Your wife is the head of your family in as much as she takes the major financial responsibility of that house. It can be frustrating at times, saddling the burden of the both families. She's a strong woman and must be appreciated. You need to make more money to take back your leadership role in your home. I know, there are some decisions both of you need to make but if your wife disagrees, it won't work out.Your wife can not be totally submissive to you, let be frank here. You're too lazy to make more money.

Embrace and pet your wife, her unsavoury outburst notwithstanding. She simply acted on impulse of stress/frustration. After making peace with her, you can then calmly register your displeasure towards her tactless reaction and implore her to refrain from doing such next time. . . she could have easily turned down your request instead of rattling you with tactless reaction.

Citing your submission, on a general note, both of you're responsible, despite your financial limitations at the moment. Keep on putting in your best.

Why marry when u no fit afford am. 200 card kwa

emerald16:
My wife has been really helpful from when we started dating, she has actually taken me from grass to grace and helped me from a self contained to a 3bedroom flat. She has been helping with house expenses for over a year now, I do work but my salary is very small, just around 60k. She is into business which flourished so much but it's a little down for now. She helped made our marriage possible by contributing far more than i. She is every woman's dream and is even poised to help me secure a better job and a side business.
I have also contributed my part in helping her grow her business though not financially but through technical support, expert advice and more as she just started her business the very month we started dating but though in a small way with very little capital.
I feel I have over burdened her with my own problem and she is carrying way too much on her shoulders cos her parents and siblings are also depending on her.
I felt a pinch of her fustration when I asked her if she could help transfer a little sum of 200 naira to me for airtime, she was about doing it when I told her I actually wanted to send the amount as airtime to my dad,then [/b]she flared up saying she will take care of me, herself and even my parents![b] I felt bad and terrible cos I rarely ask her for money to send to my people except on very rare occasions which are but a few.
I kept mute and didn't feel like talking to her and we haven't exchanged a proper conversation since last night when it happened. What do I do? Even when I try to initiate a conversation, she doesn't seem interested

Make I park here first, cos this is going to front page.

Modified: I said it

Deepfeel:
Money is the problem make money and all your problems are solved

You are right. Money is the problem here.

may God help u Op... try double your hustle...and about your lovely wife, she will come around

Your wife is a good woman. Try and play your part

When someone says marrying on that kind of salary is not advisable, they will say we are materialistic.

Imagine if a child is involved. You will know that it's not about being prudent or being a wife material.

Meanwhile, on this forum, a guy has been urged on to get married on a 40k salary. You guys should tell yourself the truth and stop hiding under "a good woman will manage"

This is real life, real expenses.

ImaIma1:
When someone says marrying on that kind of salary is not advisable, they will say we are materialistic.

Imagine if a child is involved. You will know that it's not about being prudent or being a wife material.

Meanwhile, on this forum, a guy has been urged on to get married on a 40k salary. You guys should tell yourself the truth and stop hiding under "a good woman will manage"

This is real life, real expenses.

there is this Nigerian mentality that once you are married all financial problems will be solved by saying God will provide, the same mentality also goes for having a child.

there is nothing like starting small when it comes to marriage, you better have the money saved up to have a family.

chinchonglee:
Hw is she d one catering for u wen u earn 60k monthly..

Wetin u dey use ur 60k do?


Wen i said i rather remain single for life dan get married wit a 60k income u pple thought i woz joking baa.

people are doing great things with that same amount and you are here complaining.

hope reality doesn't hit you hard when you start using pension to pay school fees

ImaIma1:
When someone says marrying on that kind of salary is not advisable, they will say we are materialistic.

Imagine if a child is involved. You will know that it's not about being prudent or being a wife material.

Meanwhile, on this forum, a guy has been urged on to get married on a 40k salary. You guys should tell yourself the truth and stop hiding under "a good woman will manage"

This is real life, real expenses.

it is possible, if one can't manage a small amount , when a larger sum comes he or she will say the same story.

some guys earn 200k monthly but can't boast of any savings and yet they complain it's too small

There is something called little beginnings and it seems most of these others human beings above me don't believe in that.

Well, as for advice, I dont think you should overwork yourself over this issue sir, things as this kind of disagreement have their ways of easing out by themselves without us having to try.

But where is lalasticlala sef

jeff1607:



it is possible, if one can't manage a small amount , when a larger sum comes he or she will say the same story.

some guys earn 200k monthly but can't boast of any savings and yet they complain it's too small

I completely agree with you with a little addition. Secret101; Saving alone does not make a difference. It is stacking the cash and re-investing that makes the money grow wings.