I really don't know how to start this...
Ok
Here is my confession!
My story is actually a fake one... I've never experienced anything of such; and I pray I will never IJN. Myself and a friend made up the story out of boredom. Neither of us was even in a relationship then; the irony. I'm sorry I posted such with my account and I accept all blames.
Though I'm not much of a nairalander, whenever I remember this fake story and the sincere responses I got from people, I usually feel bad... But I like to console myself with the thought that somewhere in the world, a girl that is ACTUALLY being abused will make use of the advices on this thread.
To those who made sincere comments, you have not wasted you 'energy' typing those advice... You may have been of help to people in abusive relationships.
I'm deeply sorry this is coming at this time. I just guilty whenever I come on here... I'm so sorry!

You can't love anyone until you love yourself.

So touching, it is generally said that a man who raises his hand on a woman doesn't deserve her love, i would have ask you to dump him aside and move on with your life but you choose to still love him, pray and talk to him over it.*** Assuming d reverse is d case, the guy no go wait o, which kind yeeye luv wan make u kill me***

Dat ma s nottin bt IDAD
wtf?
Cmon babe
pls
once he s raised his stupid hands on u den blv me u,its gon b an habbit
pls save ursef frm dat UNAM
bt we ladies cld mk a man sef wanna kill us,nt sayin he shld v lifted his unmanly hands on u tho
nt all men cld control dere temper
bt wateva d case s
babe pls free ursef
he s got no self control one bit
4get love,live n b free

fstranger3:

You deserve it


If i were him, i'd do the same thing

Women are goats, they dont listen until you beat the shyyt out of them

Your man is tired of you. He does not want to say it, but he wants you to understand through his action and leave. Stop being myopic! Your union is not even defined. And even if it is, Remember that- A BROKEN COURTSHIP IS BETTER THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE.

Nekai:

^^^

Whats your problem?

If you were my wife, the probability that you'd be beaten is 1

Men are goats and don't listen until you walk away. The average woman leaves her abuser 8 times before finally cutting him off. The cycle of abuse only gets worse. Don't tell me BS about "He was so good for the first couple of years, and everything was sooo perfect". Examine your relationship and find tmes when he belittled you, put you down, made you feel like less of a person. Run away as fast as you can!!! Do you want to wait until you get married to him so that your children can see this coward putting his hand on you? Statistics show that boys often follow right in their abusive fathers' footsteps. At least 3 women in the US are killed every day by their so called lovers/boyfriends/husbands.

Are you going to allow yourself to be the next victim of a cowardly killer? Forget your wasted time and be greatful he didn't wait until you two were married before showing his true colors.

fstranger3:

^^^

Whats your problem?

If you were my wife, the probability that you'e be beaten is 1

If u were my husband I would beat myself.

Nekai:

If u were my husband I would beat myself.

On top of that, I'd still beat you.

So what gives

I would beat u back but you would probably enjoy it too much.

^^^^

That said, you are bound to get beat(en) by your future husband anyway.

Best to get prepared for it.

You are a tiny 5'6 girl, he is a 6'8 dude. If he isn't careful, next time he slaps you around he will kill you.

Don't you value your life?  

Jesus!Poster i can't believe you think he still loves you.i don't understand this thing called love o,hmmm i'm in shock kinda.

^^^^

That is how some men, yours truly included, show their love.

fstranger3:

^^^^

That is how some men, yours truly included, show their love.

u r so alone-----  


@Op!
U can't love a man who takes delight in kicking your ass,
learn how to kick him in d balls or u kick him to d curb!

@fatranger
U r a terrible person

annawhite:

@fatranger
U r a terrible person

Aren't you just as mean for calling him fat? For all you know he is a six-packed adonis

kofsy:

I have been in this relationship since november 2007. When we first met, i know my boyfriend to be a gentle and responsible guy. But for the past 6months, he gets violently angry when we have little disagreement and threatens to break my head and kill me.i used to dare him when he says this because i thought his threats were mere words. Not until january this year when he started the real film. When we have heated arguements, he kicks me, throw things at me, press my neck against the wall and says i will kill you o! After all this, he still comes back to apologize. The most recent was yesterday; he said something cruel to someone and i told him i didn't like what he said, this turned into an arguement. Then he said "get house of my house", i said No. Then he grabbed me by my cloth and started slugging me in the head. I am 5'6" and about 60kg and he's 6'8" and 79kg-no match. I asked him to stop, and he kept slugging me. I fell on the floor and he got on top of me, held my neck tightly trying to strangle it. I said you are going to kill me and he said "yes! you are right i will kill you. He took a pillow and used it to press my face down on the floor. And i asked him to pls leave me alone, he was hurting me; I thought i was going to lose consciousness. I am in a bad state now with bruises. I know he still loves me and has realized the horrible things he has done. Is there a chance for him to change? Should i go back to him?
I know most of you will tell me to leave him but it's not that easy, the commitment and the sacrifice i have made in this relationship would not make that so easy for me. And above all, i love him so much![color=#000099][/color] Am perplexed.
Thank you so much for taking all your time to read this, you don't know how much it means to me. I'm almost crying now writing this, just thank you so much everyone.

You requested for advice when you have the answers with you already?

Believe U me, even if every1 here advices U to leave the guy, U have already made up your mind in going back to him so, I dont think my contribution is needed! Abide with whatever U get out of it, for U made the decision yourself.

Best of luck!

wth is "H.S.O.F.N"?

if u want 2 live long and enjoy ur life live dat ur street fighter bf, becos he never stop beating u.

LOL @ OP, you cannot love this man from the grave, hope you know. Sooner or later DEATH will knock and you will answer.

fstranger3:

You deserve it

If i were him, i'd do the same thing

Women are goats, they dont listen until you beat the shyyt out of them

My broda, it wonders me to wonderland, really!

Why must 1 refuse to leave when she was asked to leave, is she the 1 paying the house rent for him?
Why not leave at the moment when she knows that the guy will come asking for forgiveness later? What if the guy gets 'RED', and decides to do an un-do?

OP, FYI, I know of som1 (a Nigerian) serving 22yrs inprisonment in Japan for killing his GF (a Japanese for that matter). I dont want to go into details buh, it's similar case with yours. I dont know why some of you girls are block headed (no offence tho, very angry), is it until he does what was in his mind before U'll decide to leave (and thats if you'r fortunately alive to leave)?
Imagine the guy not being that rude guy but, your stubborness led him in maltreating you like animal, and U'r here complaining. In-as-much-as I HATE GUYS THAT BEAT GIRLS, I dont think I'll blame that guy cos, U tempted him to.

I have said it that, any guy that ever lay his hand on any of ma sisters wil forever regret it, but, in a case like this, omo mehn, SHE IS ON HER OWN!!!

FLAWBISH !!!

M M M:

if u want 2 live long and enjoy your life live dat your [size=18pt]street fighter bf[/size], becos he never stop beating u.

obowunmi:

LOL @ OP, you cannot love this man from the grave, hope you know. Sooner or later [size=18pt]DEATH will knock and you will answer[/size].

LWKMD

Inked_Nerd:


Tempted? Tempted? How did she tempt him? Is he not the initiator? You saying she "tempted" his is the equivalent to justifying his actions. Its comments like this that enable other men [and women] to continue the cycle of abuse.

Madam, Xplain the below. . .?

kofsy:

i used to dare him when he says this because i thought his threats were mere words. Then he said "get house of my house", i said No.

Any woman that talks too much,should be beaten thoroughly!!!!!!!

neonet:

Any woman that talks too much,should be beaten thoroughly!!!!!!!

I totally agree

they talk too much.