Inked_Nerd:


All in all, we're all to blame, both men and women. There is no one particular person to blame. It seems like for some people this whole thing has gone to their head.

When you say you support the girls, exactly who are you supporting--the ones the OP mentioned or the ones here on the thread?

Inked_Nerd:


Oh ok.

lol, its quite rare to see a Nigerians man [especially one on Nairaland] support women like that

But i always supported women especially you!!

Inked_Nerd:


Oh ok.

lol, its quite rare to see a Nigerians man [especially one on Nairaland] support women like that

Inked_Nerd:


lol so why don't you start the thread

edoyad:

It's not about supporting the girls, it about what's really happening. Like you earlier said, everyone is to blame: the greedy girls, the irresponsible men and the hawkish boys. The fathers of the same men complaining here are the same ones sending 7 series BMWs into campuses to bring these girls to them. May be some one should start a thread on why Nigerian male septugenerians won't let tweeny girls be.

edoyad:

I would if i was a 100% sure my case would be different when i turn 70, but since i've the same blood flowing in my veins . . . .

Inked_Nerd:


I wasn't reiterating, I was trying to clarify since most of you seemed to enjoy descend on her for posting what she did. You want me to answer your question huh? Well answer mine first? At what point in time did I say that it was a guy's responsibility in a relationship to shower gifts, food,money on a girl? Go back a reread what I said.

Kingsleyinfo my dear, I think you need to get your eyes checked. Either your eyes aren't working you completely bypassed the first page of this thread. If you had looked carefully then you would have seen and known that I was the second women to reply to this thread before you even jumped on board.

As I stated before, I don't know where your eyes were because although you may have used words such as "some" and "most"--your first post on the thread specifically mentioned a generalization. Although not all of what you wrote was a generalization I still noticed it. You said "I still find it difficult to understand why women associate love with money, like someone earlier pointed out, a white lady can marry any man as long as he is honest (that is not to say that some don't marry for money) but the the majority of them will always choose honesty over material gain, simply because they understand that they too can work and earn their own money." And because I noticed this doesn't mean you need to refer to my observation a bullshit. Because you and perhaps some other men have had bad experiences, you make it seem like the majority of women are like that. Perhaps the majority of women you have encountered are like that but those women are not a representation of us as whole. Some men use women for sex so is it fair for me to ume that majority of men are like that? No, it could be that the majority of the individuals that that person have encountered are like that.  



Good point bhusayor.

Can you stop throwing stones you parasitical hypocrite?!?!

Tell am o!!! I have met some African men who have openly told me that they would never date men because they think I'm "too independent". Some of our men both Nigerian and non-Nigerian Africans seem to let their egos and pride get in the way.

Lmao

Yes, that is very true.

Goldieluks:

I accept the fact that a woman is suppose to be indepent to maintain her dignity,and I also agree with the fact that a man is suppose to care for his woman,

Goldieluks:

I totally disagree with the fact that a man is NOT meant to care for his woman

redsun:

Indenpendence comes with true knowledge.The more people,grown adults, are knowledgeable in the fundamental workings of life,the less they are dependant on others.

Nigerian women are just an epitome of nigerian society as a whole that depends on foreign aids,indoctrinations,guidance and directions to sustain itself as a society.

aribisala0:

redsun the ladies in the example are in england working

this is one thread that has really caught my attention.
was at an event the other day, and over heard one cheap girl obviously not more than 18yrs of age, saying "na fine boy i go chop"  i wanted to give her a sound lecture, but advised myself against it.

I still find it difficult to understand why women associate love with money, like someone earlier pointed out, a white lady can marry any man as long as he is honest (that is not to say that some don't marry for money) but the the majority of them will always choose honesty over material gain, simply because they understand that they too can work and earn their own money.

most women go into marriages with virtually nothing to offer, but they expect their hubby to be their puppy, you can't command respect if you can't contribute,

as for the Black berry issue, the day any girl asks me for the money for the subscription, that relationship will end that instant, what rubbish.
i don't condone their excesses, if a girl wants the good life she should be ready to work for it (i mean with her head, not her body).
in naija we pay for hair, buy recharge cards, buy clothes, feed families, take them out for dinners, all for what? their own thing different, abi na gold dem take do their own, wetin self.

i told my girlfriend that whenever she needs money she better has a very good reason for demanding it
and that has made sure i don't get stupid demands.

don't get me wrong i like taking care of my woman, but please not her excesses whaT EVER that is.
finito.