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Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Nobody: 7:02am On Jan 11, 2011 |
@ Dayo, Likeme, Genuis et al Let's not get sentimental her cos IMO that's what spoils relationships. We are know that at least 70% of the time, guys tend to forget the girl that was there for him through thick and thin . . . especially when they finally realize they can make it on their own. The main thing to focus on here is if it's right for a woman to keep sponsoring a guy at her own detriment in the name of love . . . . The answer is clearly NO. Is it right for the guy to keep accepting her handouts knowing she was overdrawing her account? NO! As of now, they are both in a relationship so it's about their individual needs. She has to protect hers first before thinking of a boyfriend. Besides what message is she passing across to him? That it's okay for him to laze around since she can pick up the bills? I say again, there's something fundamentally wrong with a man who relies on his gf (not fiancee or wife) for his source of livelihood. Must he have a girlfriend? If he know he's broke he should focus on taking care of himself and leave girls alone. When's he's financially stable, he can look for a girlfriend. At least then he'll be able to contribute his part in the relationship and his respect will be intact. |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Nobody: 7:06am On Jan 11, 2011 |
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Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Nobody: 9:21am On Jan 11, 2011 |
likeme: Sighs What can I say? if I call you an im[i]b[/i]ecile now, it will be an insult to your high profiled display of stupidity on here. But I guess I just have to make do with calling you an imbecil[i]e[/i]. |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Nobody: 9:29am On Jan 11, 2011 |
jay bee: AHHHHHHH. It is quite refreshing to know that we still have responsible and sensible men on here. Atleast this is going to calm my worried nerves. |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Nobody: 9:38am On Jan 11, 2011 |
queensmith: I did love someone a few hours after I talked with him, and in 3 months I was tripping, before a year I changed from my fathers name to his. This was many years back and believe me the love is still strong infact stronger than it used to be. |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Nobody: 9:43am On Jan 11, 2011 |
Please, i need advice and opinion from matured people. Married peeps and those in serious relationships. There you go OAM4JENNY. Now I know you are after my money, the relationship is over I don't wanna end up cooking ewedu for you everyday and the only thing you use to pay me back is your weapon of mass destruction. I no do again |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Nobody: 10:11am On Jan 11, 2011 |
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Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Nobody: 10:25am On Jan 11, 2011 |
^^Ki ni mo se nowww Dilute ke? for wiaaaa? MR JK once offered to send me to his village to live with his grand ma when I refused , he said he wouldn't come bail me out if I get locked up in cell. |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by pslm23(f): 2:04pm On Jan 11, 2011 |
bhusayor: True Talk! Tink_sh:(Be wise!) |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by delicious1(m): 3:37pm On Jan 11, 2011 |
@OP I feel there's nothing wrong in that. But the BF should have a plan to get out there and work-you can't provide for him forever. |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by OAM4J: 3:38pm On Jan 11, 2011 |
chaircover: I agree with all you said. I just dont want us to make it look like it's a crime to help a bf in need. I agree there should be a limit and it should not be a continuous or forever thing. But hey! if my gf caanot help me in my hour of need who should? Yes I also agree that |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by OAM4J: 3:50pm On Jan 11, 2011 |
jennykadry: Tell her o. You forgot to mention how soon my weapon of mass destruction started invading your Iraq jennykadry: Do I need to start counting how many of us on Nairaland you made their accounts go RED, starting from Seun? BTW, when are you paying back my $14k loan you recently miscalculated? It will be over as soon as you returned my money, the X5, the space wagon and the house/hostel I bought for you and your 21 kids (thank God they are all still in my name ) else your a$$ remains mine till whatever do us part |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Nobody: 4:01pm On Jan 11, 2011 |
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Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by OAM4J: 4:16pm On Jan 11, 2011 |
CC I have recited Ps.51, taken off my dirty linen and put on the whole holy armour of God. Praise God am now holy. ****now you can wake up***** |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by mistique(f): 4:29am On Jan 12, 2011 |
I think you should stop giving him money if it hurts your finances. If he really loves you he will get his lazy ass out and get any job he finds and not bury you in financial debt. It is ok to help your boyfriend but girl, this smells and i think he is just using you. I live abroad and trust me i have done jobs i am not proud of even though i had a masters degree, but i had to pay my bills. KICK IS ASS ONTO THE CURB. HE SMELLS LIKE A LOSER. |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by dayokanu(m): 7:34am On Jan 12, 2011 |
Ujujoan: My own question is simple, Would your response have been the same if it was the girl taking money from the guy? |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Nobody: 12:23am On Jan 13, 2011 |
hmn,u neva give up,du you? |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by dayokanu(m): 12:35am On Jan 13, 2011 |
How can I give up on a fine girl like you? lailai |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Ranoscky(m): 4:26pm On Jan 14, 2011 |
And all these "don't give him money anymore" are comin from the NIGERIAN GIRLS that WE all knows about? Are they now sayin that the relationship in Nigeria today is 50/50? these are the people that their boyfriends bought all the things (clothes, shoes, watch, necklace, ear-rings etc) they used durin the christmas season, and all their boyfriends had in return was s3x, and NOTHING but s3x! Apart from that, their boyfriends also took them to some pleasurable places to catch fun and all that (how many girls bought the BBB they'r usin today with their money?) and here they are talkin trash about someone helpin another financialy in a TEMPORARY situation, What a BIG shame! This topic has truly revealed the kind of girls/women that we have here in NL. Op, just like I said before, do it for love, but don't do more than you can, k? God WILL SURELY reward you back! |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Nobody: 4:49pm On Jan 14, 2011 |
^^^Well you can't blame Nigerian girls. Most people speak from experience. They at one time assisted their Nigerian boyfriends who later dealt them serious blows. The logical thing is to be wary, or don't you think so? @poster I know you like to see yourself as the girl with the big heart. But since you are complaining erhmmm your heart is not that big. If you dont have peace of mind, i think you should stop. |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Ranoscky(m): 5:44pm On Jan 14, 2011 |
stillwater:Ya, it's important for her to be wary, but are the responses over this thread worth it? Let's be specific, How many guys in Nigerian today are wary of themselves when spendin on their girlfriends? How many girls in Nigeria today are wary of 50/50 in a relationship before askin their boyfriends money for BBB, hair make-up, perfume, body lotion etc, are they not also workin and earnin money for themselves? If some of the female rantins here are from none Nigerian girls, that would have be a different case, b'cos, we all know that relationships are surpose to be a 50/50 thing, to the benefit of both partner. But almost 98% of the responses on this thread are from NIGERIAN girls that WE ALL know their lifestyle (and dem stil dey form ajebor). So why nagetive responses over a girl that decided to help her boyfriend financialy? |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by dayokanu(m): 6:45pm On Jan 14, 2011 |
stillwater: From your own experience, Do you know How many men have assisted their wives financially all over time, and even carry the bulk of financial burden, that the women turned around and left them. Yet the men wont rave that much, If a man had opened a thread like this that he has been supporting his gf of 6months financially, Can you guess what the response of the "DO NOT SUPPORT HIM" brigade would have been? |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by tpia6: 1:39pm On Jan 27, 2011 |
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Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Busybody2(f): 1:09am On Jan 28, 2011 |
aktunde: People should feel free to come and post anything they want on here, but i agree with the rest of your post 100%. |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Busybody2(f): 2:09am On Jan 28, 2011 |
listentome: Overdoing what Abeg wey all the financial burden you dey bear, eh Mother Theresa listentome: Why are people making mountain out of a molehill, and trying to make you a matyr What have you done? According to you, he is not lazy, just a victim of circumstance and when he reluctantly lent money for rent from you which was your idea, he paid you back, and the only other money you have loaned him is for his visa which you know needs to be in the account for a certain number of days, SO APART FROM THIS, WHAT ELSE HAVE YOU DONE FOR HIM THAT HE SHOULD BE KISSING THE GROUND YOU WALK ON EVERY MORNING You cook and split the food between the two of you, so what? If you don't cook for him will he die Pata pata he will get potbelly from all those greasy kebabs but since when did anyone die from having a pot belly And how much is food in the UK by the way Some of us were discussing prices of food in another thread recently, and according to Aysomethin live chicken costs £1.50 each in Upton park, Debosky is willing to drive us down there free, Kadman has promised to buy petrol for the trip, even mesef has volunteered to take them to wembley where apparently 6 plantain costs £1. And luckily for us, Armyofone even volunteered to dash us free tickets to US and promised to cook for us for as long as we want to stay. Asides this £1 each of bell pepper/tomato/chilli pepper/onion and condiment is enough to cook stew for at least a week, if you buy 3 whole chicken, a bag of fish, around 30 pieces of meat, you will still get change from £20, add rice, yam, etc, how much are we talking that you are now painting the poor dude in a bad light as if you are the one paying [b]all [/b]his bills, rent, clothing him, etc whilst he sits on his a/r/s/e at home, day in, day out. And you were using such strong unfair emotives too, o ga o Ya think he will not know he is the one being discussed if he stumbled on this thread Pele pele oh |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by dayokanu(m): 2:12am On Jan 28, 2011 |
You see the way you women are? I ask If it was a guy doing this kind of support, What would her supporters say when he puts this thread out |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by tpia6: 2:17am On Jan 28, 2011 |
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Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by OAM4J: 8:44pm On Jan 28, 2011 |
tpia*: if it is the other way round, will 6 months be a short period for her to start 'shopping' the guy's money? tpia*: Tpia, dont tell me if you are my gf, I will need to 1st meet your parent and you meet mine, possibly sign an intent to marry before we can share what we have. |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by tpia6: 1:42am On Jan 29, 2011 |
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Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by Ranoscky(m): 6:42am On Jan 29, 2011 |
OAM4J:. . .Oloun O! |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by dayokanu(m): 7:10am On Jan 29, 2011 |
OAM4J: Tell dem oo. Would 6 months be too early for a guy to start spending money on you? |
Re: Am I Doing Wrong By Supporting My Boyfriend Financially? by queensmith: 11:24am On Jan 29, 2011 |
the woman is just exceptionally stupid, in this day and age- women like this piss me off to the core! jennykadry: your confusing love with something else, but lets not get into that. Only you know how you felt 6 months is waay to short to be pouring your money on anybody, especially if its in the hope youll get something back in return women with more money than sense kmt |
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