Nairaland pals am having what i feel might become a problem with my girlfriends sister. I get along with all my gf sisters ,Since december her elder sister has been asking me to get her a phone and she knws as a student,my means are limited.even my girlfriend understands that. I told her i will see hw tins go and thats what am still telling her,for her to understand it cant work,but she keeps disturbing me about it and am begining to get pissed off. Hav not told my Gf yet. What would u pals hav me do?

Why do you even want to discuss this issue here. Isn't it obvious that you should be telling your gf before you discuss it in a forum?

Tell d elder sister off, u arent dating her. And if she still insists, tell ur galfrnd. Just because u are dating her sister doesnt make u d family's atm.

I hav discussed with my gf and she says i should'nt give her more than 5k.she even says i would'nt hav asked her. But sincerely i don't want to give her any money,but i need a good excuse to giv to her.what should that excuse be?

@ OP

Your GF is wicked o ! Stay away from her and her family. If they consider you as an ATM machine at such a tender stage of your r'tnship be prepared to face the consequences once you get married to that greedy girl ! Maybe you could excuse yourself by saying you that some unexpected expense came up at school and then gradually distance yourself from that  greedy bunch !

give de girl ur own fone and how old re u ?

yagbaboy1:

Nairaland pals am having what i feel might become a problem with my girlfriends sister. I get along with all my gf sisters ,Since december her elder sister has been asking me to get her a phone and she knws as a student,my means are limited.even my girlfriend understands that. I told her i will see hw tins go and thats what am still telling her,for her to understand it cant work,but she keeps disturbing me about it and am begining to get pissed off. Hav not told my Gf yet. What would u pals hav me do?

why do you have to buy the phone

tell her straight that there is no reason to buy her one even if you had the money, she aint your responsibility and you being boyfriend to her sister doesnt give her right to ask silly favours

Poster,

Are you or have you in the past tried to buy affection and love from your girlfriend's family. From my observation and client related experience, it seems though you have "bought" family affections in the past and the Elder sister is hooked on your generosity. I am not saying that you did, I am just saying based on my observation and client related experiences.

Now, you will have to ween them off of your generosity and tell them you are not able to purchase any gift with the fact you are a student.

It is that simple. Unless you fear you will lose your girlfriend because of her elder sister. If she love you and respect you, that shouldn't be a problem.

OP.
THe best option is to tell her with a loud voice . . Let her understand you can't afford it. . . If you don't clear the poo now by the time you guys are married,I swear she will come back asking you to buy her a car/something more expensive . .So just do this once and for all . . . .If your gf loves you she will definitely understand your stand and will move on with you.

You stingy!!!

^^^Aren't you the person looking for tricks of getting money from a naija guy?
And you claim you be yankee resident?. . .SMH

^^^ yeah? And so? Are you going to give me some pointers or not?

nice guy

@ OP, gooo far away and never come back to this household or girlfriend ---- find another one.

Don't they have parents that can buy them phones ? Or why are they assuming that you as a student, can afford this extra expense ? Have you paid for other lavish items in the past ? Pick one, boldly say NO or move on with a new babe.

as easy as it is to say no, just tell her that u expected some funds (which u had planned givin to her), unfortunately it did not come. that you can't be of help.
But if u are a student, d gurl wicked gan, she no get BF?

the elder sister no get boyfriend?or wetin do her parent?guy no dul o or else dem go use u do their atm.i no fit take ds kind nonsense.my advice since u no want buy am tell her.
Some gurls no get shame at all