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Mums in the house i need your advice and opinion, i don't know if i'm having post-partum depression or i'm just losing mind. I had my baby ten  days ago and i've been an emotional mess since. I dont get more than 3-4 hours of sleep all day and i have horrible mood swings. It all began when i returned home from the hospital, i found the whole house crowded, the kitchen was messy and cluttered. I had to swallow a lump in my throath and appear cheerful for the house guests. I've never had to share my space with anyone but my husband. now we have all sorts of people staying around supposedly to help me out, but all i see is people and clutter. its so hard to be cheerful when you're being treated like a friggin invalid while you watch people mess up the home you've kept impeccable for so long. I had thought everything would be alright once everybody left after the naming, but somehow the mood-swings have gotten worse. I've read about PPD and i think what i'm feeling is something along that line. I want to know if anyone felt something similar or its just me

Just stopped by to say 'congrats'.
Never heard of PPD all my life until now. Wow, I stil have a longway to go

my dear fellow mummy, you are not the only one that has passed through such neither will you be the last. but to help yourself, you must talk to your husband and try as much as possible  to explain how you feel to him. you said you are not getting much sleep. can you get your mom to come over and stay with you? or can you ask you husband to get you a nanny to help around in the house. cos if you dont get enough sleep after all the waking up at night to atend to your baby, you cant get better. so pls talk to your husbant about how you are feeling and you may be surprised at how understanding he may be towards your plight. above all, ask God to see you through this trying time.

NLDers sha dey 'knack' lol.Congrats Dominique.
Is this ur first baby?
Almost every mother experience one form of PPD or the other but sweetie,the only way out is communication.At this stage,the man is so soaked in the euphoria of the baby that he "might" not notice that u are hurting,speak out,let him know how u feel.(truth is that no matter how hard he tries sef,u wud still feel he ain't trying enough,lol)
If its possible,invite over someone u like and adore alot,can be ur mum,MIL or sister.
You wud soon get over it,give urself 2 weeks and u won't believe u started this thread.lol

My dear congratulations on the birth of your special bundle of joy and may the sound of laughter never depart from your household Amen

I feel you deary. I understated what you are going through. Your hormones are all over the place and your body has just been through a lot. Sleepless nights, tiredness and the fact that you have a baby who depends on you for everything is enough to make you feel  the way you are feeling. I remember after having my first I couldn't even tell you which day of the week it was for the first 2 weeks. Any little thing and I will be in tears.

Many many women suffer from baby blues after delivery however If you are not feeling much better in a few weeks then you may want to see your doctor so you can be checked out.

First things first please discuss how you feel with your husband. Try not to bottle things up. He is probably overwhelmed too, so you can be support to each other. The mistake us women sometimes make is to shut the father out after we have had the baby thinking that he wont understand. Give him a try. Chances are that he will understand and many men are hands on these days.

Secondly try and put the spotless house to the back of your mind. what is most important right now is to rest and eat well. As soon as baby kips, go and have a lie down too. Forget about housework. As time goes on, you will learn to cut corners on things and do things the quickest and simplest way. If you come to my house and all you see is dirty dishes and you cant help clean them but rather complain about them, then really maybe you shouldn't be in my house in the first instance.

If you have it at the back of your mind that you are not and cannot be supermum but you can only do what you can, you will find yourself slowly getting into a routine that is suitable for you and baby.

Remember a stressed mum means a stressed baby so please please please try to relax if you can. Wishing you all the best