NL, What should I do? My daughter age 22 years has been telling me of a lecturer in her school.

Right from 100 level she has been harassing her and now she suppose to graduate she fail her and told her at a point blank that if she did not sleep with Her she Will not graduate.

She seek the counsel of senior lecturer in her school and other Nigeria university and she was advise not to be stubborn.

What should I do. Please advise me quickly before I kill someone.

I can help you but I need more details. School, the man's name , location etc.

Please can you confirm if the alleged harrasee is a man or a womwn, You repeadly used the word she

Bomi:

NL, What should I do? My daughter age 22 years has been telling me of a lecturer in her school.

Right from 100 level she has been harassing her and now she suppose to graduate she fail her and told her at a point blank that if she did not sleep with Her she Will not graduate.

She seek the counsel of senior lecturer in her school and other Nigeria university and she was advise not to be stubborn.

What should I do. Please advise me quickly before I kill someone.

with due respect ma,I must say that either your daughter is lying and not 'saying' it as it is or this is just a figment of your imagination.

This story could be very true.
I had that problem with a lecturer once. From 100 level i pulled his course till final year. With resits I had taken that paper6 times and it was easy. When I eventually went to meet him, he told me point blank that I had wasted too much time, he had been waiting patiently for me to come and render my dues.
He was not the only lecturer.
It is hard to prove such things.
You stand there and are confronted with either doing it or bearing the consequences.
@poster you are a good father. I know you will find a way of advising your daughter. Believe you me some parents will ask the girl to do it.

chaircover:

Please can you confirm if the alleged harrasee is a man or a womwn, You repeadly used the word she

Whatever a male lecturer can do, a female lecturer can do. . . even better. _{forgive my joke}

Anyway, it is news to me as well, I have not heard of a Nigerian female lecturer harassing a male student, not to talk of a female student, but then anything can happen.

mutter:

This story could be very true.
I had that problem with a lecturer once. From 100 level i pulled his course till final year. With resits I had taken that paper6 times and it was easy. When I eventually went to meet him, he told me point blank that I had wasted too much time, he had been waiting patiently for me to come and render my dues.
He was not the only lecturer.
It is hard to prove such things.
You stand there and are confronted with either doing it or bearing the consequences.
@poster you are a good father. I know you will find a way of advising your daughter. Believe you me some parents will ask the girl to do it.

You forgot to tell us what you eventually did to pass, or our guess is as good as yours

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Bomi:

NL, What should I do? My daughter age 22 years has been telling me of a lecturer in her school.

Right from 100 level she has been harassing her and now she suppose to graduate she fail her and told her at a point blank that if she did not sleep with Her she Will not graduate.

She seek the counsel of senior lecturer in her school and other Nigeria university and she was advise not to be stubborn.

What should I do. Please advise me quickly before I kill someone.

Is there any evidence?
2 ways to deal with this sort of problem in Nigeria
If there is real evidence,get a lawyer to sue the freaking lecturer.The downside is that justice hardly comes overnight in Naija,this approach wud prolly take ages . . .ur girls education and future wud be delayed.
Get some bad boys in the same school to go shake up the randy old goat.Downside is that the same boys might later ask for more from u or ur daughter. . . .
May God give you the wisdom to make the right choice.

@ OP

Money does wonders in Naija. Why dont you try that first and if he/she doesn't succumb, then opt for CC's idea. And if that too doesn't work, then go for some radical measures

Odunnu:

with due respect ma,I must say that either your daughter is lying and not 'saying' it as it is or this is just a figment of your imagination.

What do you mean with the above? are you trying to say it's not possible? you better not start because i had a first hand experience (not directly), so it's VERY possible.

One more thing, stop saying someone's lying when you don't even know them, it's a wrong notion, everyone deserves a chance until proven otherwise.

@Honeric: Noted.
If a lecturer fails a student and the student is sure s/he did well, in UNN(a public school) where I went to, you write a letter to the department asking for a remark of your script. Depending on who you know,it'l either be done within a week/2weeks/month. If the HOD is the cause of the friction, copy the dean of faculty. You must be sure you did well else twill backfire.If as a student you know you failed yet want to sort,its at the lecturers' discretion to say what he wants.
@poster: If you believe your daughter and think she deserves to pass, i'l advice you to take a trip to the school and see how you guys can reach a compromise. If nothing comes out of it, set the guy up and upload the video lets feed our eyes.

Like odunnu said,

If she is sure that she did well and the lecturer is just marking her down. let her not be afraid to face the issue and ask for a re-mark.

Take radical measure once and for all!Get a female OPC memberif the girl is in west and they should have a talk with the lecturer.This will definitely work and stop that nonentity.

If she is sure that she did well and the lecturer is just marking her down. let her not be afraid to face the issue and ask for a re-mark.

U re just rite, She can call for her pper(s). Note that you will have to pay for the re-mark of your pper by another Lecturer.

That is why Eruka yapaa, A.k.a cultism, seek them and they will surely help you out, get close to someone who knows them, you are safe.

born2fuck:

That is why Eruka yapaa, A.k.a cultism, seek them and they will surely help you out, get close to someone who knows them, you are safe.

chaircover's suggestion may sound like one woman's naive assumption that 'such things' as taking an important person to a lecturer will work, but I will back her up here.

I found university extremely easy, except for when the papers got back and i got inexplicably bad results again and again. Of course this was damaging to my self esteem and i kept trying my best, without having anyone to advise me on WHAT exactly to do.

Eventually I did the smart thing and showed up at the faculty with not only my parents, but family friends that were senior lecturers, including the dean of the faculty. A few questions about what the hell was going on yielded no fruit,

until suddenly my 'missing' answer sheets from years back started turning up with fantastic results and my 'lost' project mysteriously materialized in the university library of all places. Spotless, without a speck of dust despite being surrounded by dusty books.

Till today I have no clue who had it in for me or why, I just know that once you pull weight in the face of a bloody coward they will cease their cowardice. I only wish I had done it sooner, my GPA would have been saved.

Going to University in Nigeria is not something I wish on anyone.If you can help it, leave. If you can't, pray and do not be afraid to display whatever connections/protection you may have.

Send boys to the lecturer to have a word with him !!! Did i say a word, sorry I meant words with fists, belts, koboko etc etc etc

The best way our are the ways of the Godfathers and Mothers. try to talk with the guy first to get his own perspective on the issue. if it is true that he is at fault, take a well respected Gfather down there. he cant refuse! if not, set his ass up~

To those suggesting for remark be aware that its a lecturer that will remark it, they will end up frustrating her, i think a radical approach is the best choice, for him  to realise his mistakes.

Mind you poster.

what comes our way, somehow we attract it. if your girl can do a deep inward search, she will find how and why the said lecturer started to disturb her. if she is able to build up courage, able to put in hardwork to her studies, she can atand and tell her a capital NO,

JUST do it and f*********CCCCCCCCCCCkKKKKKKKKK him to death

'A' lecturer does not mark it in UNN. Its already a case if a student writes for a remark. Its a big big case no sane lecturer wants to be involved in.
1. The lecturer tables his marking scheme.
2. They pull the student's answer sheet and tally it with the signed exam attendance to correspond with writing and number.
3. They make photocopies in accordance to the number of mini committee set up.
4. A day is set and 2persons from that dept, 2 from the faculty and 1 frm any other faculty marks and then make their individual/general remarks.
Its a very transparent procedure.

switosman:

Mind you poster.

what comes our way, somehow we attract it. if your girl can do a deep inward search, she will find how and why the said lecturer started to disturb her. if she is able to build up courage, able to put in hardwork to her studies, she can atand and tell her a capital NO,

You are right. I always reserve 70% blame to any female who says she's being harassed by a lecturer

Children of nowadays do not read and go looking for shortcuts; if your daughter or ward is not dull then he can take the matter up to the university ethics committee. You have refused to disclose more information for us to give concrete advice.

It is a common phenomenon in our tertiary institutions and if your daughter can come up with vital evidence then i can help you out !!

There is this silly perception that once a child enters an higher institution, the parents need not be involved in their academic or school affairs (total rubbish of course), march down to the lecturer's office in your "war" outfit, let him know that the game is over and your daughter is "out-of-bounds."  Just make sure that your daughter is telling the truth first before you go, and give the girl a proper lecture on self-respect, public appearance, carriage and demeanour.

Sir, i recommend that you get a double barrel, aim it at his balls and squeez the trigger hard- problem solved.

Before you do anything, you need to check your daughter's grades right from 100 level. Has she been doing well or just scraping by? If it's the latter, there's a high probability that your daughter is playing with your intelligence. You may want to investigate your daughter's activities in school. Hopefully you are not suprised but do not put anything past her. What some "angel-sent" daughters do on the campus, you will not believe. You may also want to investigate the said lecturer to see if this is a trend. It's easy to get information in Nigeria if you are serious about it.

If you are absolutely sure that your daughter is on the right, then set the lecturer up. Let your daughter go see him again and record the conversation on her cell phone; that way, you can take it up. This has to be planned properly.

This is a perosnla matter jo, lets not worry our head over it

OP. This is very true and it happens a lot.
I was once a victim and my lecturer (the main person) plainly told me to go for a remark if I doubt his grades knowing fully well that majority of those that take that step never recover in my school. Its either you're expelled or you're expelled, there's no two way about it. But there's one tiny way left in which you may succeed (its not a guarantee) is for to you have a godfather in the senate, if not, dance to his tune and you'd be free someday (hopefully soon).
Wish you the best of luck