Even the headline states it clearly: Ex-wife.

Lmmoore:

they broke up because she cheated on him with about 5 or 10 guys while he was overseas in the marine corps. he has been pretty understanding about the whole thing. he gets why i'm upset and says he would understand if i left him over it because other girls have done it to him before but[b] i really think he is worth fighting for[/b] but i dont wanna get hurt.

enkoby:

madam why cant u search for your own man? why must it be someone else's man dat u ll b struggling for? are u dat ugly? or are u dat old and worn out? mtsheew! husband snatchers! he even told u he will always be in love wit her forever because of their marriage vows, and yet you still hav d effrontery to approach nairalanders for advice. dont be dumb. pack your bags and leave him alone! damn!

elettrodad:

What's the matter with you all?
She think he is the man of her life. Why don't fight for him?
Where are the old days where we were fighting for something that deserve to be conquered??

You dating another WOMANs man.

Falcon:

Babe, you are just a soft landing. He is just passing through, believe me! 

what i'm afraid of is that he is going to find reasons to leave me to get his family back

The other night, after we had been drinking for a while

Madam the guy is just using you to satisfy his sexual feelings. If he can be so bold to tell you how much he loves his ex-wife meaning (he doesnt love you) he will glady welcome his ex-wife anytime any day she decide to returned back home. Find out what caused the seperation between him and the first wife, cos he might be lieing to you that the ex-wife was cheating on him, while he was the one that was cheating on the lady and she was force to abadone him. You are just two months with him, you haven't really know much about him.  Well i suggest you go look for another man to avoid disappointment.

That is a good reason to divorce and i am sure is a good reason to do not get involved again. Aren't you offering anything better?

yeah i think i am. i have told him that i would never cheat on him ever cause i've been cheated on before too and i've also been told by him that i'm the most beautiful and best girlfriend he has ever had. so i guess i am.

medinatl:

What kind of silly comments are this?

1. The topic stated Ex-wife. What is the definition of Ex-wife? to me it means they are not together anymore. Before you can call someone a home breaker, or an enemy of progress, it means the boyfriend will still be married.
2. Too many silly people giving unreasonable comments.
3. I love family concept too but lets not mix apples with oranges. The prayer is for a family to be together as one. But don't put the blame of a broken marriage on someone that was not even there when the ex-wife was banging 5-10 other people. If the poster is your sister, will u put the blame of the broken marriage on her?.

@Poster
1. Ignore all the silly comments about you being a home breaker, or enemy of progress.


2. The issue here is that your BOYFRIEND is texting another person behind your back. If he wants to communicate with his baby mama, he can do it in your presence with no string attached.

This is just a 2 months old relationship,  u supposed to be in the honeymoon phase with a lot of chemistry. I'll suggest you move on or let him know you are one leg in,  one leg out.

medinatl:

@ OWOLAYEMO, and emmatok,  Did I not tell her to move on?. The issue here is not the advise but how they are stated. We all forget that one day we may need others help for directions in life.  Lets be reasonable but be frank.   quote author=medinatl link=topic=620927.msg7908700#msg7908700 date=1300110760]
This is just a 2 months old relationship,  u supposed to be in the honeymoon phase with a lot of chemistry. I'll suggest you move on or let him know you are one leg in,  one leg out.

 

This lady on this forum is not only the issue at hand. The kid in the mix is the only one am praying for in all of this mess. The ex-wife is not stable,  per what is stated in the story,  she is a cheat. The Guy himself doesn't know what he wants,  he may continue to cheat even when/if he gets back to is Ex-wife.

I agree with you my guy.
But it is too complicated to stay in such relationship.
Life is too short.She needs to foresee the dangers ahead.
It is not about what the guy wants. It is abut her own future.

If you read through the tread, you will notice where she said the GUY had other GF after his ex-wife.
I hope she will not be she will not be treated as those other EX-GIRL FRIENDS.

deniyor:

@samix and similar posters without ability to make their case peacefully and mask that defect/inability by insulting other people's opinion.
You call people 'dumbsters' for advising she leave the man without giving your opinion. Do you advise a lady to go into a relationship with such complications? Would you go into such yourself?