toyemz:

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payback time
dont you think?

and FYI not every nigerian women are financial burdens,there are many that have always and will always stand on their own two feet!!

he has forgotten how to relate to nigerian ladies

aribisala0:

I know this heading is provocative but i hope it can be discussed in a civil way.
john is a nigerian professional of anambra origin about 37 years old. born in the uk but grew up in nigeria studied engineering and got a very good job with an oil company as a british citizen and lives in scotland. he got married at 32 to a scottish lassie and has a son with her. they divorced 2 years ago. because of his financial situation he was able to relocate his parents to the uk and even bought a house for them. he also was responsible for funding the education of his younger siblings who are all settled now. his parents never accepted his wife or his son. eventually for a number of reasons their marriage broke down.
he worked in the UK for 9 years before getting married and had several rrelationships with women of many nationalities and races quite a few black but he has not dated a single nigerian woman since he left nigeria. this was partly because he did not meet them socially in his part of scotland.
after the break up of his marriage, in other to please his parents he decided to start dating nigerians.
we met through a friend and this is what he told me.
quite funny but he said he has forgotten how to relate to nigerian ladies. i saw photos of some of his previous ladies and they were just stunning. he said he never did any work to get them. most if not all came unto him either at work or some work related social event and they were all quite well to do many even better off than him.
in the two months before i met him he had broken up with one naija lady and was now dating another both in the UK.(ethnicity Withheld).
the first one within 6 month had demanded and received a mobile phone, a laptop and a month's rent .sex on the other hand was heavily rationed( A sore subject for him). he was used to receiving rather than giving to the women he dated previously and this was new to him.
the most recent one i have met. the girl is fine that is all i can say . she has recntly asked him for cash ; £5000 to fund some family activity in nigeria. he had agreed to give her the money the day before i met him. he asked me what he should do and was clearly quite disturbed. he was not even that much into her even though i thought she was very pretty. his main motivation seemed to be to please his parents who he obviously loves very much. my very good friend at uni who is in the US is his first cousin and they are quite close. that is how i came to meet this guy.
advice is not my strong point, i know a lot of naija guys here in the UK who spend more than that on their women some of whom have come to expect that as routine. i also know that many of such guys do not work hard for their money. i used body language to indicate that i was surprised at the amount but gave no direction.
i know that it is part of our culture that women are oppressed and have fewer opportunities than men but for how long will we continue this [b]invoicing for laptop, mobile phone etc especially for those people hustling in the west.
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surely everyone has family back home to settle?

Inked_Nerd:

@OP: What kind of women are these Nigerian girls? They sound like girls who might have had money in Nigeria and just arrived in the UK. Anyway, women like that annoy me. Sheesh!!! I see some Nigerian girls complain that guys don't give them money, gifts, etc. yet these are the same women who say they are independent. Its one thing to be in a relationship and buy gifts for one another, its another thing to expect a boyfriend, lover, partner, etc to pay for all your expenses because that is just what you expect of him. My Nigerian sistas, c'mon we seriously need to get it together. Stop claiming your independent and complaining about about someone not supporting you facially. As a whole, we as Nigerians have ourselves to blame for this. I know that Nigerian men are taught to take care of their women but I feel that in the thermocouple years, things have gotten out of hand both for men and women.



Yupp, agreed

@OP: What kind of women are these Nigerian girls? They sound like girls who might have had money in Nigeria and just arrived in the UK. Anyway, women like that annoy me. Sheesh!!! I see some Nigerian girls complain that guys don't give them money, gifts, etc. yet these are the same women who say they are independent. Its one thing to be in a relationship and buy gifts for one another, its another thing to expect a boyfriend, lover, partner, etc to pay for all your expenses because that is just what you expect of him. My Nigerian sistas, c'mon we seriously need to get it together. Stop claiming your independent and complaining about about someone not supporting you facially. As a whole, we as Nigerians have ourselves to blame for this. I know that Nigerian men are taught to take care of their women but I feel that in the thermocouple years, things have gotten out of hand both for men and women.

ekt_bear:

best thing to do is to find a woman who makes as much money as you do. Or one who isn't very materialistic.

Poor + materialistic chick = recipe for disaster

pro01:

Unfortunately, the tragedy of the Nigerian female species is that their love for money has NOTHING to do with how much they earn. Even those who earn 'big' salary often look 'upwards' for 'bigger boys' to frolic with (they only consider less-earning men when the 'bigger boys' don't find them sufficiently appealing). In fact, the more they earn, the more materialistic they become in their tastes and choice of men. Does it not surprise you that despite all their nonsense talk about being 'independent' women (duh), they ALWAYS put financial security at the top of the list of what they want in a man? (too many threads here on NL discuss that subject). Most white women don't do that; ask them what they want in a man and they'll tell you love, romance, good sex, etc. They'd be very content with dating or marrying a gym instructor or nursery school teacher if that's where they find love. Not Nigerian women - money or prospect of money would always be involved; yet they'd continue deceiving themselves that they're 'independent' because they bleeped one bald old fool to get a banking job and whatnot (largely corporate housegirls and love-peddlers)." Independent" my bloody ar.se.

sandraa:

Stop using white girls to compare naija babes abeg!, go check well how many well trained white chic want to date a loser? even their parents wont allow it bro!
its same phinomenom everywhere in the world so dont get it twisted.

As for naija we ve been trained to believe a man shld take care of us even if we have the millions or not likewise d guys ve been trained to take care of their women.
thats y u find a guy that a girl trained in sch will ditch her and marry the one he can train.
girls associate love with giving, we believe if he love us he will want to take of me and make me happy ( which is not far from the truth)
Naija girls with dis kind of upbringing will always want something from a guy that claims to love them, she will even test the guy if necessary!

As for the Runs babes it is money all the way , seriouslly wat do u expect from them anyways!

You made a very good point sandra but tell me is this shiiit worth it
whats all these bullshiiit bout if a guy loves u the should take care of every single part of you
does that justify the reason why nigerian ladies now go out of bounds to make themselves cheap all in the name
of he loves me and as such should be able to take care of me,
I have seen dudes from all over the place taking care of their Girlfriends i mean Girlfriends monthly allowances when they
emselves dont even work, they pay bills, BB subscription, manicure & pedicure treatment amongst other allowances all in the name of
Love,

This is simply pathetic and it makes such women really look cheap to their men, give me an independent woman anyday anytime
not some lean back bomboclatt bullshiiit who milks a man all in the name of love!!
This is the same reason why nigerian ladies are always quick to be labelled CHEAP,how long do they want to keep living on a man who could take a walk anytime while they start looking for their next target!!


Rubbish

190:

, Nothing but tell me, when u date 10 ladies and they all turn out to be the same

what do u do?

Kingsleyinfo:

this is one thread that has really caught my attention.
was at an event the other day, and over heard one cheap girl obviously not more than 18yrs of age, saying "na fine boy i go chop"  i wanted to give her a sound lecture, but advised myself against it.

I still find it difficult to understand why women associate love with money, like someone earlier pointed out, a white lady can marry any man as long as he is honest (that is not to say that some don't marry for money) but the the majority of them will always choose honesty over material gain, simply because they understand that they too can work and earn their own money.

most women go into marriages with virtually nothing to offer, but they expect their hubby to be their puppy, you can't command respect if you can't contribute,

as for the Black berry issue, the day any girl asks me for the money for the subscription, that relationship will end that instant, what rubbish.
i don't condone their excesses, if a girl wants the good life she should be ready to work for it (i mean with her head, not her body).
in naija we pay for hair, buy recharge cards, buy clothes, feed families, take them out for dinners, all for what? their own thing different, abi na gold dem take do their own, wetin self.

i told my girlfriend that whenever she needs money she better has a very good reason for demanding it
and that has made sure i don't get silly demands.

don't get me wrong i like taking care of my woman, but please not her excesses whaT EVER that is.
finito.

Jaybee read this response and tell me what u think

some days ago i was talking with a dude who's girlfriend is back in nigeria and he told me

that the reason why he's not thinking of his girlfriend back in nigeria is cos she is so heaily insecured, plain stupiid and slightly dimb

I asked why and he said before he left nigeria each time she demanded something from him and he refused to deliver she always made this statement

( If you fail to give me what i want, then i would simply go out there and get it from another man ) i almost chocked on my food!!

jay bee:

^^^
I'd say that's an unfair generalisation cos it's not like you've performed a good scientific survey of any sort.

sandraa:

You move to no. 11 na shooo na my force

me no mind make i get guy to dey pay my monthly bb subcribtion o, o boyz it will be so cool, lol

The truth 190 is that most girls dat guys support are mostly in school and are really in need ( dats sincere chics o)

The truth still remains dat our culture tends to spoil we ladies and we r so loving it!!!!!

@190 no vex say babes don chop your money, but na d only way to hold one down o!!!!!,