We actually finished from the same primary schools back in the 90's and to her theory which I cannot recollect is that we felt something for one another but unfortunately, we lost contacts after scu. As faith could perform its mirracle we came accross when we were in senior secondary level to be precise SS2 and we got along. After our final year in secondary scu, sometin came up nd we lost contacts again and left for diff higher institutions. Arround September 2009 we came accross again and she's started paying me a visit which I neva rejected. Up to dis moment she's right there in my life but I dont feel a dime for her.
I used to show her my worse by lying to her, bringing another lady home, not picking her calls, frown my face, giving her alot of excusses that; you are bcoming more fatter for my liking; I have long to way to go wit my education and not ready to put any woman at home for now,  but she won't just get it, she couldn't read between the lines.
But my family wants me to make her happy all the time so that she cud have something to say about me even we later go our separate ways. But for me, as long as she's in my life, I dont fell comfortable. I dont know how to tell her or what to do because I'm afraid that she culd go to any length to have me simply because she said I was the guy who took her pride which I dont concur.
Pls, help me out. Its not something to laugh.

Bang her sister in the girlfriend's bed and wait until she come home before walking out with the sister.

190:

OP: Who sound matured why not sit her down and tell her,

why do things just cos someone pushed you to doing it,

Sit her down and tell her you have no feelings for you and she would go,

@190, do you thats going to work? Some people are not with good listening ears.
Besides, that could pose a big threat to my life, she can harm me you know,

Ask her for a Three_some dude.
I betya she'll cry, smack ya across the face n leave your life for good.gluk

Mrs, Eve:

Bang her sister in the girlfriend's bed and wait until she come home before walking out with the sister.

haba! Is this comin 4rm a lady?

Orton1_0:

Ask her for a Three_some dude.
I betya she'll cry, smack ya across the face n leave your life for good.gluk

this is coming from a lady,who disguises herself as a man. smh!

@190, nobody prays to be promiscuous after marriage or having mistress outside marriage. Its normal to date and have courtship for both parties to know wheather they can realy make a fine couple. Thats just the case here, I've seen many things I dont like about her.
I'm afraid of telling her this on one-on-one chat because I dont know how she's going to handle that. Besides, I dont want her to break down emotionally or having any emotional distress.

Mygoldie:




this is coming from a lady,who disguises herself as a man. smh!

lol. I'm no lady ma dear Mygoldie, I do have cojones btw ma legs. Wana see??
*winks*

@OP. You have two options.
Tell her politely or continue to have her around you.

190:

^^Mate You have seen so many things u dont like about her,
There is no better way than to sit her down and tell her these things

Then chip go for the icebreaker (I dont think this is working out)
Wish her the best of luck, Im telling u, doing things that would frustrate her would

only make her more determined 2 stay back and show you that she really loves u even if you dont
return back her love 2 u and trust me, ure doing more harm than good to yourself, trying 2 hurt and scare her away!

true talk.

(laughing visualizing Mygoldie saying "what is this shit you call cojones?"

olaeday:

@190, nobody prays to be promiscuous after marriage or having mistress outside marriage. Its normal to date and have courtship for both parties to know wheather they can realy make a fine couple. Thats just the case here, I've seen many things I dont like about her.
I'm afraid of telling her this on one-on-one chat because I dont know how she's going to handle that. Besides, I dont want her to break down emotionally or having any emotional distress.

Heeya,
I now understand ur dilemma,and i don't think i wanna be in ur shoes right now. i guess ma party idea is rather dumb.

OK, how about telling her you want some time alone to clear ur head and think about what the future has in store for the both of you, you guys should be apart for an agreed period of time, no calls, texts or even spying.
Then you break the egg on her face on ur reunion.

Mrs, Eve:

(laughing visualizing Mygoldie saying "what is this poo you call cojones?"

Lmao.
Naah dear.

You were man enough to take her pride,yet you become a sissy in telling her ur mind now.
Well, maybe you should take advantage of the free midnite calls and tell her as nicely as you can. Prepare her mind very well on how you'l want her to awake so you can discus a very important mata.
Wish you luck

@everyone, I have tried to talk to her even in a gentle and politeful way. I tried to make her reasons with me but it seems she always turn the deaf ears. She'll reson for a while and after some weeks she'll raise the issue of marriage over and over. I've made her realise that I'm not ready yet but, she says if only we could arrange for introduction this year or next. As I've said earlier that she's not some1 I can settle down with.
Believe me, not all girls dated end up being ur wives.

olaeday:

@everyone, I have tried to talk to her even in a gentle and politeful way. I tried to make her reasons with me but it seems she always turn the deaf ears. She'll reson for a while and after some weeks she'll raise the issue of marriage over and over. I've made her realise that I'm not ready yet but, she says if only we could arrange for introduction this year or next. As I've said earlier that she's not some1 I can settle down with.
Believe me, not all girls dated end up being your wives.

don't tell her you are not ready, tell her you don't love her

there is no polite way of doing it just get the damn thing done

you are wasting time hanging in there trying to do it
before she go give you something eat run for your life,