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Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by DanG1(m): 7:25am On Dec 07, 2010
This is a discussion that transpired between I and my girlfriend just yesterday/ this morning and please I need your advise or input. I really need to know if am doing the right thing and if there is anyway we can handle this better. Prior to this case, about a month ago we had same issue with another lecturer who gave her a clause of N30,000 or sleep with him, because she allowed a friend to write exams for her. And after much ado the case was let off the hook (at least that's what she told me), and now this one again!!! Please I need you guys to help me here, i will update you more on the events that unfold later on

HER: Okay dear. Have u seen my status update? Have been crying all day & i cnt sleep untill dis time of the nite

ME:
Yea, I saw it, I called u earlier to talk about it but u were talking as if i was disturbing u, n u were rushing me to finish off n get going. Which one is this again?


[b]HER: Sorry! Am having a bad time & i have been crying all day. I dnt even want to be picking my calls so that i will not extend my anger to som1 else. I went for my examz yesterday with my phone in my jeans trouser pocket & the phone rang during the exams. The lecturer walked up to me & collected my script & then asked d sch security to take me out. I cried & beg but the man did not listen. He told the sch securities that i was using my phone to do examination malpractise. The sch security took me to their office & i beg & cried, finally one of them asked me to go & bring N35,000 or else they will 4ward my name to de examination malpractise pannel. I went & meet de Lecturer & the man said that i shuld bring N65,000 or go & pay for a hotel then call him to come & sleep with him b4 friday or else he will sent my name to the Displinary committe for me to be expelled. My dear, i feel like killing myself because my parent will kill me. I even have another paper to write but i cnt read because am almost dead. I wish God culd send an Angel 4rm heaven. . .*Tears Drop*[/b]


ME: Hey u dnt have to cry, he is a man like you and dont let his actions affect you that much n change ur life. Did u really do any exam malpractice?
Did he call ur line so that people can think you are using the fone to cheat?
If yes y don't u just go to the disciplinary board and tell them everything, with sincerity n truth n show dem the missed call you had, and let them judge you. But dont play into his hands. Just tell him you are ready to go to the disciplinary committe n not ready to take his offer

Evey, please I need you to be transparent on this matter, treat it with good sense of maturity, dont play to d mans tune, let him take you to the board and make his comments there, Use your fone to make recordings when he is discussing with u n use it to your advantage in the panel


HER: Hey! He was not the one that called my line. My Cousin in Uyo was de one that called me whn i was in de exams hall. I cnt face that committe because the committe is made up of lecturers like him & a fellow lecturer will never betray his fellow lecturer 4 a student. I wish dis world culd come to and end! In the history of dis university, nobody has ever faced de panel & come out winning b4. Ask any1 in my sch. I just need to have dis money & safe myself 4rm dis shame, sadness & shock to my family if they hear it. Swt-hrt, pls help me! My two knees are on the floor with tears in my eyes


ME: You just have to believe in yourself and stop making issues hard for you, if your parents also hear of these they will also want you to go to the panel n face them. What is the assurance dat after paying he won't ask for more and would let you off the hook.
Wat evidences does he have against you? Babe I can give you the money but that is not the solution and that is not the way out, am sorry lets do the right thing. Face the panel and explain your self. Us ur fone to record discussions, but for the money or sell yourself it is out of the question


HER: Hmmm. . .I dnt even want my Mum to hear about it because she is not in a gud health condition. Swt-hrt, ''it is better to off the fire immediately it starts burning than to off it later''. I dnt want thi case to get to the pannel because i dnt want to take the risk dear. I cnt even withstand seeing my name on campus notic board about facing the pannel for examination malpractise. Pls save me 4rm this shame because i dnt want to spoil my name, image & that of my family. The man will not ask for more or don anything again after i have given him the money. I have not even eaten & am so tried right now. Pls dear, if u have the money just help me so that i can put myself together & read for my next exams. Pls will you give me the money dear?



ME: Definitely NO! I won't be part of succumbing to that kind of deal, its either you face the panel or nothing. I mean you speak of him as if yous o much trust him, well do yourself more good and speak to your parents about whats happening and sit down and think of the pros and cons of all available solutions, but if you still wanna go ahead to pay the money, then I won't be part of that mess
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by Nobody: 7:32am On Dec 07, 2010
There's definitely more to this story;
just be'cus the fone rang and u're charged with exam malpractice
not as if "she" picked the call?

This story looks 70% UNTRUE, AND 30% TRUE

just my tot sha
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by InkedNerd(f): 7:35am On Dec 07, 2010
Hmmm, interesting story undecided.
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by Nobody: 7:37am On Dec 07, 2010
sorry to digress

@Ink

seems school has taken u away from NL
welcome back
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by InkedNerd(f): 7:46am On Dec 07, 2010
@OP: Please forgive me for the side convo. By the way, its good that you told her to speak to her parents first. She has no business telling you first if you're not the one paying for her tuition.

@Firearm: No, its not school. Its work undecided.
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by freecocoa(f): 8:07am On Dec 07, 2010
Op please whats the name of her school abi is it not in naija?i go to a university,infact i've even been caught cheating once(no blame me,the course no be beans)your babe isn't telling you the truth,her phone only rang 4 christ's sake,no lecturer would demand dat much just cos a phone rang,belive me if your babe was even caught cheating there are so many ways to escape(xcept the lecturer knows you personaly,reg no and stuff)there's more to the story than she's letting on.
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by MzWumi(f): 8:10am On Dec 07, 2010
The story she told you is pure cow dung! There is so much more to the story than she is letting on. She is trying to manipulate your emotions for her, don't fall for it brah!
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by racheal84(f): 8:19am On Dec 07, 2010
im also gonna have to say something doesnt seem right. Just cus her phone rang? hm im not from nigeria but that seems a little harsh just for a phone ringing,
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by okeymadu(m): 8:25am On Dec 07, 2010
@OP. How did end up with such wolf dressed up in sheep attire? Well my friend,  I am happy that you already told her that you won't be part of the show.

It is obviously clear that she knows how to devise means of draining your pocket and taking you for a ride, hope say u neva fall mumu well well before now?


Now, the next step is to discharge her and tell her that you are through with her.

Wake up man.
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by oniema(m): 8:56am On Dec 07, 2010
What a wonderful post @ OP i dont think you need any advice on this issue xcept u didnt school in Nigeria even @ dat the whole story is a bull shit. Its either she is out to swindle you of your hard earn money then dump you or she just want to pay some lecturers for grades cos she knew you wont want the idea of her sleeping with lecturers.

Shine your eyes bo
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by Nobody: 9:05am On Dec 07, 2010
The sch security took me to their office & i beg & cried, finally one of them asked me to go & bring N35,000 or else they will 4ward my name to de examination malpractise pannel. I went & meet de Lecturer & the man said that i shuld bring N65,000 or go & pay for a hotel then call him to come & sleep with him b4 friday or else he will sent my name to the Displinary committe for me to be expelled.

hey bro ,that up there is a big fat lie,your girl is a scammmm,am sure you have been helping out wih money before but now she needs more money.she just made it look like everybody demanded for money.

abeg open you eyes oooooo,such stories comes from waywards in school ,really sorry if i sound a bit insultive
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by freecocoa(f): 9:50am On Dec 07, 2010
Mehn!i've been reasoning this issue and its just so not true wat she said,its actually annoying that she'd lie such a yeye and cheap lie,she must see you as a mugu,security men dat you'll give #500 and they'd free you for an offence like cheating,a lecturer that would sign on your script and fail you(in which case you carry over the course),or collect your script and not allow to finish the exam,if worse comes worst you'd sign a malpratice form,face a panel and get an exra year or two(depending),expulsion rarely comes except when the case is as serious as impersonation.that girl is a pure 419ner.
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by oniema(m): 10:05am On Dec 07, 2010
@OP i think if you have a little time @ your disposal go to her school without her knowledge that you'll be coming search for her and ask her to take you to the lecturer involve that you need to speak to him man to man. I guess the truth will stare u in the face

@freecocoa nigeria securities are very cheap for N500 even there baba in black uniform dey collect N100 and an arm robber will go free grin grin grin
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by djojo(m): 10:34am On Dec 07, 2010
hello house and poster, why are people talking like this, the guy want advise not comment or abusive words on him.
this case happen in most Nigerian Universities where lecturer will want to go down with a lady and he will be looking for a way to get rid of the lady.
The girl may be one of the dull girl or she may need the money to do something else or she she was caught red handed by the lecturer during exam cheating.
for me i will advise u not to give her the money cos it is two side of a coins which may be true or false
It is true that lecturers demand from students it is those that has not experience that will against that,
but investigate the case urself if u are interested in it
and how much do u trust this girl before living for school
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by 190: 10:40am On Dec 07, 2010
MAGA NOR NEED PAY!!


HAHAHAHA,


SO ITS EITHER YOU PAY THE MONEY FOR HER XMAS SHOPPING

OR SHE GOES AND SLEEP WITH THE LECTURER AND YOU ARE AWARE AND HE PROVIDES THE BILL


THIS GIRL IS SO PHOCKING SHARP!!

DAMN, NIGERIAN GIRLS I DUFF MY HAT FOR UNA OOH,

UNA 2 MUCH!!
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by DanG1(m): 10:51am On Dec 07, 2010
Firearm:

There's definitely more to this story;
just be'cus the fone rang and u're charged with exam malpractice
not as if "she" picked the call?

This story looks 70% UNTRUE, AND 30% TRUE

just my tot sha

Yea same thing I thought too thats y I came here to fetch more info


Inked_Nerd:

@OP: Please forgive me for the side convo. By the way, its good that you told her to speak to her parents first. She has no business telling you first if you're not the one paying for her tuition.

@Firearm: No, its not school. Its work undecided.

Thats my worry she doesn't want to inform her folks

freecocoa:

Op please whats the name of her school abi is it not in naija?i go to a university,infact i've even been caught cheating once(no blame me,the course no be beans)your babe isn't telling you the truth,her phone only rang 4 christ's sake,no lecturer would demand dat much just cos a phone rang,belive me if your babe was even caught cheating there are so many ways to escape(xcept the lecturer knows you personaly,reg no and stuff)there's more to the story than she's letting on.

Univerity of calabar, and I think she is actually not saying something, am just not happy bout the way she is treating this
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by DanG1(m): 11:09am On Dec 07, 2010
MzWumi:

The story she told you is pure cow dung! There is so much more to the story than she is letting on. She is trying to manipulate your emotions for her, don't fall for it brah!
Dont really know wat to tink

racheal84:

im also gonna have to say something doesnt seem right. Just cus her phone rang? hm im not from nigeria but that seems a little harsh just for a phone ringing,

Abi, you reason my line

okeymadu:

@OP. How did end up with such wolf dressed up in sheep attire? Well my friend, I am happy that you already told her that you won't be part of the show.

It is obviously clear that she knows how to devise means of draining your pocket and taking you for a ride, hope say u neva fall mumu well well before now?


Now, the next step is to discharge her and tell her that you are through with her.

Wake up man.
Well I will have to think about the dischaging issue, I think I need to dig more and c if I can find truth in what she is saying cos this is getting out of hand
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by DanG1(m): 11:21am On Dec 07, 2010
This is the latest message I got back from her and that was my reply, and this reply is in that way because of responses I have gotten from here, I will try to go along this line to see if she would come up with something better. Thanks guys

07 December at 08:00 Report
SHE: Tnx so much for turning me dwn. I wish dis world will just come to and end or i culd turn back the hands of time. I cnt believe that u culd say that to me because i need ur help to safe my future. My dear, i cnt take that risk with my future.
Will u be happy to hear that i have been expelled of de sch after facing de face?
Will u be happy to hear that my Mum had a high BP after hearing de news?
Will u be happu to see me commit sucide because i cnt face my family again?
U are my last hope & if u turn me dwn then i will knw that am empty in this world. Why dnt u just close ur eyes & do it for me to safe my future & the happiness of my family. Pls?
Sent via Facebook Mobile .


07 December at 11:15
ME: Sorry, I will need to come to your school with my legal adviser and we can trash this out, with whoever is into this, I would not compromise my values for this. One thing I have to assure you here is that I won't pay that money neither will you or would you do anything stupid. Just talked to my legal adviser and we will be making the trip on thursady. Hold on everything will be fine
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by md4real(m): 11:26am On Dec 07, 2010
Firearm:

There's definitely more to this story;
[color=#990000]just be'cus the fone rang and u're charged with exam malpractice

not as if "she" picked the call?

This story looks 70% UNTRUE, AND 30% TRUE

just my tot sha[/color]

yes its so true. i have seen worse. the phone did not even ring but em was caught with it in the hall and he was charged with exam malpractice. its clearly stated on the back of most exams cards that electronic devices are not allowed in exams hall. the chick might not be lying..
i believe the guy need to give her all the needed support. seriously i know what it feels to be in her shoes and the last thing she need now is not a boyfriend that does not trust her or not been supportive.
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by freecocoa(f): 12:15pm On Dec 07, 2010
md4real:

yes its so true. i have seen worse. the phone did not even ring but em was caught with it in the hall and he was charged with exam malpractice. its clearly stated on the back of most exams cards that electronic devices are not allowed in exams hall. the chick might not be lying..
i believe the guy need to give her all the needed support. seriously i know what it feels to be in her shoes and the last thing she need now is not a boyfriend that does not trust her or not been supportive.
hellooo am sorry i have to disagree wiv you are u in nigeria?true u are not allowed to come to the exam hall wiv a phone but the worst that can happen when you are caught wiv one is that it'll be seized especially when you weren't seeing operating it,do you know how much is involved here?N65 000,C'mon think about it,she even mentioned suicide,the girl is just gold digging,which family in naija will say they don't know whats up wiv the edu system?that will make her say she can't face her folks,i'm a student in a uni too,i've written so many exams(even cheated in some)i've seen people who were caught cheating too,mehn what are we talking here?go to a university and tell students this story and hear their response,am in school now,wish you were here to hear what my lodge mates and fellow students are saying.the babe wants to con but she is still a learner period.
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by Omolola1(f): 12:29pm On Dec 07, 2010
The highest a lecturer can do since d fone rang is seize her phone,i suspect foul play. go ahead wiv ur plan 2 vst d sch
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by Specialist900(m): 12:32pm On Dec 07, 2010
Poster.

Story story.
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by Nobody: 12:48pm On Dec 07, 2010
@poster
we can ALL clearly see that the only thing that matters to her is that you give her the money. any other proposal to squash the matter is irrelevant to her thus any wise person would suspect foul play.
look at how she is trying to blackmail you into paying her by talking about shame/future and even mum high blood pressure ROTFLMAO but yet  she is not ready to face the facts at hand.

[b]SHE: Tnx so much for turning me dwn. I wish dis world will just come to and end or i culd turn back the hands of time. I cnt believe that u culd say that to me because i need your help to safe my future. My dear, i cnt take that risk with my future.
see how she is shifting your failure to pay as the reason for the end of her world and your money being the only way to save her from "death".

Will u be happy to hear that i have been expelled of de sch after facing de face?
blaming YOU for the outcome of this mess, she has nothing to do with it all, YOU are to blame regardless! lol

Will u be happy to hear that my Mum had a high BP after hearing de news?
blaming YOU for her mum illness!!!! why not her papa's cheating ways too and her lil brotha's chronic mas.turbation while we are at it?!

Will u be happu to see me commit sucide because i cnt face my family again?
her death will be on your conscience AND YOUR FAULT, surely life is worth more than 65k. and also you will be single again

U are my last hope & if u turn me dwn then i will knw that am empty in this world. Why dnt u just close your eyes & do it for me to safe my future & the happiness of my family. Pls?
making you believe that there are NO OTHER OPTIONS than to pay the 65K and that only you can do that. she is again using her future and family to FORCE you into paying.
[/b]
bro that girl is GOOD and you are definitely not her first in these "blackmail methodes"!!!!

SHE made a mistake by having her phone on during an exam and therefore should face the consequences of her stoopid action. here is a clue of what i would advise her: secretly record the lecturer asking for s.ex and blackmail him back(with the recording) that you will expose him on youtube and all over 9ja. believe me, he will step back!
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by Specialist900(m): 1:22pm On Dec 07, 2010
Guy you want a repeat of the ambrose ali saga? That wouldn't be a sight to behold.
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by md4real(m): 4:17pm On Dec 07, 2010
freecocoa:

hellooo am sorry i have to disagree wiv you are u in nigeria?true u are not allowed to come to the exam hall wiv a phone but the worst that can happen when you are caught wiv one is that it'll be seized especially when you weren't seeing operating it,do you know how much is involved here?N65 000,C'mon think about it,she even mentioned suicide,the girl is just gold digging,which family in naija will say they don't know whats up wiv the edu system?that will make her say she can't face her folks,i'm a student in a uni too,i've written so many exams(even cheated in some)i've seen people who were caught cheating too,mehn what are we talking here?go to a university and tell students this story and hear their response,am in school now,wish you were here to hear what my lodge mates and fellow students are saying.the babe wants to con but she is still a learner period.
sweerie, i never supported the idea of paying any sum whatsoever for situations like this but i can tell you that my storyline your replied to below happens and exists especially in the northern institution. ask any ABUSITE[A.B.U] (from social science faculty to be specific). all i am saying is that THE GUY SHOULD BE SUPPORTIVE AND FOLLOW UP THE ISSUE.
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by freecocoa(f): 4:40pm On Dec 07, 2010
md4real:

sweerie, i never supported the idea of paying any sum whatsoever for situations like this but i can tell you that my storyline your replied to below happens and exists especially in the northern institution. ask any ABUSITE[A.B.U] (from social science faculty to be specific). all i am saying is that THE GUY SHOULD BE SUPPORTIVE AND FOLLOW UP THE ISSUE.
ok dear but i still maintain what i said sha cheers!
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by prettynals: 4:57pm On Dec 07, 2010
Interesting post. I sugest you don't tell her when your're planning to visit but surprise her and insist on not ONLY meeting the lecturer and security guards (some lecturers might be willing to assist her depending on her relationship with) but reporting them to the School authority, I went to UNICAL and i can only tell you this, SORRY but your girl is lying and if you have ANY plan(s) for a future with her, please be sure you can accomodate ANYTHING she will do with you,
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by botahj: 5:04pm On Dec 07, 2010
@OP

    That your supposed girlfriend is 90% SCAM in its purest form. I once met someone like that who would act like the world is about to end if you don't agree to her various forms of deceit. I had to ensure i used my senses by taking steps that may make you look wicked and heartless so as not to be taken for a ride. Certain women don't mind been deceitful so long you are a willing prey. I would advice you keep your money and act like you have heared and would soon take action but let her wait for eternity. Just play along like you have already done but this time in a better form. She can only have two words for you, STINGY or FOOLISH. Its left for you to decide which you rather prefer to be known as. Cheers.
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by iice(f): 5:06pm On Dec 07, 2010
Women and their hysterics undecided
Having been burnt once shouldn't she have been more careful?
The last part of her message is most irritating.
Why is she making it like you are the guilty party?  This is one of the reasons why i don't advocate men paying rent allowance. . .women use it to manipulate you guys, not just financially but emotionally.
She should wait to see the outcome with your talks with the lecturer before she starts the 'i wish the world will end, my parents will have bp because of you, my life will be over because of you' blabber.  Where was her own head when she carried phone to exam hall?  Not saying that we don't make mistakes, but please own up your own stupidity and stop blaming others especially those who aren't to blame angry
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by DanG1(m): 6:33pm On Dec 07, 2010
I wish i had magic to solve my problems right now. GOD pls send me a caring & kindly hearted Guy/Man that will blow my problems away into the wind like a Snow White kiss!


This was her latest post on her facebook wall and with this I think she is just nothing but scam material, after 1 year now she proved who she is, nofin more but SCAMMMMMMM. tHANKS GUYS
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by excoba101: 6:50pm On Dec 07, 2010
The poster seem more like the scammer to me. I receive scam emails with his/her kind of head sometimes. "PLEASE TREAT AS URGENT", "URGENT RESPONSE NEEDED" etc grin
Re: Please Treat As Serious And Urgent I Need Your Advice And Way Forward by Nobody: 7:18pm On Dec 07, 2010
Dan-G:

I wish i had magic to solve my problems right now. GOD pls send me a caring & kindly hearted Guy/Man that will blow my problems away into the wind like a Snow White kiss!

This was her latest post on her facebook wall and with this I think she is just nothing but scam material, after 1 year now she proved who she is, nofin more but SCAMMMMMMM. tHANKS GUYS

she is advertising on Fb for sugar daddies and possible future scam victim, lol!
notice how she believes that being a "caring kinded guy"  aka mugu, means that you should pay pay pay!!!

the sad part is: watch and see how many dumbasses will be ready to"help". . . . . . . . .

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