masawa:

wow ,nigerian men are so desperate!!lol

masawa:

wow ,nigerian men are so desperate!!lol

kayusa:

American women will not stop to suprise me.
I am happy for you all for finding someone you love and who love you inturn but I just want to drop a piece of advise here although you don't have to take it to heart it's just a piece of advise.
It is such a shame when this foreign women go to online dating site or just met someone on a trip for the first time knowing that they are both of different race,nationality,background and financial.Men I do hope so many of you don't regret you actions later on.Because we've seen this allot on this site when this woman will come asking for advise on how to bring their man here and 6 months to 1year later the are divorced or the experience is different.
The bottom line is why will you want to marry someone who you know little about his culture,tradition and customs because when this people come here they know nothing about cross cultural and inter racial marriages they find it difficult to make it work.Don't get me wrong I am not saying everyone is bad but you know your hubby better than anyone else just make sure you count the cost and be prepared just in-case things go the other way round.
Wishing you the best.

pmdaboh:

@Treetop20

Yes, I am really married to Ebiminih Zacharia Daboh, and we reside in Greensboro, North Carolina.  I am not one of those authors that choose a topic in which they have no experience just to keep a good story going.  I have a Nigerian friend who is an author, and he writes beautifully.  Once I was so moved by what he wrote that I wrote him an email to discuss the matter, and that is when he told me the situation did not happen to him personally, but he was writing from the perspective of "if it happened to him".  From the way he wrote, I thought it was real.  I must admit I was disappointed when I found out it was not.  I am writing from real life experience though, for I know no other way to write.

Ironically, my husband, and now I, want to write  an article about, "The Real Deal About America" for prospectie Nigerian travelers who desire to come to America.  Nigerians have many misconceptions about America, in which many they think they are coming to the country where milk and honey is flowing--and everything is easy.  One such misconception is that you will come to America and walk into your dream job.  There are Nigerian men who were lawyers in Lagos that are now driving taxi cabs, for their degrees and work experiences were not deemed acceptable here in America.  Many Nigerians actually take "a few steps backwards" from the status that they once enjoyed in Nigeria when they reach these great shores of America.  My husband and I want to write an awakening piece to Nigerians concerning the REAL DEAL when you come to America, so you can have some factual information prior to making your decision and coming here.  We have some Nigerian friends of ours who came here on the lottery, and are still not working after almost a year. 

Nigerians find it hard to adjust to the way of life in America (culture, exposed immorality conitnually displayed, etc.).  I won't get into it deep on here even if I am asked questions, but I, along with my husband (co-author), will write about how the American reality pales compared to Nigerian misconceptions concerning America.  I am NOT talking negatively about my beloved country, for I am an American afterall and was born and raised here, but many Nigerians, for some reason, think they are coming to a perfect place. Once we put the facts out there, you can make your decision as to whether you want to come or not. 

pmdaboh:
The Immigration Process (Part I)
Please can I contact you privately to discuss
I am an African American woman, and I am married to a Nigerian man.  I wrote two articles entitled Nigeria is Beautiful to Me and Rejected for Loving a Nigerian Man.  These articles are posted on nigeriansinamerica.com and nigerianmuse.com.  After writing those articles, I was, and continually am, being contacted by women who  are in the process of marrying Nigerian men and want information about how to go about traveling to Lagos, preparing for the wedding, and the Immigration Process.  In an effort to address the many inquiries, I wrote The Immigration Process (Part I), and I would like to post it here if anyone is interested in reading it.

pmdaboh:
@martho

I am not trying to change the mentality of Nigerians by writing the "Realities of America", but I will write an informative piece of work; so Nigerians (or any foreigner) who come to America will not think they will have a "Fairy Tale Ending" here.  Many Nigerians may face some harsh realities when starting their life over in America.  Most college degrees from Nigeria are "not" compatible or accepted by American universities and colleges, and therefore, many Nigerians come here with their hard-earned degrees just to be told it is not accepted here--even if they have years of experience in their particular fied--they will not be hired if an American "degree" is required to get that particular job.  They, therefore, must take jobs which pay much less until they are able to go to school here and get what American job employers require.  This is a real blow to  their pride, accustomed status,  and financial situation.  Like I said, my husband has a friend who was a practicing lawyer in Lagos, and he now drives a taxi cab.  Driving a taxi cab is far better than a minimum wage job--especially if you own that cab--for you can control your daily earnings depending on the hours you work and the opportunities that come your way.  But can you imagine going from practicing law in Nigeria to flipping hamburgers in McDonald's, which pay only minimum wage.  Another friend of ours told us he had a high position in Africa, but he could only get a fast food restaurant job at Denny's when he came to America until he got his Master degree here.  It took some years for him to get his degree, for he was not eligible to receive financial aid to assist with the cost of his college courses, so he had to pay for them as he worked in a low-paying job.  It was a real financial struggle for him and his family.  My husband and I just want to bring some realities to Nigerian readers, so they will be warned of some possible adjustments they may face when they come to America.  I would rather be informed about what I may expect to find here than to come here with misconceptions and become depressed once I face American realities after I get here.  If someone wants to read what I wrote and try to position themselves beforehand by acquiring an American degree (online) before getting here, they will be in a better position than those who do not.  My information will be for those who desire to read it.