Dear Agatha,

I am 25 years of age and still live with my parents at home. I won’t describe my parents’ marriage as ideal as my father is forever accusing my mother of having extra marital affairs. Sincerely, he isn’t off the target as my mother specialises in dating younger men.

Severally my father has had to send some young men away from our premises, who come asking to be employed as drivers. Since I spent the better part of my life away from home: entered into boarding school from JSS 1, beyond what I experience during the holidays and the complaints of my younger ones, I can’t say categorically that I know my mother very well.

All I know is that she is very fashionable and beautiful as well as a socialite. Unlike my father who is more into his children and home, my mother doesn’t care much about us.

We have all come to accept her for whom she is and the times I am at home or when my father comes to visit me in school. I always tell him not to bother too much about my mother. I often tell him that after 26 years as a couple he should be used to her ways by now.

It is an open secret that my father is the one keeping the marriage; my mother doesn’t care one bit about it. As a child, can’t recall when she went to the kitchen to cook, I don’t even know what the taste of her food is like. She is that bad.

Although I have always known my mother’s weakness for young virile men, not once did it occur to me that my mother is capable of sleeping with my own boyfriend.

About three months ago, I brought my fiancé home to meet my parents. He finished before me and travelled to England to further his studies. He came back about four months ago to ask for my hand in marriage. Since his parents were familiar with me, I brought him home to inform my parents of our intentions to spend the rest of our lives together. My father has also met him while he was still in school.

My mother was at home on the day he came. We all agreed on the day his parents would come to meet mine. Three weeks after, they came for formal introduction and to agree on a date for the introduction and wedding.

It was during the period of our wedding planning that I ran into my mother and fiancé coming out of a hotel close to the house of the caterer I contracted for the wedding.

While I was still trying to fathom what both of them could be doing in that place, my mother oblivious of who might be looking gave him a quick peck on his lips before zooming off in her car.

I didn’t need to be told what they had gone to do in the hotel. My boyfriend didn’t know what to say when I called out his name. Right there and then he confessed and started begging for my forgiveness. He claimed not to know how it all happened; that all he remembers is my mother inviting him over for discussions concerning the wedding plans.

I am pained and so confused. Agatha, our wedding is on December 18. I want to end it all. There is no way I can go ahead with a wedding to the man who has slept with my mother. The worst thing is my mother’s attitude. Even when I confronted her with what she had done, her attitude was ‘so what!’

My boyfriend and his best man have been pleading with me. My chief bride’s mate who has been my friend since our childhood is of the opinion that my mother must have charmed my boyfriend and that the best way to deal with her is to forgive my boyfriend and go ahead with the marriage.

I am so confused. I haven’t told my father anything since I don’t want to hurt him more than she has hurt him all these years. Please tell me what to do. He is the only man I have ever fallen in love with in all my life. We have been together for five years and not once has he cheated on me. Even he was away, he kept calling me religiously everyday for the 18 months he was abroad. Once he sent money down for me to visit him. He has been that dedicated to me. He is still insisting he doesn’t know how he ended up in the hotel with my mother.

Todun.

just forgive your mum

thats life

Is this some sort of joke!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously how sane is this situation I do not believe a word you said.

If the story is true I will say forgive your mother as God commanded us but there won't be any atom of relationship until death itself do both of you part. If you mother can win your husband-to-be heart then she is free to have him.

Forgive ko, kill ni!
Forget the man. If he can descend so low as to sleep with his fiancee's mum, it is just the beginning. The lady will fall in love again and should not accept that kind of crap from her husband to be.

God!!!

Tufiaka, i reject and rebuke bad mother-in-law!!!

Hmmmmn. . ,

All these nollywood stories.
why did the lady not confront her mum,fear?but she confided in best man and Cbm
Once the story is gone off,out of the family,i personally cant go on with such marriage.

ifyalways:

All these nollywood stories.
why did the lady not confront her mum

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Dear Agatha,

I am 25 years of age and still live with my parents at home. I won’t describe my parents’ marriage as ideal as my father is forever accusing my mother of having extra marital affairs. Sincerely, he isn’t off the target as my mother specialises in dating younger men.

Severally my father has had to send some young men away from our premises, who come asking to be employed as drivers. Since I spent the better part of my life away from home: entered into boarding school from JSS 1, beyond what I experience during the holidays and the complaints of my younger ones, I can’t say categorically that I know my mother very well.

All I know is that she is very fashionable and beautiful as well as a socialite. Unlike my father who is more into his children and home, my mother doesn’t care much about us.

We have all come to accept her for whom she is and the times I am at home or when my father comes to visit me in school. I always tell him not to bother too much about my mother. I often tell him that after 26 years as a couple he should be used to her ways by now.

It is an open secret that my father is the one keeping the marriage; my mother doesn’t care one bit about it. As a child, can’t recall when she went to the kitchen to cook, I don’t even know what the taste of her food is like. She is that bad.

Although I have always known my mother’s weakness for young virile men, not once did it occur to me that my mother is capable of sleeping with my own boyfriend.

About three months ago, I brought my fiancé home to meet my parents. He finished before me and travelled to England to further his studies. He came back about four months ago to ask for my hand in marriage. Since his parents were familiar with me, I brought him home to inform my parents of our intentions to spend the rest of our lives together. My father has also met him while he was still in school.

My mother was at home on the day he came. We all agreed on the day his parents would come to meet mine. Three weeks after, they came for formal introduction and to agree on a date for the introduction and wedding.

It was during the period of our wedding planning that I ran into my mother and fiancé coming out of a hotel close to the house of the caterer I contracted for the wedding.

While I was still trying to fathom what both of them could be doing in that place, my mother oblivious of who might be looking gave him a quick peck on his lips before zooming off in her car.

I didn’t need to be told what they had gone to do in the hotel. My boyfriend didn’t know what to say when I called out his name. Right there and then he confessed and started begging for my forgiveness. He claimed not to know how it all happened; that all he remembers is my mother inviting him over for discussions concerning the wedding plans.

I am pained and so confused. Agatha, our wedding is on December 18. I want to end it all. There is no way I can go ahead with a wedding to the man who has slept with my mother. The worst thing is my mother’s attitude. Even when I confronted her with what she had done, her attitude was ‘so what!’

My boyfriend and his best man have been pleading with me. My chief bride’s mate who has been my friend since our childhood is of the opinion that my mother must have charmed my boyfriend and that the best way to deal with her is to forgive my boyfriend and go ahead with the marriage.

I am so confused. I haven’t told my father anything since I don’t want to hurt him more than she has hurt him all these years. Please tell me what to do. He is the only man I have ever fallen in love with in all my life. We have been together for five years and not once has he cheated on me. Even he was away, he kept calling me religiously everyday for the 18 months he was abroad. Once he sent money down for me to visit him. He has been that dedicated to me. He is still insisting he doesn’t know how he ended up in the hotel with my mother.

Todun.

,fear?but she confided in best man and Cbm
Once the story is gone off,out of the family,i personally cant go on with such marriage.

Read the story carefully

JOKYTECH:

,fear?but she confided in best man and Cbm
Once the story is gone off,out of the family,i personally cant go on with such marriage.


Read the story carefully

Thank you.
Obviously,twas not a mistake,she had it planned out.
I wud forgeive both of them and move on ie wont marry the dude,wont stay in same house with my mum ever again.

dont killl her but 4give her

Hey! My dear, ur mum is still ur mum even if she opens her legs to dogs. Forgive both of them, stop d marriage and go on with ur life. Becos even when u forgive, is hard to forget and mind u d marriage is already stained and trust gone. If ur man can sleep with ur mother, an old woman, then he is weak with women and can do even more. Mind u also that when u give birth ur mum will stil come to ur house and stay a while. So are u ready to keep watching ur back? My dear forget it ok! Just move on.

@ poster
what i will suggest is that you forgive and if you like your man or would i say love your man go ahead with the marriage.
Since your mum has hot pants, how sure are you that the next man you bring into your life for marriage will not sleep with your mum.
Never live your mum alone with your fiancee even your children when you start having them.
Remain focused and dedicated in all u do.

Why exactly is this disgrace of a woman still a part of your life? By your admission, she has never been a mother to you. Your boyfriend obviously lacks self control and you better off without him.

Do away with both of them and move on with your life.

sexy74:

@ poster
what i will suggest is that you forgive and if you like your man or would i say love your man go ahead with the marriage.
Since your mum has hot pants, how sure are you that the next man you bring into your life for marriage will not sleep with your mum.
Never live your mum alone with your fiancee even your children when you start having them.
Remain focused and dedicated in all u do.

Yes now because she obviously has nothing better to do with the rest of her life than to be watchman to a couple of randy rabbits.

Best advice like Evaaaaah!!!!

God forgive us. The world is worst than the Sodom & Gomorra situation. Why did the husband to this LovePeddler keep her on? What has he benefitted from that? Disgrace upon disgrace. My dear girl, tell your dad what your mum did. Call off the wedding. Let your mum stay away from you unless you want a repeat performance when you meet another man. Your mum definitly needs spiritual assistance. You can assist her with prayers. But keep away from her for now.

You should have called off the wedding even before writing to Agatha.

It's bad that he would sleep with someone else few months to your wedding, much more so, when that someone is your mother. Somethings are just insupportable.

Yeah right! Your mother 'charmed' your boyfriend. He was under a spell when he took off his clothes . . . when he got down to business . . .when he received the kiss in public BUT woke up to reality only when he saw you. Oh please!

As for your mother,   . . .

Such is life.It is not the first neither will it be the last.Though painful but Life continues.

it is very painful but then call off the relationship n marriage.move on with your life, you'll meet a better person. as for your mom, one day she fall down on her knees to beg her husband n kids .if your fiance can fall for an older woman, what more of the younger ones.he has already failed.even if you forgive and decides to go ahead with the wedding, can you still trust him. you will torture yourself with thoughts of him being unfaithful anytime you see him with a lady. frankly i don't think i can go through that mental agony.

@POSTER:

SLEEP WITH YOUR FATHER TO TAKE REVENGE ON YOUR MOTHER THEN SHE WILL COME BACK TO HER SENSES

^^^^^lmao

The pain of betrayal is one that hardly ever goes away, moreso your mom and husband to be! The lady in question should forgive her mom but forget getting married to this person. She will never have peace if she marries the guy who will still be seeing her mom from time to time. Plus she should tell her father and if possible move away from home and the next guy she wants to get married to, make sure she introduces to her father in the absence of the mother and ensure that they don't cross paths. She may even demand that the mother be absent from her wedding and life in general.

I am pained and so confused. Agatha, our wedding is on December 18. I want to end it all. There is no way I can go ahead with a wedding to the man who has slept with my mother. The worst thing is my mother’s attitude. Even when I confronted her with what she had done, her attitude was ‘so what!’

My boyfriend and his best man have been pleading with me. My chief bride’s mate who has been my friend since our childhood is of the opinion that my mother must have charmed my boyfriend and that the best way to deal with her is to forgive my boyfriend and go ahead with the marriage.

I am so confused. I haven’t told my father anything since I don’t want to hurt him more than she has hurt him all these years. Please tell me what to do. He is the only man I have ever fallen in love with in all my life. We have been together for five years and not once has he cheated on me. Even he was away, he kept calling me religiously everyday for the 18 months he was abroad. Once he sent money down for me to visit him. He has been that dedicated to me. He is still insisting he doesn’t know how he ended up in the hotel with my mother.

Todun.

You cannot marry this man. Please, end it.
This is the utmost betrayal on both sides of the coin.

If he can end up in bed with your mother, then be prepared to have your daughters impregnated by him.
He will also tell you he did not know how he ended up in your sister's or daughter's bed.
Some curses just seem to run from generation to generation.
You must break this curse.
Whatever decision you make will be a painful one.

4giv dem, 4get the guy, move 4wrd, find love, be happy, its ur right!

love conquers all, u will still find somone better, marriage is not dating, . , . . . .

My dear, like u ve Heard from several posters here. I just want u to know that certain things happen for reasons. You may not know thé heart break this ur future Hubby might ve caused u if all things Had gone smoothly until after Marriage.
Use ur tongue to count ur teeth, marrying a Man That went deep into ur mother is thé worse thing u CAN do.
Forget thé fact that ur mum is been cheap, lets face thé reality. If u continue with this Marriage simply because of LOVE, My dear u Will ve urself to blâme. U CAN never feel free with this man, each Time hé offends u, ur 1st thought Will drive u to how hé has slept with ur mum. If u dont want to bear this pain for years. Kindly stop him from seeing u. And start up ur life again. As for ur mum, u just 4give her and see with God about her situation. I think she is ignorant of her iniquities I wish u all thé best in Life .

wow!
i'm speechless. its ur call to forgive or cancel the wedding but remember that even the ALMIGHTY 4gives us of our deleterious sins too.

Forgive both of them,and forget about the marriage if you want a happy marriage.The fact is that even though you have forgiven,you can hardly forget it.The truth is that the incident can hardly be wiped out from your mind all through your life,and marriage a life affair.Most of the time, you and your husband(if married to him) want to make love,you will remember it,that this d**K has been used to service your blood mother.Mother and daughter sharing the same d**k.Above all,the possibility is there that even if you got married to him,definetly,she will one day secretly be making use of the servicing tool without your knowledge.It is very very possible because as far as they have done it before,the bond has been established.Thats why some ex-boyfriends/girlfriends do have sex when they meet again be it in years,be it whether they are moving with another man/woman or even married.This is because of the sexual bond that has already been established between them.Just forgive the guy and your sexually addicted(dog)mother and forget about the marriage and move on.

@op
a lot has been said,and if i may ask, wont your relations visit you? wont they charm him into sleeping with them.

To think that you are confused weda to go ahead with the wedding or not is absurd, not when the whole world know the your hobby slept with ur mom, abeg don't give Gossips topic