I am curious to what anyone thinks on this subject.

Ok

What prevents you from being the first wife?

Inked_Nerd:

Are you asking me or nikki4848dd?

Thats for nikki4848dd.

r u a muslim? if yes . . .carry go.


otherwise, it's left for u to decide . . not us. If ur comfy, watz stoppin u? Keep in mind tho" dat he prolly wont stop @ u. Enjoy being d freshest wifey while it lasts.

I don't want to be anybody's second wife, Muslim, Christian or anything else!

Creamish:

r u a muslim? if yes . . .carry go.


otherwise, it's left for u to decide . . not us. If your comfy, watz stoppin u? Keep in mind tho" dat he prolly wont stop @ u. Enjoy being d freshest wifey while it lasts.

True talk. important thg is u know wat u r getting into, after that, it's ur prerogative.

Never! i can neva be a second fiddle to any man~

I can never settle for a second place whether the person is Muslim or not.

and BTW I am a Muslim.

Polygamus family? Never would i advice any single lady to try such cos u'll later end up regretting in some kind of way or the other even about your kids and it isn't certain u are going to be the second and the last wife of his house so don't believe u will get full attention from your husband for life but i'm not here to give any characteristics only for those ones with the good sense to do the math cos i believe many ladies lure themselves into it just because of the MONEY the man(alhaji) has.

Nope!

Im not a muslim but i guess its up to the individual.
No way in hell i would be one of any number of wives. I am a unique individual and fearfully and wonderfully made, not one of many!!

Not in this life!! Why will i marry a Muslim by the way

@baby.me . .

I believe its called LOVE and d last time i checked, I heard it is BLIND.

^^^Thats in your own old skool dictionary.

Love isn't blind this days anymore, love knows what s/he wants and it sees better than greyhound.

Women that involve themselves in a polygamus house have being carried away with money and luxuries the man has.

Wow interesting thoughts, but I guess it's really up to the individual that is actually involved in this type of relationship.I think there are pros and cons to this type of thing.I've heard someone tell me once.If you never open your mind to all possibilities, then you have never lived at all.Hmmmmm, something to think on,

Osama12? Nothing prevents me from being a first wife, actually, this is something that I cannot answer right now, since this is just a question I just threw out into the air.

hell no




but if i would, i ld rather be the last and selfish one

nikki4848dd:

Wow interesting thoughts, but I guess it's really up to the individual that is actually involved in this type of relationship.I think there are pros and cons to this type of thing.I've heard someone tell me once.If you never open your mind to all possibilities, then you have never lived at all.Hmmmmm, something to think on,

What kinda possibilities? So, in this day and age, there are still women who think like you? No wonder Naija is not moving forward. Are you that desperate? With all the STDs out there, you are willing to exchange body fluids with several people? So, if the first wife catches craw-craw in her p.u.n.a.n.i, after your husband is done sleeping with her, he will now pass on the p.u.n.a.n.i craw-craw faithfully to you LOL But then, what do I know? Its all about opening the mind to all possibilities including STD and AIDS! Nigeria will hail thee!

There is nothing wrong in polygamy, i think sometimes it brings healthy rivalry in both wives and sometimes it can be nasty, everything depends on the parties that are involved in this relaionship, if the husband observed justice to some extent among his wives, all parties will enjoy, but on the other hand if the husband want to be just in dealing with his wives and maybe one of the wives is the jealous and wicked one, definately the relationship will go wrong. So in a nutshell polygamy marriage has its pros and cons, but the cons are more than the pros. So one is left with any of the option. Though am not an advocate of it, but i dont see anything wrong with it, itz a matter of choice.

healthy

did u just say healthy?, there is absolutely nothing like healthy polygamy!!!

all we get is roforofo fight,bad belle and the likes

ladygaga:


did u just say healthy?, there is absolutely nothing like healthy polygamy!!!

all we get is roforofo fight,bad belle and the likes

the healthy i meant is to d advantage of the husband, as d wives will b trying all possible ways to satisfy him, because the wives will b competing among themselves to be the one that the husband will like most.

people feel second wives get all the goodies while first wives get the short end of the stick, hence some women would rather be the second wife.

however, most times especially in africa, the second wife often sees her junior wives or replacements come in not too long after the honeymoon phase.

africans are not oyibos.

Tosinville:

^^^Thats in your own old skool dictionary.

Love isn't blind this days anymore, love knows what s/he wants and it sees better than greyhound.

Women that involve themselves in a polygamus house have being carried away with money and luxuries the man has.

That statement cannot be true.  SOME women enter into such marriages for love.

Hmmm

yes, it's definitely love that makes two, three or more women shack up with a gateman who earns maybe N10,000 a month.

and at the other end of the pendulum, every woman loves a man with money.

You could be right, but being poor myself I would rather stick to my level.


@TOPIC, I would have to convert .

If he's religious I would be blessed.

madlady:

You could be right, but being poor myself I would rather stick to my level.

@TOPIC, Not against it but I would have to be very comfortable with the guy to convert though.

What do you mean by your level?