Is there any pleasure or sensation u derive in disvirgining a lady because i've com 2 observe dat if g man discovas a woman is a virgin al his intentions wud b aimed at disvirgining d lady.i just want 2 know weda its d same pleasure u experience having sex with a non virgin and a virgin.and den do u feel some kind of bond or closeness with d woman u disvirgined (if u arent marid 2 ha) cos frm observation women sim 2 b more atached 2 d very 1st man dat introduced dem 2 sex.so men let me read ur views wot do u say bout dis

Well,some people will say a virgin's virg-na is tighter, And though sex to man can be just that-sex. Men have this (animalistic?) ability to have sex with someone they dont have feelings for. It's not our fault,it's just the way we're wired, You know they say a man is a physical being. Most women have sex with someone they really like and think they might have a future with.
I know some guys like virgins just so they can deflower them. It's not fair,but it happens. So if you're a virgin,shut your legs! Except if you sef wan' do. But a guy that really loves you will NEVER ask you to sleep with him if you DON'T want to.

God bless you@naija,sex should be within marriage

Though bear it in mind that 'should' is a subjective word. Some people might not share your opinion,

@ naijaboy so u min its very posible 4 a man 2 disvirgin a woman he doesnt luv or doesnt av any serious intentions 4 ha despite d fact dat he's aware dat d woman luvs him.so 2 him sex is just lyk any oda daily activity there's no extra sensation or hula bula bout breakin in2 a woman d way a woman takes it

@poster. I dont mean  every guy is like. It is just possible that some guys could be like that. Please dont mistunderstand me o! I'm sure your own boyfriend isnt like that. Infact,why are you asking sef? Do you want to share your story?

kulyie:

@ naijaboy so u min its very posible 4 a man 2 disvirgin a woman he doesnt luv or doesnt av any serious intentions 4 ha despite d fact dat he's aware dat d woman luvs him.so 2 him sex is just lyk any oda daily activity there's no extra sensation or hula bula bout breakin in2 a woman d way a woman takes it

I'm not a guy, but I agree with 1naijaboy.  It has been my experience that it's just that newness of a no other guy being there and being the first to take her innocence. And having that "tight" feel. But some not knowingly it will be just as good, if not better if the woman is in-tuned and educated with her body enough by knowing how to exercise those PC (pubococcygeus) muscles.

@OP, from ur post, I guess u r tryin to justify allowin ur bf to disflower u, my answer is "if in doubt run away" dnt get cajoled wit d sweet limerics, dnt get carried by emotions.

@ naija boy lolz!my younger sis was in a dilema n she's so in2 d guy.howeva frm d luk of tins it sims lyk d guy just wants 2 take advantage of ha naievity plus dats ha very 1st relatnshp.i told ha nt 2 slip wit him yet.let ha know wosop bt she's rily feelin tempted cos d guys turnin ha on n she's at ha peak (i min a situatn in which evry woman reaches d height of ha sexual tensn n cant take it any more,if u pas dat stage n u r stil a virgin kul,if nt al wel n gud) anywayz i wantd info/advice frm a guys perspectiv so i can advice ha.u know men can b funy.bt it sims lyk she's rily searchin 4 a gud guy n wants 2 giv evrytin 2 av a relatnshp bt sumtin tels me d dude has sumtin up his slivs.bt u know i want 2 stat treatin ha lyk an adult.i want ha 2 make ha mistakes so she can learn.

I'll tell u this. If he loves her 4 real and sees a future ahead for both of 'em, he'll wait. Mind u, if he deflowers her and bolts off, d man ur sis will end up marying may not love her as much as he wuld hav if he married her a virgin. This line of tot is however not a general rule.

Ok i get u guys.thanks so much 4 al ur contributions.i'l definetly invite my sis in2 dis thread 2 read ur views hasef so she'l know wot she's getin in2. 2ndly i also want 2 ask y do men make women bliv dat dey actualy luv dem dats y dey want 2 av sex wit dem.dey make women bliv dat dey luv n find dem sexualy atractiv meanwhile dey dnt av any intentions 2 mary dem.dey just want 2 date dem 4 sex n wen dey r tired zoom of 2 d next.y r dey fond of dat suprisinly its comon among marid men dan single men or engaged men

@kulyie. Oya tell us your own experience, Give us the gist,

@ naija boy Wel i'm stil waiting 4 mr right 2 find me (dat doesnt min i want a perfect man,bt at least some1 dat'l b lyk a friend n bro) anywayz i've dated a guy dat was threatning me dat if i dnt alow him sleep with me he's goin 2 live me 4 anoda chic n i shudnt complain if i c him wit anoda chic.i told him he can go 2 hel.i dnt even know wot he tinks he is.if u rily luv me n u know u cant wait 2 av sex wit me den u can engage me n do d formal intro at home aftral u av a steady income job n am doin my post graduate degree n he said al dat doesnt mata.even if he engages me its nt a sign 2 prove he luvs me.i waz so mad at him cos he was talkin lyk he was talkin 2 sum 14 yr old gal.anywayz i just hised got out of his bed (cos he woz almost bout slipin wit me) n told him neva 2 cal me or com 2 my rum.d dude stil went ahead 2 report me 2 my friends n he even told dem dat since kemi canot gime wot i want anoda gal wi n am alredy planin 2 break up wit ha.naija boy,i dint waste tym b4 he came 2 me dat he was no longer interestd in d relatnshp i caled him ova d fone n ended it there.he tot i woz just makin empty threats,he stil came 2 beg n i drove him out of my rum.o'boy since den he hasnt caled or askd of me,me sef i dint giv 2 fuks bout him.dats my story since den many guys dat com just com n try me bt wen dey c she's nt givin in dey take a walk.now i've com 2 realise frm my personal experience dat any man dat luvs a woman sincerely wil relate wit ha as a friend,big bro,n patner nt dat dey wont av cause 2 disagre o,bt afta d disagrement dey undastand demselves beta n posibly trip out.DEY DNT END D DISAGREMENT IN BED! So naija boy can i read ur story lolz!

@kulyie, don't blame some men for demanding sex to cement a relationship cos sometimes experinces ur friends have makes u to be more careful, like a friend of mine who dated a girl for 3 good yrs with all the promise and story of if u love me u'll not be eager for sex, we can be friends then later we'll do, we should leave it until we get engaged or married and the guy thought all these while he had found a good girl to settle down with only to find out after 3 yrs that she has been sleewping around with other men even some of his friends. Would u blame him 4 not buying a similar 'no sex' story from a girl he might date in the future?

The way i see it, except u are a virgin, if i'm not doin it to u, then someone is doin it to u, period. There are no two ways about it.

weda or nt a lady is a virgin men who date women demand sex frm women lyk its a right or an obligatn women nid 2 fulfil.it's crazy but seriously i tink u guys nid 2 realy stop al dis cos i tink sex doesnt 'cement a relationship,if there's anytin it does it destroys it n many men (delibratly used d word cos i presume am talkin 2 experienced young adults n not teens on nl) on nl av confirmed dat.one tin dat av also com 2 realise bout men is dat d moment a lady stats sleepin wit men,d respect/dignity is gone.if he sees d lady as a drop dead gorgeous woman he'l stat sin ha as a nuisance,2ndly sex makes a man tired of d woman n d relatnshp n he'l b lukin 4 ways 2 end it.n if he sis there's no oportunity 2 end it he'l stat givin d woman atitude til she fils frustrated n walks out hasef.bt wen d lady stands firm n doesnt compromise ha standard d suspense,respect,fire n friendshp kips burnin.lyk pst bimbo odukoya wil say sex kils friendship.d moment u slip wit a lady dats u arent marid 2 n she's just a friend d path of dat relatnshp changes.so ladies n young women pls learn.there r more of animals dan men outside dis days.(no pun intended)

@valarinz.u cannot be wronger! Cos someone doesnt want to sleep with you,doesnt mean they're cheating.Dude,your own strong o! You need to change your mindset.
@kemi. Wow! That's really a story! I wish mine was that intresting. I'm not a virgin and Lord know I've never pressurized anybody for sex. Not even when I was young and dumb. But you did the right thing by leaving his sorry ass.
I bet you're fine chic and you got him high. Lol, But you sound very smart. Mind if we hook up on Facebook? I know you might not want to say your full name here. Mine is Olori-Ebi Jide Taiwo. I'm waiting for you o! Let's talk about other stuff,

I have done it B4, bt wen an upcoming girl in my area once wanted me to disvirgin her, I don't love her I told her no, she insisted coming to my crib everyday, I told her to go look 4 someother because I even don't like D inexperienced once, so after doing it I may still hurt her.

Lol! Vindy dat woz ha own decision n nt urs.she did it out of ha own volition aftral u had alredy told ha strait up u dnt luv ha yet she kept presurizin u.i dnt tink u hurt ha.its if u forced ha,blackmailed,presurised ha or raped ha dats wen u can tink u hurt ha.u dnt nid 2 feel guilty k.

@ naija boy lwkmd! So because of d jist i gave u.u think, Anywayz u've nt said ur own story yet n of cos i'l send a friend request 2 u.is 'olori ebi' part of ur name on f.b or its a self aclaimed title.i askd cos dat name sounds funy n its usualy used by yorubas 4 lewd purposes dats y i find it amusin wen t giv ursef such name.(am sure u know wot am talkin bout) if u dnt know leme giv u a clue.saint janet uses dat word very often lol

Really? I have no idea what St. Janet talks. Except for the cluster of agberos and the urchins around motor park shops,I dont think I've heard her for two seconds. Tell me what the ' Olori Ebi' does. It's Yoruba for Family Head and as I am first born son,it kinda fits. Plus I like how it sounds. Dont ya?
Me,my story isnt all that. I've been in all sorts of relationships. Good,bad,boring,sizzling, I believe sex can be very fulfilling if it's done with the right person. Now I have dated someone for a few months without sex and it was great. I also have had a fling for months and it ended bad. I have infact had a very sexual relationship with someone I truly love and respect. It just had to end on religous grounds- her family would never let her be with a Christian.
So to me,the key phrase is right person. If its just marriage,then why do people -male and female- cheat? There's gotta be something more than sex for it to fly. I have an uncle married for 22year and his wife does all the cheating. I have another one that steadily cheats on his wife of 16years. So to me,marriage isnt a magic phenomenom that protects everyone. Maybe that's why Oprah Winfrey has been with her partner of 27 years without marrying. 9ice's own packed up in 18 months. Am I making any sense?
Tell me about the lewdness of certain Olori Ebi's,

Ego baby Ego
once a girl confirm to a guy that she is a virgin, a guy's pride is prick; in his mind, i must be the first to burst this hole. He will go extra mile to convince the girl that he is the best love she could ever got. Since girls believe in appearance, it makes it more simply. No wonder 80% of girls are disappointed by their first love, but they keep thinking about it cos it was their first brainwash.
The solution is that girls should stop flaunting their virginity instead focus on buildin relationship based on trust.
My story; my angel actually did it to me. We've been dating for 8 months and each time i ask her for sex, she politely refused. I ask r u a virgin? She would laugh and say do i look like one and even if i were one, is it the reason we are together.
One day she call me and said she wanted to suprise me with a gift. I said ok when i'm back from work you come around. 7pm we were together and she brought out a small parcel and say i should unwrap it. When i did it lo n behold it was a pack of condom. I was dumbfounded , she then told me she was a virgin and must be disvirgin by me, i ask so why the condom. She say this should be the only time i should go in barefooted thereafter i must wear slippers, cos she doesnt want to take pills cos side effects of weight gain n stretch marks.
The end story she got my respect and i keep wonderin {if u get from my post here} why most girl cant use their head and think 2 years from now instead of what they have to gain in a relationship now now

Lolz! I'm in d saløon now getin my hair done n am readin ur post at d moment at d same tym watchin '2o12' anyway, d@s by d way.u've got a point there n i undastand where u r comin from bt i tink mariage right frm day 1 wen both couple say 'i do' is a lyf long comitment were both couple work on.in mariage 2 unperfect ppu frm diferent bakground/upbringin mit n dia characters r put 2 test.its not only d woman dat does 1oo percent of d work lyk society or perhaps parents make ppu bliv.its a colectiv work/strugle of partnrs cum friends dat make it work.its a 5o-5o tin.if d man abandons his responsibilities 4 d wife isues start n if d woman does d same isues stat.wen there's isues of infidelity comin frm either d huby or wife it shows d foundatn of dat home is shaky its either 1 of dem woz involvd in premarital sex or both of dem were involvd in pre marital sex dats y religious leaders emphasize d sanctity of d mariage bed.one tin bout God dat beats me til dis day is dat if God givs u 1o comandment n u break just 1 its as gud as u've broken al d comandment n of cos u'l face d music.luk at david 4 example he woz described as 'a man afta god's heart' he woz very obedient bt just broke 1 law of god n dat woz d fact dat he lusted n ad sex wit anoda mans wife since dat day his lyf n family wasnt d same again.he even lost control of his son.his son wantd 2 kil n overthrow him,dis same boy raped his sista.i can go on n on bt d sumry of evrytin is dat many ppu break d comandments of god n expect al d best frm mariage.many ppu tink dat dey can get away wit premarital sex even with d persn dey want 2 get marid 2 n expect evrytin 2 b normal.once u introduce sin in2 ur home u loose a lota tins frm ur patna.u loose trust,respect n most importantly fidelity even if u av al d money or kids in dis world.luk @ tiger woods lyf 4 example.he's bin in2 dis casanovin lyfstyle n he's always asumed he's gud in d game n he can get away wit it.luk @ evrytin he has workd 4,even his wife.seriously i tink it pays of 2 kip d mariage bed holy.@ naija boy u've always bin stylishly avoidin d question.i said u shud gime ur own jist.wot hapened in ur own relatnshp

@ it bomb u dint complete ur jist.did u break in2 d babe or not.n y r mens ego always afectd d moment a man discovas a woman is a virgin

^ofcourse i broke in (that's for sexuality section that's why i cut it)
if you have heard of hierarchy of needs, pride is 1. When a guy sees a girl the first thought in his mind is BED IT. And if a virgin, it's like 'if i dont bed this girl then another guy does it then i be complete mugu' and nobody would stand around and someone doin want you could not do when you had the opportunity.
The underlying fact is that an average guy dont believe a girl cant stay without, if you are not giving to me then you must be giving it somewhere else

I know some guys who don't like virgins because of d bloody experience but as a girl,I'l say,virgin or no virgin,it doesn't make any difference.What matters is performance & approach.There're some babes with tight cunt who can't perform,who don't even knw what & how 2make a man pop.Likewise som dudes with sizeable d**k,who only knw how 2push in & pull out,who don't even give a s**t if d babe reached orgasm or not.So virginity is over-rated.
Period

As for virgins,please take the guy that wants 2disvirgin u 4 STD/HIV test cos u can neva tel who's carrying what.But if u want 2get disvirginned,mak sure u do it wit a matured person,who won't ring a bell about It afterwards.

Yeah dats true! Jade is actualy ryt.sum guys dnt lyk d mesy situatn of d blood,pain n even d actual breakin in cos i rememba jistin wit my younger brodas friend n he told me he doesnt lyk virgins cos d actual penetratn givs him pain.he said for hrs his dick wud b painin him cos d hymen is lyk flesh.once he realises d gal is a virgin he luks 4 wayz 2 end it.he also said dey r usualy inexperienced n edgy so it doesnt make sex mutual.d blood stain n ha atitude makes him fil lyk he's rapin a gal bt its nt so 4 non virgins.dose ones know wot 2 do at d ryt tym n d positns 2 place demselvs

Please tell your sister to keep herself its the best!

Thanks favor,naija boy,it bomb n all.you guys av givin anoda perspective of lyf n men!

Never disvirgined anyone. Infact the whole idea is a big turn off to me. I took an interest in a girl once until she told me she is a virgin. She must have been be surprised at my subsequent disposition.

If I have to be involved with a virgin (on NL), I will give her a referral (to 190 or MOBO). We can be lovers thereafter.

@ penywise lol abeg i take god beg u dnt atract mobos atention here 19o is stil very reasonable howeva sarcastic n humorous.i dnt lyk dat dude (mobo) anywhere around dis thread.thanks n does it min u dumpd ha as afta she told u she woz a virgin.nywayz.evry guys taste is diferent n i respect ur views