Is there anything that a woman will do that will make a man the beat her messily

Hello everyone I need your help on this question. Is there anything that a woman will do that will make a man the beat her messily . ( giving her black eyes) . My husband beats me so much that I can’t take it anymore.  He beat me when am pregnant, one month after give birth to our child. Because I ask him questions. He is doing thing I don’t understand , like make late calls to whom I don’t know. Keeping secrets for me. He beat me again because I told him I don’t like the way he and his boy friend use to behave.

geoger:

Hello everyone I need your help on this question. Is there anything that a woman will do that will make a man the beat her messily . ( giving her black eyes) . My husband beats me so much that I can’t take it anymore. He beat me when am pregnant, one month after give birth to our child. Because I ask him questions. He is doing thing I don’t understand , like make late calls to whom I don’t know. Keeping secrets for me. He beat me again because I told him I don’t like the way he and his boy friend use to behav

geoger:

You are right my husband is an Igbo man, he believe is good to beat a woman because that how his father treated his mother. I try to live but my mother keeps telling my to stay, to consider the kids.but i fear my life is in danger I will live. and start all over again atleast find a way to raise money and finish my education from where i stopped.

You must be an Igbo woman or a Yoruba woman . because "bini" and "warri" women beat their men

obowunmi:

@OP, a few questions for you: Did anyone force you to marry this man ?

After the beating, how do you feel ? Do you get some form of sexual satisfaction thru these beating ?s How old are you ? How many children do you have ? Are you mentally handicapped or unstable ?

Nobody force my to marry him, How do i know that he is an abuser, you met a guy who seems nice and lovely so how do i know he will abuse me, Do you get some form of sexual satisfaction thru these beating ? noway i feel like he is the devil himself. i have two kids. Are you mentally handicapped or unstable ? no but an undergraduate, i dropped out because i have nobody to support me. it's my mother only and i am the oldest of 7 children my mother's husband is late. i am 25 years old.

geoger:

Hello everyone I need your help on this question. Is there anything that a woman will do that will make a man the beat her messily . ( giving her black eyes) . My husband beats me so much that I can’t take it anymore.  He beat me when am pregnant, one month after give birth to our child. Because I ask him questions. He is doing thing I don’t understand , like make late calls to whom I don’t know. Keeping secrets for me. He beat me again because I told him I don’t like the way he and his boy friend use to behav

geoger:

@OP, a few questions for you: Did anyone force you to marry this man ?

After the beating, how do you feel ? Do you get some form of sexual satisfaction thru these beating ?s How old are you ? How many children do you have ? Are you mentally handicapped or unstable ?   

Nobody force my to marry him, How do i know that he is an abuser, you met a guy who seems nice and lovely so how do i know he will abuse me,  Do you get some form of sexual satisfaction thru these beating ? noway i feel like he is the devil himself. i have two kids. Are you mentally handicapped or unstable ? no but an undergraduate, i dropped out because i have  nobody to support me. it's my mother only and i am the oldest of 7 children my mother's husband is late. i am 25 years old.

ifyalways:

Stay there,don't do NOTHING.
Just stay and keep praying,fasting and enduring his beatings.
Beatings don't kill NO woman,we are made of sterner stuff.   
Seriously,are u asking this question woman?In this day and age? My dear,do something before something do you.
Save your head first,shuoooo,wetin be all dis 
At just 25 you have collected more than enough beatings to last you a life time and YET you have not learnt how to fight back? 

how do i fight back rather than to live, am no match for him, i have been planning to live.everyday i cry asking my self how i got into this, i never want a broken home for my kids because i know how it feels to be without a parent. that is one of the key problem i have with him.he is alway telling me about my past, like, where is your father, did he teach you how to be with a man? where did you learn how to handle a family, because you have none.you where raised from one aunty to another, so you don't have the right to say anything or come to the parlor when ever my friend is around. because when i was growing up i never saw my mother ask my father any question or come in when ever he has a visitorhe says lot of things to me, well he is killing me and i know it i don't know what to do i have nobody to turn to except God. I am sorry ask men alone because he thinks is right for a man to beat a woman, but you are welcome you can answer if you have anything to say. I just need peoples help, as i go through this.

obowunmi:

@OP, u r 25 yrs old so I will sympathize with you. One more question: where are you based ?

If you don't understand English understand this: MOVE the FCUUKK out of that house. Its not a matrimonial home --- you may have married a monster. If you are in London, Canada, or Amerikka and haven't alerted the cops yet, then you are a BIG FOOL. Your mother might bury you. If you are in Nigeria, go to a church or mosque, and ask for help. Did you have any friends when doing your undergraduate studies ? Unless u willingly want to be a punching bag. Poverty is not an excuse, your children will prefer you alive than dead.

geoger:

 No am not in Nigeria am in north Africa, I lost all my friends because he wouldn't let me call them. I don't even have my own cellphone.he seized it. he even ask me not to call my family members.

ifyalways:

[b]how do i fight back rather than to live, am no match for him, i have been planning to live.everyday i cry asking my self how i got into this, i never want a broken home for my kids because i know how  it feels to be without a parent. that is one of the key problem i have with him.he is alway telling me about my past, like, where is your father, did he teach you how to be with a man? where did you learn how to handle a family, because you have none.you where raised from one aunty to another, so you don't have the right to say anything or come to the parlor when ever my friend is around. because when i was growing up i never saw my mother ask my father any question or come in when ever he has a visitorhe says lot of things to me, well he is killing me and i know it i don't know what to do i have nobody to turn to except God. I am sorry ask men alone because he thinks is right for a man to beat a woman, but you are welcome you can answer if you have anything to say. I just need peoples help, as i go through this.[/b]
You don't want a broken home hence you wud rather die in that un-broken home than get help?
Have u thought of your kids?If he punches you at the wrong place on a wrong day and u fall and don't wake,what becomes of them?
Aside your mum,don't u have any other relative?Do u go to church,how close are u with your pastor,do u trust him?Do u have money anywhere,something to keep u going for sometime?
God won't come down from heaven to help you,You have to take the first step.
If you are in Europe,call the cops.If u are in naija,involve a trusted male relative of urs to talk with your hubby and If your hubby does not change positively afterwards MOVE OUT.
I know a NGO that wud help you with accommodation and basic stuffs till u pick up.

ifyalways:

See slavery oooh.
Atleast you still have internet,there must be a way you can contact your family online,Please DO SO.
Check online helps for women in your situation in your country of residence.

geoger:

i don't have anybody to tell to because they all know he abuse me, like my uncle once told me to quit the the relationship my husband got angry at him and say all sotrs of nonsense word to him ,since then he never care to know how i am doing.my husband don't just only abuse me he abuses and chase away any body that is close to me. i told our pastor he talk to him and he abuse him too acusing me of having an afair with him. he has once said i should stop posting here. he make me feel so sick. he check a very single thing that i do, i have no body to call a friend because he isolates me.

geoger:

yes an arab woman told me to go and call the police for him, he told that i should that nobody will listen to me that all the policemen in that station are his friend. and i don't speak arabic, can you imagine i have been here for 4 years yet can not speak a single arabic word, because i don't go out. he never liked it when i speak to any other human being.

obowunmi:

At this time, I have to conclude that the OP is making this up. Its all a LIE.

He took your phone but gave u access to an internet ---- you better stick to the mugus in North Africa. Btw, how ru. Coping with all the violent protests ?

Opuro buruku

mutter:

This woman is not lying.
She probably told the husband about the arab woman`s advice.
She would be hoping that letting the husband know that she will stay with him will make him treat her better.
georgar. I know what you are going through ands I feel for you. You have to be strong now and take a decision. A decision with no turning back.
Tell us a bit more. Where do you come from and is any of you a Nigerian.
IF you were to leave him what options do you have. Do you have family where you are?

geoger:

you believe i can't waste my time making things like this up, he gave my access to the internet because know that none of my family members are on net. and he cross checks every other thing i do on the net. this i have been happening for a very long thing but i don't post it you know why? is because he has my password. do you know how times he has beat me because i post something, am posting this because i how made up my mind to live, we have an agreement that if he beats me again i will live that what my mother told him.so even if he comes back and see this propbably he will respect his decisions. and he check the bill alway.if you notice on and off just to save the bills from courting too much.

obowunmi:

At this time, I have to conclude that the OP is making this up. Its all a LIE.

mutter:

Poor girl in the wrong place too. No help or sympathy. Such a child herself
This is waking so many bad memories for me, I was at that age myself when I had to go through such mess. I remember once I ran away to my dad with the kids and my husband had to take a long journey to pick me back. He was on his knees pleading with my father and I had to follow him back. As we were about entering Lagos he turned to me and gave me a blow in the face for making him waste time and money. He told me he would kill me if I dared try going again. I was so scared of that man my heart beat so badly when he came home.