Chance meeting with your ex and your former best friend.

How would you react if you visited one of your best friends who you had lost contact with and found him/her married to your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend and both of them did not know you knew the other before?

i can think of what to do now.this is serious

boogie:

how would you react if you visited one of your best friends who you had lost contact with and found him/her married to your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend and both of them did not know you knew the other before.??

Just be surprised and that's all. I have firends who I later found out dated my exs' no biggie they both did not know so why should it be any issue.

I concur. I do not think it is an issue.

Where does the idea that your close friend or relative must not go out with your ex-boyfriend or ex-boyfriend come from?

If it involves sexual relationship, then it won't be too nice for two close friends or relatives to have shared the same guy/girl before.

i guess whats most important will be ensuring that both of them know what transpired before or your subsequent visits may be mis-interpreted and could put lots of strain on everybody. you may also need to ask from the current man in the relationship if future visits will be welcome at all!!!!!

i dont understand why people try to act all formal even on an anonymous forum ... it would be a very awkward meeting cos you would be really self-conscious not like there are hard feelings but thats an experience i can do without.

legs why would you be self conscious?

I tend to part on good terms with all my exes and I have met many of them later on and one of them was dating a guy I knew as well and we were all surprised that we knew each other but I was not bugged one bit.

IAH: If it involves sexual relationship, then it won't be too nice for two close friends or relatives to have shared the same guy/girl before.

That is why some of us are campaigning against premarital sex. It makes things too complicated. It makes heartbreak inevitable.

Here we go again.....

My lips are sealed!

i like my business to be my business, if something has been left behind in my past i generally like it to stay there

Seun:

IAH: If it involves sexual relationship, then it won't be too nice for two close friends or relatives to have shared the same guy/girl before.

That is why some of us are campaigning against premarital sex. It makes things too complicated. It makes heartbreak inevitable.

I am also a supporter of "NO SEX B4 MARRIAGE"

I will be like . And then i will be like , and then i will , and the get over it and

hot-angel: excellent response .

Men, if it's a former girlfriend that I actually was really crazy about and let's say she dumped me and I go to see my bestfriend and I see her there, 'men, e go pain me o'.

thanks legry as usual i can always trust you to be honest

It will be a strange and uncomfortable meeting not just for me but probably for the other 2 involved. Most married guys in that situation (myself included) would want to know what kind of relationship she had with this Ex-boyfriend, who so happened to be my former best friend.

Seun:

hot-angel: excellent response .

Awwww thanks Seun.

well, i would be pained but there's really nothing that can be done about it. I would probably keep my distance, if it a case of me been dumped by my ex

on my part it's not an issue. Infact what "God has joined together let no man put asunder"- this would be my watchword.

I will congratulate them and even present them a beautiful gift.

well, i would be pained but there's really nothing that can be done about it. I would probably keep my distance, if it a case of me been dumped by my ex
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sure but e bad as e bad e go still touch you

@Motee
on my own part it is not an issue. Infact what "God has joined together let no man put asunder"- this would be my watchword.
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I hear u but e bad as e bad ie go touch u

there's absolutely nothing to do afterall you are no longer going out with the guy so you must know he's gonna get on with his life, he cant just sit there weeping over you he's got a life to lead you know and the same goes for your bestfriend afterall they both had no idea the other knew you or something so whats the problem here

[color=#006600][/color]This is really a non-issue. Your ex is most likely to get married after you break up for whatever reason to someone else. That she/he got married to someone close to you just underscores the fact that it's a small world. At this point, just search your self and see if you really need to keep up a relationship with them. If things are amicable all round, then you can maintain contact. But if things were messy in the past and are likely to adversely influence the present, respect yourself and keep your distance. Marraige is not Sesame Street where everybody is welcome.

Hug them amd wish them the best.

well, since am now married, I'll just be like and then and then and we'll become family friends!

@poster! simple, pretend as if you don't know the other party(the woman) so that you will not put sand in her garri. let her be the one to talk you history to he hussy if she dare.

wish them gud luck.an ex wud always be an ex.since i dont ve feelings 4 him any more but come to tink of it.getin maried to my bestfriend.dts tough o.

Goodluck to them so long my best friend was not aware of my relationship with her in the past and vice versa. I mean No hard feelings about this but just be careful so she doesnt snitch on you with him,