I am sure the op will be happy if I say British Nigerian girls are all mad and restless whores. Right?It is so damn right to experience one or two of over 10 million people and draw such a stupid conclusion about all of them?

Why were you even trying to 'be friendly' with him in the first place if you were out to exaggerate and uncharitable judge him and all his kinsmen?

While I am not informed enough to debate 'your facts' of your encounters with him,your post and the verdict it celebrates suggests that you are very very unreasonable if not frustrated with 'some unstated expectations' that Nigerian men here are not meeting.

The guys are not in the UK to live their lives to meet your disgusting philosophy of good behaviour. You and your army of angry female friends should go and find your 'fulfilment' with men who are lowly thinking and too cheap in rationality as your judgment shows you are.

We know some(a vibrant minority) of UK-born Naija guys and girls who live on drug sales,work as escorts,steal and stab,and are proud glorified whores,yet we respect the honour of very many who are doing well for themselves.

Lick the wounds of the cheap and low value you oozed out to a colleague to unashamedly disrespect you and leave our hustling brothers out of your wretched head!

It could be the culture. My guess is that a lot of naija guys misconstrue playfulness for 'green light' to go further and push boundaries.
It is no wonder naija born and raised females feel that they have to be rude and mean to ward of unnecessary attention from the guys.

It's this attitude that makes me avoid talking to a lot of naija girls haha

mito:
The poster might be right since as Nigerian men, you don't know that you should never insult a woman under any circumstances. Your comments are speaking against you guys. It's never to late to start behaving like a gentleman though. Nairalanders, get your act together!

I once met a Nigerian man from a good family. He was a well-behaved young man except that he wasn't a gentleman, and didn't have refined manners at all. However, because I liked him a lot, I went to some African friends for advices.  Hmmm! I was chocked when they told me that in Africa, Nigerian men have a reputation to be unrefined, violent, abusive and fraudulent. Moreover, they warned me to avoid him if I like myself.

I am a Nigerian woman, and my dear, whoever you are. I can categorically tell you that your friends have lied to you. Men even across the globe can be whatever, just yesterday I saw a video of a damn police man in the US hit a woman badly on her neck, to the ground. And I can tell you that Nigerian men are awesome, words can not express how much I have enjoyed them, I can explain it to you. I'm swear on my very own head I am not just talking, I care about other people's experiences but I care more abt mine with them I speak from my own point of view. I looooooooooooooooovvvvvveeeeee Nigerian men. With that been said, I am not here to bash any other nationalities, though i know what I know. Thank you and have a wonderful day ahead.

CILondon:
As a British born Nigerian woman, I have tried to be friendly with Nigerian born Naija men who came over to settle here in the UK as adults but I have to say it is not easy. I have noticed that they (Nigerian raised men) do not know how to conduct themselves and they are constantly overstepping the boundaries - all in the name of being friendly. For example in my previous job, there was a Nigerian male (Nigerian born and raised) who joined our team and I was friendly with him and tried to show him the ropes. I think he misconstrued my friendliness and tried to make more out of it than it was - but I was not interested. One day, when we were having a conversation, he playfully tapped his fist on my thigh which I was not happy about but I did not say anything. The real shocker came a few weeks later when I was sitting at my desk in the office talking to one of my female colleagues who was sitting beside me. The Nigerian male came and stood behind me and was joining in our conversation which I did not mind. Then all of a sudden, out of nowhere, he grabbed my throat from behind - wrapped his hands round my throat and started strangling me playfully. I was really shocked and screamed at him to get off which he did at once. But what shocked me was that he would even dare to do such a thing in the first place. He did not seem to realise that it is totally unacceptable to grab a person by the throat - especially from behind. He was very lucky that I did not report him or else he could have been sacked and arrested but I chose not to report him.

I have noticed this problem with almost all the Nigerian males who were raised in Nigeria - not the ones raised in UK - they are much more refined. As a result, I no longer associate with Nigerian males raised in Naija. as they seem to have no sense of propriety and not a clue about the correct way to conduct themselves.

So my question is this: Why don't Nigerian men (the ones raised in Nigeria) know how to conduct themselves appropriately?
In case you think it's just me who has noticed this have a look at this newspaper article about a Nigerian doctor who graduated from medical school at University of Ibadan and came over to UK. He was working in a UK hospital and managed to get himself sacked within 2 hours of starting the job.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/8151740/Doctor-suspended-for-sexually-harassing-two-nurses-on-first-days-at-work.html

You sound boring. I am a female and I can never be your friend (the Gods forbid) you lack juice and youthfulness, you are like a boring log of wood, he was not stranggling you, you are just a very old person at heart that don't know how to play, and I think you have met too many bad pple in your life and you must have experienced too many evil, try to go for therapy and you might just find help to loosen up a bit. Been a Stick, log, wood will only make you age like stiff. You are actually stiff. I wish you well though hm! I still can never be your friend, sorry