Who should be the giver in a relationship?

What I mean is this: in relationship, [I]who should provide for who[/I]?  The girl or the boy?

Please reply, I really want to know.

The person who has money.

Thank you there my brother. God go bless you. That is the exact answer. I give you 100 A.

Uh... it's meant to be reciprocal. Both parties should try to support each other. Of course, the person with more money would provide more, and such.

I agree with you, both parties should be involved to sustain the relationship. But Money is not all you can give to sustain relationship.
It is agreed that the law of give and take is not exempted in relationship.

Vieira:

The person who has money.

Nice! it could go either ways depending on some one that has the means.

The husband or man but if the woman has then she should support him well. GUYS dont you even think of running away from your responsibility men should provide and women must support thats how it was and thats how it should always be

In my opinion, both parties should contribute towards the success of the relationship either financially or otherwise. It should be simbiotic i.e a mutual relationship where both parties benefit, when it is parasitic, the host would certainly be sucked dry someday and wont be able to function anymore.

However in a marriage setting, the man must and should always provide for the family whether or not the woman has the means. But i want to believe that a reasonable wife would support her husband.

Dablessed, you're very correct.
Na you biko.

both of them.no exemptions. You should always be willing to give to your partner.

i guess the poster is talking about providing financially....... so the one with the doe is to provide while the one with lesser doe compliments his/her effort....

i feel both parties should decide on a workable way of putting something in.

though the man i believe should be the major contributor, the wife should put something in as well.

Every relationship is different...in the event that a woman is the major provider in a relationship (Financially) we (Men) should put aside our ego and pride and accept it for what it is....that being said , I would be the provider in my relationship and I will do whatever it takes to provide for my family...gbabeski!

I support Dablessed opinion. That's the fact.

Viera, Yuo are too much that is the plain truth.

But make we guys no allow the chicks them over do am to overthrow us. If not the situation will turn into the case of a house-Husband.

Nigerians and money related issues!!. Does it really matter? And if its just a plain relationship, is there the need for a provider?

To whom much is given much is expected. I therefore support VIERA.

But in the beginning it was not so; God assigned Adam, the man to provide for the woman whom He (God) also said should look up to her husband for her needs.

So, man is a potential provider to the women and the outcome of reverse is always not fun for the man becomes 'the househusband as said by OPEYEMI

both should provide and that is it

By African tradition and culture the man is da provider. But in contemporary world anything can happen.

most african men love to exercise authority (freaking egocentirc) but when it comes to money, they compromise, dosent that sound absurd?


dablessed and emalie i totally agree with you

Eeven, if it shd be the duty of both party to prvide in a relationship, at least the men always claim to be the head of the home, so it is their major duty to provide, co's we are only a help maid to them, it not compulsory tht ladies most provide.

Ladies u gurls don't know tht men cheats on us.

Haba! hopy2005, we are not cheating you as you pointed.
You are than a mere helper because God who instituted it said "And the two shall come together and will become one.
Oneness in everything. Oneness in love,trust,faithfulness and in provision.
Though the responsibility rests on man but in addition to what he has woman is there to help.

That is why God said "Any man that is not able to provide for his family is worst than an infidel"
Man is to provide while woman also to compliment.
The two are work for the success of the family in oneness.
To make a successful relationship/home understanding must be there, must be enhanced and complimented.

Do I make any point here?

Relationship is a two way thing not a one way thing, so any body that has money at that particular point in time should provide though it is the man's duty to provide if it is followed biblically

The head of the relationship......; whoever the caps fits...... man/woman

Ra:

The head of the relationship......; whoever the caps fits...... man/woman

Can a woman be the leader/breadwinner of the family?
I think man is and woman should support.
Ra, what do you think?

haaa,
Greatpeter, I agreed with wht u said, come to think of it, the major thing tht leads to tht is love and understanding, when u love a guy u can do everything 4 him.

Anyhowsha, tht's nature for us. no body can predict

Hopy, no matter the love if there is a family where Woman is the head/breadwinner of the home it has contradicted the ordinance of God. "If any man is not able to provide for his family he's worst than an infidel" so the bible says.
Women are to help, a supporter, a help meet.

i think both of them should be the provider..de bible doesnt say de man should always be de provider did it?..dey meant to help each other innit?

nike4luv:

i think both of them should be the provider..de bible doesnt say de man should always be de provider did it?..dey meant to help each other innit?

Yes the bible did not say the man should always be the provider but it did say that he is the head of the family.

Motee! You amaze me o!

How else does the bible expect the man to be the head if he cant be the provider?

must be de head.not always be de provider..

it does not matter who is providing. like i keep screaming they both should be the provider. men a relationship should be based on equality not on one partner dominating the other!!!