I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.

Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.

lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.

l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".

On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.

The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.

l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.

Please Sound advice.

Avoid Arguments
Go for medical treatment
Love him
Love yourself more

Love God much more

Pray harder.

amarachi06:
have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child. Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.
lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.
l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me.
l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so". On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.
The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.
l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.
Please Sound advice.

Take it all to God in prayers... Prayers changes things.

Can two work unless they agree?
Pray hard!

Madam sorry...dat thing wey dey play drum for am outside...very soon d hand go pain am.

I feel for you. God will soon answer your prayers. Keep praying and make sure you constantly check your health.

God will answer you, but please dont leave your marriage just yet. You will overcome this challenge. Amen.

So sorry to hear that madam...your husband loves you but he is simply frustrated about not being a father too just that he shouldn't pass the aggression to you.... You are his wife and he's to love you more.

Madam just avoid quarrel and keep connecting to God...He's the only one that gives children and he will give you your twins soon....Distract yourself with your work and be happy....You can always visit the TTC thread in the health section where all the sabi mamas will motivate you concerning TTC issues.

Wishing you all the best.

jenifer007:
So sorry to hear that madam...your husband loves you but he is simply frustrated about not being a father too just that he shouldn't pass the aggression to you.... You are his wife and he's to love you more.

Madam just avoid quarrel and keep connecting to God...He's the only one that gives children and he will give you your twins soon....Distract yourself with your work and be happy....You can always visit the TTC thread in the health section where all the sabi mamas will motivate you concerning TTC issues.

Wishing you all the best.

Thank you, am crying already. Is well with my soul, never believed that l will not have a child by now. All my sisters are married with kids, and am scared of exchanging words with people for fear of being called a barren woman, and eater of my kids, which l am not. Thank you all for your kind words.

Pray for him, love him bla bla bla. That's the typical Nigerian advice for women in dysfunctional relationships.

Yet when I say women stay with abusive men for the wrong reasons, People will become all self righteous.

Nonsense!

find someone he respects n listen let d person talk to him

amarachi06:


Thank you, am crying already. Is well with my soul, never believed that l will not have a child by now. All my sisters are married with kids, and am scared of exchanging words with people for fear of being called a barren woman, and eater of my kids, which l am not. Thank you all for your kind words.

Forgive my outburst madam, it's not about you.

May God bless you with your own children soon.

In the meantime, find something that makes you happy and face it. And ignore that husband of yours.

r

amarachi06:
have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child. Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.
lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.
l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me.
l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so". On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.
The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.
l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.
Please Sound advice.

(1) get sound medical advice from a medical specialist, which i suspect that you have already.
(2) get a good job or business to sustain yourself financially
Everything else is out of your control until God picks your call.

She said her own side of the story and we do not know what the man will say.

My inlaw stood by my sister for 17yrs before they were blessed with a child.
Some men are sick.
Love for couple should be unconditional.

So sorry for your pain dear..please buy the book Supernatural Childbirth and take all the confessions inside daily..I am yet to see any woman waiting for a child that faithfully read and made the confessions in that book that didn't carry her own children! You will testify of God's goodness soonest!

Cheer up cos you are next in line for a miracle!

Ohh sorry about this.. It's God that provides child.. Have you put it to God in prayers, what is the response you receive. And have you done test too, what is the test saying.. Anyway I wouldn't mind if we can talk on mail, so I can see how to help you with prayers to God.. Stay strong.

amarachi06:
have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child. Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.
lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.
l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me.
l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so". On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.
The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.
l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.
Please Sound advice.

Who is the cause of infertility - you or your husband?
If it's you, sorry to say he's probably planning an exit strategy or starting a family elsewhere.
It's only God or a miracle baby that can salvage this situation.
If you are a believer, stay prayerful but make sure to also seek medical intervention towards having a child of your own.

Is it till he gives some else belle outside you will wake up Marriage is not a do or die. The guy clearly married u to fulfill societal righteousness

You see dem? Awon “watch war room and pray” crew

The earlier you seek good medical help and spiritual help concerning that situation, the better for you. The childless issue is the reason for his attitude. He is no longer patient.

Chai, women have suffered, it is well oo.

Very dicey. Prayer answereth all so Op pls pray. And if you take in again, travel to a serene environment without telling anyone just to be safe.

ednut1:
Is it till he gives some else belle outside you will wake up Marriage is not a do or die. The guy clearly married u to fulfill societal righteousness

So she should discharge? Where's d for better or worse vow?

AwkaetitiBabe:
So she should discharge? Where's d for better or worse vow?

na una dey deceive una self with vow. People marry most times to fulfill rightouesness , children or satisfy parents . Vows mean nothing this days. The man already told her to leave . This na lost battle

UjuJoan2:


Forgive my outburst madam, it's not about you.

May God bless you with your own children soon.

In the meantime, find something that makes you happy and face it. And ignore that husband of you.

Who/what was it about?

But Amarachi, why are you still with him? Biko stop allowing other humans frustrate your existence

UjuJoan2:
'Pray for him, love him bla bla bla. That's the typical Nigerian advice for women in dysfunctional relationships.

Yet when I say women stay with abusive men for the wrong reasons, People will become all self righteous.

Nonsense!

Imagine...as if not having a child is her explicit fault ! Who knows if the fault is from the idiotic man. If he so wants a child he should adopt one or they should try surrogacy.

I really empathise with you. God will surely wipe away your tears. Pls make research about ovulation period and have targeted sex during such periods. Wishing you all the best.

Simpleandsweet:
So sorry for your pain dear..please buy the book Supernatural Childbirth and take all the confessions inside daily..I am yet to see any woman waiting for a child that faithfully read and made the confessions in that book that didn't carry her own children! You will testify of God's goodness soonest!

Cheer up cos you are next in line for a miracle!

Another senseless advice from a gullible fellow.

amarachi06:
have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child. Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.
lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.
l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me.
l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so". On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.
The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.
l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.
Please Sound advice.

This is so emotional.

Have you been to the hospital? Do you have a medical condition that needs to be treated asap?

Since you have been married, how many miscarriages have you had aside from that of 2016?

You need to focus on loving yourself.

crackhaus:

Who/what was it about?

I was talking about how women react to being treated badly in the future in the other thread, and most of the people advising her to 'endure' almost jumped me. They claimed I should be advising women to stand up for themselves and yapped about how women had a 'choice'. And here they are saying the exact opposite, confirming what I said initially.

Nigerian women will always be at a disadvantage, no matter how much we try to deny it.

This poster is being abused emotionally by her husband and yet the society expects her to stay. How do you think she will react in the future when she finally becomes a mother and the husband becomes 'nice'. When she realises she now has all the power over her abuser and doesn't have to cower because she now has 'a place' in his home?

Of course she's not thinking 'revenge' now, but she's feeling the resentment and she's feeling helpless about her situation. I doubt if she's going to wave a hand and forget all she's going through now in the future, and live happily ever after with her husband.

When she starts reacting, the man will claim his wife has changed, and these fake people here will support him.

What a joke!