divalishis:

@190 @lord reed
i hav tried telling him, but he just laughs it off.

@r231
wotsup?

Then u have to use IRON HAND on him!!

degubi:

Gosh!!!! you are so shallow minded. Because a guy has biceps and whatnot doesn't make him a better person. The guy still loves you, he treats you right and is still the sweet personality you knew him to be, so why bail out now because he has added some flesh. Love is longsuffering and you need to give it your all to ensure that your partner is the best you want them to be.

Keep appreciating his personality while you continually look for ways, be it through books, aerobic tapes, taking out time each morning to go jogging with him, letting him know that i love you and i am proud of your personality and i am not ashamed to be seen with you.

Years down the line you will get married, have babies and add flesh. I wonder how you would feel if your spouse starts ignoring you for other skinny looking damsels in his office instead of helping you get into shape by lovingly encouraging you?

divalishis:

Its rily bad and embarassing. With any work he does, he starts wheezing like he just climbed mount everest. He has refusd 2 do anythin abt his weight. Now we look ludicrous when we'r together, ant and elephant.

kandiikane:

I have also notice since my own went to naija for NYSC anytime I see him he seems to have put on a few pounds but it does not mean I find him unattractive, But if he does get bigger to the extend where he would flatten me like pancake I would give him the last ultimatum,

divalishis:

I hav tried, bt i dont tink i can take this any more. When i first stated going out with my boyfriend, it was cute cos he was so big and manly and I had never dated a guy that literarily had 2 lift me up just to give me a kiss. Durin walks, i was tucked into his side protectively as i am 5'5 and he's about 6'3. He was smoking initially but then he stopped befor he eventually traveled out.
While he was gone, we chatted alot and eventually started bein intimate on phone and on the net.
We couldnt wait to do it physically, as we hadnt been intimate b4 he left.[size=14pt]
Howeva, when he came back, i was shocked. He looked like somebody's daddy, like 3 Fat Joes added together. As for me, obese men arent just my cup of tea. I noticd it on webcam, but i never knew it was so bad.
Bein intimate wit him is a struggle. D first time, i felt like i was bein punished. Now, intimacy always feels like i'm bein crushed by a huge, sweaty blob of jelly like flesh. I cant hide my disgust anymore when i see his massive tummy hangin ova his belt. D size of that tummy alone is anoda story. Its a nightmare!
He's not even makin an effort to lose weight, he's always imbibing gin and coke.[/size]

divalishis:

I hav tried, bt i dont tink i can take this any more. When i first stated going out with my boyfriend, it was cute cos he was so big and manly and I had never dated a guy that literarily had 2 lift me up just to give me a kiss. Durin walks, i was tucked into his side protectively as i am 5'5 and he's about 6'3. He was smoking initially but then he stopped befor he eventually traveled out.
While he was gone, we chatted alot and eventually started bein intimate on phone and on the net.
We couldnt wait to do it physically, as we hadnt been intimate b4 he left.
Howeva, when he came back, i was shocked. He looked like somebody's daddy, like 3 Fat Joes added together. As for me, obese men arent just my cup of tea. I noticd it on webcam, but i never knew it was so bad.
Bein intimate wit him is a struggle. D first time, i felt like i was bein punished. Now, intimacy always feels like i'm bein crushed by a huge, sweaty blob of jelly like flesh. I cant hide my disgust anymore when i see his massive tummy hangin ova his belt. D size of that tummy alone is anoda story. Its a nightmare!
He's not even makin an effort to lose weight, he's always imbibing gin and coke.

degubi:

Gosh!!!! you are so shallow minded. Because a guy has biceps and whatnot doesn't make him a better person. The guy still loves you, he treats you right and is still the sweet personality you knew him to be, so why bail out now because he has added some flesh. Love is longsuffering and you need to give it your all to ensure that your partner is the best you want them to be.

Keep appreciating his personality while you continually look for ways, be it through books, aerobic tapes, taking out time each morning to go jogging with him, letting him know that i love you and i am proud of your personality and i am not ashamed to be seen with you.

Years down the line you will get married, have babies and add flesh. I wonder how you would feel if your spouse starts ignoring you for other skinny looking damsels in his office instead of helping you get into shape by lovingly encouraging you?