You wan say you be Grandma? Still No wahala.

@ OP Some men just keep a closed ear. All they want to hear is themselves talking. You just have to learn to deal with such people.

yes indeed I am a grandma, even if I am younger than most Grandma`s

Simple, you give her a breakfast in bed,in the morning,
Rub her feet
Make sure all the household chores are done
Send flowers/teddy bear to her job
Wine and dine her for dinner, while she opens the box of jewelry that you bought for her, over candlelight
to top it off, give her lots of pre-intimacy and use your tongue to manipulate her love garden


From then on she will listen to EVERY word that you say

mutter:

dayokanu, sorry I am married, I feel flattered but you know I think I am also just too old for you.
My kids are the once getting married now

erm, erm, Is there any of your daughters who is like you? Can we start the negotiation now?

I'll make you an offer you cant refuse

@mutter,
you can reach me on this e-mail address (ttylsoon@hotmail.ca)

I'll respond to you from my real e-mail address.

Thanks.

What is this insinuation that it's always the male spouse. My wife is close minded as hell

just pretnd as if everything she says is right, besides counsell her wen u think she is happy most. with all dis, i blieve she could change.

some shits are better left imagined. bt since is the present situation, am glad you use your head. however, you could still add some heart. use your head however when picking the suggestions made on nairaland. and always remember that a broken friendship is beta than a broken marriage

Honestly, Mutter has said it all. The equality thing is the problem here. When a lady believes she can do it all by herself, when she thinks she can handle and get anything she wants on her own, the problem sets in. On the phone saga, lets assume Ujujoan can not afford the cheapest phone in the market, don't u guys think she will appreciate whatever her Man bought for her? Same goes for the Tyre story.

A man is naturally built with ego and anytime a man gets things done in his own way especially to his wife/female friend, he feels on top of the world. When a woman gives any man impression that she knows better or trying to prove a point, a man's ego is chattered!!!

Now Uju, let me ask some questions. If ur man leaves to ur decision always, how will u feel? If he is the type that will tell u to go ahead and gets anything done by yourself cos his mother used to do the same thing, would u still feel secured? If he is the type that will give u money for anything u want and ask u to sort urself out, wont u feel he is not caring enough? U better appreciate what u av and take the position of African woman u are.


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I'm not saying man should be overbearing ooooooooo, but him be the African Man he is.[/b][/b][/size]

bring up an argument,as a man u talk first and dont let her say a word and if she mistakenly open her mouth to wag with u, shut her up and throw her out in the desert, thats how to deal with those kind of ppl case closed,, next?

^^^^ Oh my!

@ujujoan, if you cannot tolerate this 'problematic' attitude and he still does not see reason with you when you discuss it with him, please don't marry him UNLESS you are happy to ENDURE the attitude FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE or intend to deal with it by 'SMASHING BOTTLES' to get him to consider your opinions.

The 'silence' approach works for my Husband; It lets him learn from the MISTAKE! Thankfully, he is humble enough to admit when it turns out he was wrong and I was right. -(most times , and do I ride on it!)! He gets 'suspicious' when I do not offer my 'opinion/preference' on matters!

Thank God I ditched my former 'African-pride' man! He had lived and lectured in the UK for almost a decade but a village farmer in Oyo had a better head! He had the mind-set that any Nigerian woman who had travelled out of Naija would be lording it over her husband!

Quite some very nice advice

cheat on them with an open minded gay