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Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by TRUSTEDGUY: 11:01pm On Oct 30, 2010
"My boyfriend and I have been talking about living together and later maybe getting married. I really want to get married and am afraid if I don’t move in with my boyfriend he won’t make the commitment that I want him to make. He says living together will tell us if we are compatible."
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by Idowuogbo(f): 11:06pm On Oct 30, 2010
to be honest ancient reasoning might not permit that but i strongly believe living together for a while might help u guys understand if u can cope living as a family under 1 roof .tink about it properly tho cus it has its disavantages as well dear friend wink wink cool cool cool
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by atampakoeg(f): 11:17pm On Oct 30, 2010
Never. You will only fok each other until the cows come home.
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by Osama10(m): 11:33pm On Oct 30, 2010
No.
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by Plutarch: 11:53pm On Oct 30, 2010
@idowu,
I totally disagree wiv u dear. U can know your would-be-spouse without living 2gether. Personally i detest dat idea. Its not ideal,moral n scriptural. But as a guy i would gladly accept a live-in lover @ least i will v free se.x at will.

Frankly,there is not much u will objectively knw about other than se.x n playing a role of a wife without bride price.
@op,
As par commitment,i think by having QUALITY TIME,trust&luv will prove handy
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by vivaladiva(f): 4:27am On Oct 31, 2010
it might not lead to committment , but it def makes alot of sense splitting the bills n the rest,

i fink its a fab idea, ive did that wiv my ex boyfriend and it was cool, the flip side is when either of u want to move on, it can make things a tad bit hairy

anyway in the UK it aint a big deal, but in prehestoric nigeria, more than eye brows will be raised, u wld hear plenty idiotic comments i can assure u, i can already smell some familiarly idiotic one here already
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by calddon(m): 5:28am On Oct 31, 2010
u must not live with ur boyfriend to knw if ur compatible, cos after co-habitin 4 few months u r likely 2 get pregnant n he is likely not 2 propose marriage 2 u after getin his sexual desires satisfied, he will simply move on. Just my opinion sha.
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by Plutarch: 8:16am On Oct 31, 2010
@viva,
I wish u gudluck wiv your 'wise' believe. As a man i luv d ancient n 'prehistoric' longlasting idea which v recorded countless successful n longlasting marriages in 'prehistoric' Nigeria.
Any man will quickly vote for lady living but frankly its not d best. If u v gotten d desired commitment going to live with your ex,u should perhaps b married to d guy now.
The gender gap in terms of mentality n perception of opposite gender will always be there;this is why u continue to see many question that r relationship centered on romance n family section on NL. Most pple objecting to this idea on this thread r guys n some of them might had or may b doing it. Many relationships wear out b4 d marriage
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by Dyt(f): 9:31am On Oct 31, 2010
i ll live wit him thou it myt nt bring commitment bt den i ll know d man i wanna spend my entire life wit,stayin wit him under d same roof 4 atleast a yr ll mk me know him beta even if he has 2 pretend a day ll reveal him,one of dose days i ll b wit him
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by Azedplus(m): 11:19am On Oct 31, 2010
ACTUALLY LIVING TOGETHER MIGHT BE A WAY OF GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER VERY WELL , BUT SPENDING THE WEEKEND MAY OF HELP,
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by googles: 2:05pm On Oct 31, 2010
No. it cannot guarantee commitment
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by mediatrix8(f): 2:41pm On Oct 31, 2010
I disagree,commitment will always be there even u are not going to live together before marriage, Lover's who are deeply in love trust each other,care each other,and so they will commit themselves to be husband and wife in due time, You can build up commitment by seeing each other often, kiss
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by afribeauty(f): 2:54pm On Oct 31, 2010
spending weekend with him is more preferable
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by sashaa(f): 3:15pm On Oct 31, 2010
Plutarch:

@viva,
I wish u gudluck wiv your 'wise' believe. As a man i luv d ancient n 'prehistoric' longlasting idea which v recorded countless successful n longlasting marriages in 'prehistoric' Nigeria.
Any man will quickly vote for lady living but frankly its not d best. If u v gotten d desired commitment going to live with your ex,u should perhaps b married to d guy.
The gender gap in terms of mentality n perception of opposite gender ;this is why u continue to see many question that r relationship centered on romance n family section on NL. Must pple objecting to this idea on this thread r guys n some of them might had or may b doing it. Many relationships wear out b4 marriage
thanx plutarch, for being truthful
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by TRUSTEDGUY: 6:57pm On Oct 31, 2010
these suggestions are really helpful after-all an learning we dey.
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by vivaladiva(f): 7:47pm On Oct 31, 2010
all relationships must not end in marriage, i suppose u feel my ex sud ave married me, or i sud ave married my ex, if living together was such a fab idea, on the contrary we split up for reasons that had nothing to do wiv living together, truth is, in the uk where i live it aint a fucking big deal, except u end up with a pre historic man ,
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by MRMoneyE(m): 8:04pm On Oct 31, 2010
vivaladiva:

all relationships must not end in marriage, i suppose u feel my ex sud ave married me, or i sud ave married my ex, if living together was such a fab idea, on the contrary we split up for reasons that had nothing to do wiv living together, truth is, in the uk where i live it aint a bleeping big deal, except u end up with a pre historic man ,


TRUE TALK, I LIVED WITH MY EX TOO FOR 5 YEARS RIGHT FROM THE UNIVERSITY DAYS
WE BOTH STAYED TOGETHER EAT TOGETHER AND DO EVERYTHING TOGETHER, LIVING TOGETHER IS NOT
A GUARANTEE FOR MARRIEGE, NEITHER DOES IT HASTEN IT, ONLY FACILITATE EASY SE X, MORE QUARRELS
AND ARGUEMENTS ETC.
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by TRUSTEDGUY: 8:07pm On Oct 31, 2010
MR Money £:


TRUE TALK, I LIVED WITH MY EX TOO FOR 5 YEARS RIGHT FROM THE UNIVERSITY DAYS
WE BOTH STAYED TOGETHER EAT TOGETHER AND DO EVERYTHING TOGETHER, LIVING TOGETHER IS NOT
A GUARANTEE FOR MARRIEGE, NEITHER DOES IT HASTEN IT, ONLY FACILITATE EASY SE X, MORE QUARRELS
AND ARGUEMENTS ETC.

grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by Plutarch: 8:28pm On Oct 31, 2010
I v observed dat many ladies dont know d mentality of an average man. U can from responses of guy on this thread v a clue if u wise enuff.
Most guyz think its not d best even those dat v done n r doing it.
U ladies care/dream about a 1daful relationship/marriage which is good,but in trying 2 v it u make fatal mistakes. Guys fool around but seem to b more careful when it matter most.
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by Odunnu: 9:10pm On Oct 31, 2010
I think it'l even delay commitment
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by Wislet(f): 9:39pm On Oct 31, 2010
Plutarch:

I v observed dat many ladies dont know d mentality of an average man. U can from responses of guy on this thread v a clue if u wise enuff.
Most guyz think its not d best even those dat v done n r doing it.
U ladies care/dream about a 1daful relationship/marriage which is good,but in trying 2 v it u make fatal mistakes. Guys fool around but seem to b more careful when it matter most.
GBAM!!!
That's de reason i listen to guys in-between lines! They always come out with the truth. . . . . Ok. .per chance the quest for 'commitment' doesn't work out, would the lady go to live with another man looking 4 the same 'commitment?'. Unless i'm mistaken or am part of the stone age (lol), but i don't think a prospective husband would be happy knowing his wife did that with- not 1, 2 or even 3 guys. Lol.
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by vivaladiva(f): 10:34pm On Oct 31, 2010
like i said in a prehistoric land populated by ancient individuals with medieval ideaologies, then maybe it is a big deal

it is obvious most women on nl are preoccupied with coming up with schemes to facilitate committment, on the other hand the men on nl think that they r indeed the icing on evry womans cake, and our waking lives should center on how and how not to induce committment from men, if ur a man n u dont want to be committed for watever reason, be it sexing ur gal too much, living with her, or even knowing that her fart stinks,,,,,,,u can go fcukkkkk ur self, its 2010
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by MrsEve: 10:39pm On Oct 31, 2010
I did not lived with my husband before marriage and we worked out fine. You do not need to live with each other to see if you guys can live as couple. If you can't figure out that by simply communicating then living together is not going to be FOOLPROOF,

You need to live in seperate housings and visit each other see how each other live and understand the pros and cons of their habits and work together BEFORE getting into a same house/marriage because if it doesn't work out, WHO LEAVING THE HOUSE?
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by Renatas(f): 10:47pm On Oct 31, 2010
@poster the previous post was about your girl friend and this one's about your boy friend? are you high on something? angry angry angry
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by TRUSTEDGUY: 10:49pm On Oct 31, 2010
Renatas:

@poster the previous post was about your girl friend and this one's about your boy friend? are you high on something? angry angry angry

U don dey try you don reach 23 posts I say I go give you 50.

Taught you have go to bed.

Mummy is going to smack you. grin grin grin
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by r231(m): 10:50pm On Oct 31, 2010
he is getting paid for starting threads grin
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by mamagee3(f): 10:50pm On Oct 31, 2010
I don't think so, commitment must be there even before living together.

Living with him/her won't change anything.
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by MRMoneyE(m): 10:54pm On Oct 31, 2010
mama-gee:

I don't think so, commitment must be there even before living together.

Living with him/her won't change anything.


NEGLECT THIS GAY HE IS ONLY SEEKING UNDUE ATTENTION TO SATISFY HIS HORMONES,
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by TRUSTEDGUY: 10:54pm On Oct 31, 2010
r231:

he is getting paid for starting threads grin

r123

when you learn how to count then we can talk.

wenti I wan talk with you you can even count.

My child will teach come for lessons. grin grin grin
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by TRUSTEDGUY: 10:56pm On Oct 31, 2010
MR Money £:

NEGLECT THIS GAY HE IS ONLY SEEKING UNDUE ATTENTION TO SATISFY HIS HORMONES,

poor man sorry big boys don't look for attention we look for fun.
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by Renatas(f): 10:58pm On Oct 31, 2010
TRUSTEDGUY:

poor man sorry big boys don't look for attention we look for fun.



you've answered my question.you're not only a guy,you're also gay.very obvious. shocked shocked
Re: Will Living With Your Bf/gf Bring Commitment? by TRUSTEDGUY: 11:01pm On Oct 31, 2010
Renatas:



you've answered my question.you're not only a guy,you're also gay.very obvious. shocked shocked

how does that affect me.

go sleep I don't talk to children.

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