In typical African setting,any marriage without issue will definitely incur the wroth of the immediate and extended family.Is marriage  all about child bearing or Love should be the focus

My guy Seun just dey change your topic like say na him bi the author of this thread,


Oga make u leave the thread the way e bi b4.

Abeg.

of course love should be the focus of marriage and also wat the couple wants in the marriage ,
some couples dont want kids while others do
and i hope the couple knows wat their partners want in a marriage b4 they get married.

The love is the most important part of the foundation of the marriage relationship that is based on both couples' compromise of their marriage expectation whether they want to have children or not!

That is different strokes for different people!!!

What if your wife or husband cannot produce making babies due to health reason or other circumstances, can their marriage survive without children? Some marriage can survive, some doesn't!!! Think about it!!!

Still thinking about it my dear.

not necessary though,  Some marriages without a child still gets the necessary respect needed depends on how u present yourself to the family/ extended.

chiegemba:

not necessary though, Some marriages without a child still gets the necessary respect needed depends on how u present yourself to the family/ extended.

Good one from you dear.

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Yep some marriage can survive without children
if both party are ready to abort children, because that
the only way i think marriage can survive with children,
in order word with God are things re possible both have
to hold on to God, _{remember the story of Abraham in the bible}

many couples have a hoard of kids and still got divorced.

how do u mean?

having plenty children doesnt guaranty you happiness!

"Too many children you say".re u trying to say family

planning can't make marriage survive without children?

It all depends on the couple
If children are the only  reason why they married,then definitely the marriage won't survive without kids
But if they married for LOVE,then when the challenges of childlessness set in,they should be able to reason together
and come to terms with the fact that the children at orphanages need to be taken care of.

It is quite possible for marriage to survive without children, but that is if you are outside the confines of the african context and you are totally let loose of ancenstral and cultural influence of our african nourished traditions.

In western world, marriages can survive without children and children can survive without marriages.

Adoption is a very good option for those who can't conceive naturally. An adopted child is 99.999% of a 'real' child.

it depends on the circumstances and the patners themselves but personally, i ld rather be unmarried with kid(s) than vice-versa

let us be realistic and dont decieve ourself,


LOve and children are two differnt things in marriage,


most marriages whtuout children got colapes about 70% out of 100%


most of those that endures may be pastors and rev,


Child na the koko,

Yes,Its quite possible for a marriage to survive without children in as much as "Geniue Love" and i repeat geniue love exists,But here in Africa especially in Nigeria,It takes the divine intervntion of God for both couples to remain together because of pressure from both the families,But its possible if Love exists.


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In typical African setting, mariage is for procreation not necessarily for love. that is why there is polygamy and early marriage. But since western education and christianity came into Africa, it is gradually been diluted.
Even at that, most marriage do not survive if there is no issue even in strong christian family. Enlightened ones go for adoption while others file for divorce. So generally, about 80% of marriage in Africa is looking at child bearing as the focal point of marriage than any other thing.

Yes, marriage can survive without children. We all know that anything is possible if there is the will. But the prayer is may non of us fall victim of such circumstance. Certain things are better explained than experienced.

ADVICE: make sure you truly love the person you want to marry. It makes a lot of things bearable.

It would it be fair to say those challenged when it comes to pro-creation are not eligible for marriage? "NO"

Marriage, first of all is about love & companionship, kids are added benefits from God.
If kids were the underlining factor for d survival of any marriage, then how do you explain the kids that products of broken homes?

I was told of a dutch couple who decided they didnt want any kids at all when they are married.
To the best of my knowledge, they are still together, and happy.
The whole issue of kids in marriage is mostly due to our culture placing so much importance on it.
So having kids is not really neccessary for a marriage to be strong. Except if you specify a "nigerian/african "
marriage.(And some do work).
For me, I would like to have kids oh!

Everbright:

It all depends on the couple
If children are the only reason why they married,then definitely the marriage won't survive without kids
But if they married for LOVE,then when the challenges of childlessness set in,they should be able to reason together
and come to terms with the fact that the children at orphanages need to be taken care of.

trust me i am speaking frm experience. my friends uncle and aunt have been married 4 4yr now with no kids and they are still happy

I disagree, I have an aunt who do not have a baby since she married. She is in her late 40's now. Unfortunately, the husband died last week Tuesday in a motor accident. May His Soul Rest in Peace, Amen

What am I doing in a marriage without a fruit? My bible tells me that any tree that does not bear fruit shall be cut down, better be a celibate MONK than be in a marriage without a child.

In that way I can use my Precious SPERM in the service of GOD and for my spiritual evolution instead of allowing one yeye woman to conterminate me and yet can't give me a child to show for it.

dawg, what happens if it is your fault, does the same believe apply?

BillGatFan, how is Quebec treating u? u dey 4 Montreal?

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Yes, marriage can survive without children. In our society (Nigeria), the union is expected to produce fruits though. Anything short of that and you'll have the entire neighbourhood prying, wanting to know which one of the couple is "inactive" or stuffs like that.

It could be a matter of choice, either mutual or based on health risk that the couple don't give birth to any child. Bottom line is that they'll (especially the woman) feel depressed most of the time when they think about it. This depression would be light based the feelings they truly have for themselves.

I can't remember the book title, but I once read that the ultimate desire of every human union is the continuity of their blood line.(Animal Instincts!)

BillGatesFan:

What am I doing in a marriage without a fruit? My bible tells me that any tree that does not bear fruit shall be cut down, better be a celibate MONK than be in a marriage without a child.

In that way I can use my Precious SPERM in the service of GOD and for my spiritual evolution instead of allowing one yeye woman to conterminate me and yet can't give me a child to show for it.

Oops! that hurts

Good topic.

Honestly kids do help d bonding of the couples.

But it depends on what d couples want 1st.

sometimes u need to know wat u want in a relationship b4 goin into it.

Afterall wat is d main reason 4 marrying,

love covers all