Hi gals and guys,

in some communities, there's an old tradition that if you discover that your new bride/wife is a virgin, then you have to shower gifts on her mother, sometimes, there's even a small or quiet celebration.

Do you think it's still necessary for a groom to disclose and/or celebrate such a "discovery" with the parents and siblings? Ladies, if you are in the virgin bride's position, will you prefer that it should be just between the two of you, or families should be let in on it?

Uhmmmm if you announce AFTER THE WEDDING NIGHT that she is a virgin, THAT MEANS YOU DID NOT CONSUMMATE THE WEDDING,

Who cares if she is a virgin and alot of time women who are virgins ARE NOT USUALLY saving themselves for marriage, Reasons:

Can't get lucky for whatever reasons
Medical conditions
Anal retentive
Rigid

I mean there are many reasons why, don't just assume because her cherry wasn't popped that she was saving it for you,

My cousin recently married a 40 yr old virgin (a devoted xtian) and they announced it at the reception

Yeah, she wasn't saving herself for him MOST DEFINATELY NOT!

Who knows
My cousin is kinda weird though cos for a long time we thought the dude was gay or something like that.
Never introduced any chick to us. Very secretive like that so I'm sure he must be a virgin as well.
Suits them both but for me i def ain't doing no virgin.
I have to sample. . . It's a must for me

i yes i would. Its a pride

May whatever you sampling in London gnaw every piece of your manhood and then some

jayfoster:

Hi gals and guys,

in some communities, there's an old tradition that if you discover that your new bride/wife is a virgin, then you have to shower gifts on her mother, sometimes, there's even a small or quiet celebration.

Do you think it's still necessary for a groom to disclose and/or celebrate such a "discovery" with the parents and siblings? Ladies, if you are in the virgin bride's position, will you prefer that it should be just between the two of you, or families should be let in on it?

why would i broadcast my first f/cuk with my wife ?

jay bee:

My cousin recently married a 40 yr old virgin (a devoted xtian) and they announced it at the reception  

lol   I don't doubt it.  but I think it's better to be very sure before announcing and/or celebrating your bride's virginity (if you have to).  It's no longer news that so many ladies lie about being virgins these days!

Mrs. Eve:

Yeah, she wasn't saving herself for him MOST DEFINATELY NOT!

Do you have anything personal against keeping one's virginity till wedding night?  Does it really matter whether she "saved it for him" or avoided sex cos of other reasons like Hiv, unwanted preg, etc?

ZIM DRILL:

why would i broadcast my first f/cuk with my wife ?

That was my point Zimdrill, a man that loves his wife is SECRETIVE AND PROTECTIVE of his wife, what you and your wife do in the bedroom is NOBODY BUSINESS,

My point is who cares if your wife is a virgin, what you going to get for her being a virgin an extra naira?

Mrs. Eve:

May whatever you sampling in London gnaw every piece of your manhood and then some

hehehehheheh you got problem with me Q?

Jayjoster,

I do not have a problem with A PERSON BEING A VIRGIN, I shared my opinions and do I really need to repeat what I said?

jay bee:

My cousin recently married a 40 yr old virgin (a devoted xtian) and they announced it at the reception

@ the reception? how did know then? [s]but a 40year old Virgin the thing go don rust, u would need a whole drum of lubricant to enter there[/s]. i wont wish that kind work for mmy brother

No Jaybee,

I don't have a problem with you but I don't like you going out and sampling all nilly willy now you my big brother and I hate to have to be the one to nurse your willies because you sampling,

Now you said that you don't do virgins I can understand why because you don't have time to teach and you prefer a skilled non virgin right?  Now you do know because there is no cherry there doesn't mean she isn't a virgin,

So back to the poster's question, NO IT NOT NECESSARY TO ANNOUNCE SOMEONE A VIRGIN because you might just get a few naysayers saying that a lie we had sex last week!  Be careful what you ask for you might just get it!

Mrs. Eve:

That was my point Zimdrill, a man that loves his wife is SECRETIVE AND PROTECTIVE of his wife, what you and your wife do in the bedroom is NOBODY BUSINESS,

My point is who cares if your wife is a virgin, what you going to get for her being a virgin an extra naira?

you can say that again

from my point of view once you tell me about your sexual romps with your woman, i start to see her naked and i will lose respect in my eyes all i will see is that unclothedness you talk about

i never share what i do sexual withthe woman i love most i wouldnt want my niggaz picture her naked

Trust me, they def won't be lying about stuff like that.
I get it was just a way of saying y'all are getting a good deal.
They had it so they sure were able flaunt it.
It don't bother me though

My Dad would have loved to know. See the man promising Heaven and Earth if . . .

Hubby can tell our kids about it or buy mum a gift to appreciate her good work.

Just because a woman say she is a virgin or a man say he is a virgin DON'T MEAN HE OR SHE IS!

Hell, I am a virgin!

^^^
I know you are

ZIM DRILL:

why would i broadcast my first f/cuk with my wife ?

You don't have to if you don't want to.  Some people do it but limit it to the parents of the bride and probably the parents of the groom to increase the respect for the bride as well as make the parents of the bride very proud of her.

Mrs. Eve:

Jayjoster,

I do not have a problem with A PERSON BEING A VIRGIN, I shared my opinions and do I really need to repeat what I said?

Definitely, you have a right to your opinion on this issue and you don't need to repeat it, but you also do not have to force it down the throat of other people

Mrs. Eve:

That was my point Zimdrill, a man that loves his wife is SECRETIVE AND PROTECTIVE of his wife, what you and your wife do in the bedroom is NOBODY BUSINESS,

My point is who cares if your wife is a virgin, what you going to get for her being a virgin an extra naira?  

I'm not trying to sound religious, but the fact is that there is a spiritual angle to sex.  Besides, marriage is honourable when ''the bed is undefiled''.  

It's an honour for a man to give his daughter out in marriage, it's double honours if she gets married without having a child/pregnancy out of wedlock, it's triple honours if she gets married as a virgin.  Amongst other things, it boosts the trust of her man and parents geometrically.  However, I'm not in anyway suggesting that getting married as a virgin is the only way to boost one's integrity.

Missy ★ B:

My Dad would have loved to know. See the man promising Heaven and Earth if . . .

Hubby can tell our kids about it or buy mum a gift to appreciate her good work.

Nice point

jayfoster:

You don't have to if you don't want to.  Some people do it but limit it to the parents of the bride and probably the parents of the groom to increase the respect for the bride as well as make the parents of the bride very proud of her.

Definitely, you have a right to your opinion on this issue and you don't need to repeat it, but you also do not have to force it down the throat of other people

I'm not trying to sound religious, but the fact is that there is a spiritual angle to sex.  Besides, marriage is honourable when ''the bed is undefiled''.  

It's an honour for a man to give his daughter out in marriage, it's double honours if she gets married without having a child/pregnancy out of wedlock, it's triple honours if she gets married as a virgin.  Amongst other things, it boosts the trust of her man and parents geometrically.  However, I'm not in anyway suggesting that getting married as a virgin is the only way to boost one's integrity.

Spot on!

i would broadcast it with LOUD SPEAKER!! and even put up a bill board in the whole of paris,lagos and zimbabwe for it,

While i was in Gambia in 1993 i heard that when you get married, on your wedding night you will have the elders of your family in the room with a white cloth laid on the bed and if they see blood they take the cloth and celebrate and they also show everyone and if they dont see blood, the immideatly cancel the wedding.

This is not hear say i heard it from a few gambian folks and i was like  

Uhmm Jayjoster,

You took my comments TO ANOTHER REALM, all I said first of all what is the big deal in announcing someone is a virgin AT AN ALTAR?!!!  Secondly of all just because  someone shout out they are a virgin doesn't make them virgins nowadays for many reasons, thirdly of all if you have to gain respect of a parent BY TELLING THEM YOUR WIFE IS A VIRGIN something is wrong with that, they should have respected her for BEING your wife of choice PERIOD, FOURTHLY OF ALL I did not jam anything in nobody's throats UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE, my original statement was WHO CARES?

Last thing, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin and if you save yourself for your marriage (coughing bullcrit) then so be it,

iyatrustee:

@ the reception? how did know then? [s]but a 40year old Virgin the thing go don rust, u would need a whole drum of lubricant to enter there[/s]. i wont wish that kind work for mmy brother

do you mean the work would be more than drilling for oil?


Topic.

NO NEED.

190:

i would broadcast it with LOUD SPEAKER!! and even put up a bill board in the whole of paris,lagos and zimbabwe for it,

lol

omega25red:

While i was in Gambia in 1993 i heard that when you get married, on your wedding night you will have the elders of your family in the room with a white cloth laid on the bed and if they see blood they take the cloth and celebrate and they also show everyone and if they dont see blood, the immideatly cancel the wedding.



This is not hear say i heard it from a few gambian folks and i was like  

I know of this same tradition in some parts of Nigeria.  I also know that some couples who love each other and want to give credibility to their wedding and marriage, stain the white cloth with blood from other sources just to satisfy the elders.

Mrs. Eve:

Uhmm Jayjoster,

You took my comments TO ANOTHER REALM, all I said first of all what is the big deal in announcing someone is a virgin AT AN ALTAR?!!! Secondly of all just because someone shout out they are a virgin doesn't make them virgins nowadays for many reasons, thirdly of all if you have to gain respect of a parent BY TELLING THEM YOUR WIFE IS A VIRGIN something is wrong with that, they should have respected her for BEING your wife of choice PERIOD, FOURTHLY OF ALL I did not jam anything in nobody's throats UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE, my original statement was WHO CARES?

Last thing, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin and if you save yourself for your marriage (coughing bullcrit) then so be it,

Fair enough! It's Jayfoster!

@topic, That's old

Though few Virgin women are getting married now a days,still not bad to broadcast  Bride's virginity. In Saudi ArabiaTraditional: Muslim brides are expected to be virgins when they marry and the groom announces the virginity of the bride as a part of the celebration.On the other hand,We are now living in the new era,people are now Modern and Virginity is no longer a big deal for couple binded with sincere love,passion and care.Even we heard of divorced man/woman married to singles.Marriage is not a matter of Virginity but it's a matter of True love,loyalty and care towards each other.

There are also surgeries women can get to RECLAIM THEIR VIRGINITY, that what I been trying to tell this POSTER HERE,

(throws a dish at the door)