wahalaman:

Your heart is saying something to you now, may be you want to listen to your heart but if it is being nice to someone who dumped you, it all depends on what you mean by being nice... Just keep your eyes Open . if the person have true repentance, yeah u can give him one last chance. Always be ready to move on if he wants to make it a habit. You deserve a better life... abi?

cant try dat wahalaman thanks for the post

jilt! man just bone the person for life,the person doesn't worth it...man or woman

@ Adesodgi thanks pal point taken

You are still in a fragile and vulnerable mood right now, so you should minimise all contact with him. If you are going to talk to him on the phone, make sure the conversation is very brief and straight to the point. If he wants to see you, suggest you meet in a public place and this too should be a short meeting. Ensure all contact with him is on your terms, and stick to it.

Anything further than this would be inviting trouble and could create a "sex with the ex" situation which will hurt more if he leaves again. Don't allow him to take advantage of you, otherwise it would become a situation of why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.

If he wants to be your friend, fine, but you really have to be strong before you allow him back into your life and make sure it is on your own terms.

If he wants to get back with you, start off as friends first, using the opportunity to find out why he left in the first place and whether he would not do the same again. If you have any feeling to question the reasons he gives you as to why he left, make sure your heart is satisfied with the answer before you take the plunge. Don't make any excuses on his behalf. For example, It is common for girls to make excuses for men like maybe he didn't call because he was busy, he doesn't take me out because he's not the romantic type, etc. Always let him explain himself annd make sure your heart is satisfied with the answer.

A word of advice I always give to my friend is that A BUYER WOULD NEVER PAY MORE THAN A SELLER IS DEMANDING. This simply means that when you go to the market, you never pay more than the cost price, instead you try to get the seller to reduce the price. The same is true for men, never lower your standard for them and don't let them get away wiith not treating you right, as once they start, they would never stop, because they have the assurance that "she loves me and she will never leave no matter what i do.

not da least bit nice
infact be very mean 2 him what does he take u 4?
dont give him da feeling dat u want him back
he left u without a backward glance,whats his beef now?

you guys can be friends but don't allow him to get closer to you just watch him from aafar and know what he wants.maybe he has changed for good or still his old self.all the best.

Well you can be as nice a mouse is to a cat. This is a proverb, hope you get what am trying to pass across.

very nice

dont even try it because season to dey always bad pass season 1 for movie and remember life's like a movie once u try it the she comes back wif full force knowin all d weak pts and workin hard on it damn it might take u another 20yrs be4 u know wat u r into becose gals always wanna get even wit em men watch out else u get hit by a mack moving @ 180 mtrs per min

hey gurl,dis z all abt u n wat u want.b4 acceptin 2 b frends wit d guy,reason out his gud n bad attributes,can u stand being deceivd lured in2 a relatnship den dumpd again?cos dats wat most guys though nt all, do.wish u d bst

just forget hi ass. When you see him pretend you have never met him. No time to hear why he broke up coz honey he did lv after all. No time to he his victim twice. Life is too short. Just forget he ever existed. If he says hi, you say bye

The OP would have been married now with same guys sef and y'all still advising

naijadiva: If you hate his guts, then why be friends with him? Just because he wants it? What about what you want? Do you know why he walked out on the relationship? If it's because he's a dog, he's probably trying to find some way back into your life. If you want to get over it, confront him and find out why he did it. When you've found your peace of mind, move on and forget him. I don't think you should be friendly with him only because in most situations like that, people end up messing around again and they're probably not even in a relationship this time. Feelings get involved and someone ends up getting hurt.

GBAM!

DEKING3:

Whether you believe it or not, if you hate someone so much and still think about her often, she rules a great portion of your life.

Think!!!

very true o,but sometimes we just can`t help it.

truthhurts:

i wont be so daft to be won back to him cos now i know better, but you do have a point i think about him so often but its really not wat you think all i think about is revenge i need to get back @ him somehow

REVENGE is like you drinking poison and expecting someone else to die,so just forgive him and move on with your life.

It wasn`t mean`t to be.

truthhurts:
he walked out of the relationship without a backward glance and now he is trying to be friendly. wat do i do? need your candid advise dear friendz

ignore him.

truthhurts:


i wont be so daft to be won back to him cos now i know better, but you do have a point i think about him so often but its really not wat you think all i think about is revenge i need to get back @ him somehow

this too shall pass.

Simple, put him in the friendzone.