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Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by sexychica: 6:31pm On Jul 22, 2007
ive been dating this particular married man 4 abt a year and a half,i love him deeply coz he reallt cares abt me,got tired of my single boyfriend cheating on me,this guy dotes on me we spend an immense time together and we go on luxury trips together,he spoils me silly and he gets mad when other guys try to hit on me,he said he is willing to let go whenever i find a single guy that would be serious abt me and lead to marriage,he advices me,hes always there for me and ive been having the greatest sex of my life! really!,but whenever i remember hes married it hurts,coz he probably doesnt realize how much i love him but i dont want to come btwn him and his wife,im confused i need advice,would also appreciate those with similar scenarios to comment,pls no judgement,didnt plan to be in this type of relationship!
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by LadyGodiva(f): 7:17pm On Jul 22, 2007
r u silly
he is married,
to SOMEBODY ELSE
you will always be his mistress on the side, or until you can't take it anymore, you've been mentally drained, and you sit at home everyday crying to your girlfriends about how he 'dogged you' while eating chocolate ice cream
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by CrazyMan(m): 8:11pm On Jul 22, 2007
What on earth is wrong with you ladies?

How would you feel is some other woman falls in love with your husband? angry
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by missojugo(f): 9:15pm On Jul 22, 2007
Chika, the simple questions you should ask yourself are - Are you willing to be his second wife? Do you ever dream of getting married someday? Do you believe in nemesis?

My honest advise is if you are willing to be a second wife then he is the man for you (unfortunatly you didnt mention him ever saying he even wants you as a second wife).

I cant reconcile the fact that he gets mad when other guys try to hit on you and at the same time he said he is willing to let go whenever u find a single guy that would be serious about you and lead to marriage. undecided  It sound to me like the guy is a smart guy with a plan - Acting jealous when other guyz hit on you so you will feel loved and wanted and then acting understanding about you being single and wanting to get married so you wont say when he eventually dumps you, that he was the cause of you not finding a husband. How can you find a serious single guy when your sugerdaddy is always by your side glaring  shocked  at all potential toasters If he truely loves you then he should either add you to his family or clear road for your adam.

From your previous post i can see you are not dating him for the money (i hope). If you ever dream of getting your own husband all to yourself then please do yourself a favour and let the man go and look for another intimacy gadget else were. There is more to life than great sex with a man that belongs to someone else. It might take you a while but i assure you, you will get over him.

Good luck and keep me posted.
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by olanajim(m): 10:44pm On Jul 22, 2007
I don't think it is fair to call every ladies dating a married man a husband snatcher until we get certain right. I also don't think every married man that show love to another lady, is a cheat or trying to av mistress. Until we put certain facts together, the probability of misleading people sincere case is high.

From the lady's presentation, I see a strong point. She didn't give complete presentation though. The guy may be real and i supposed he is. Why? Because he wasn't bent on having the lady. He gave her room to make a better choice. He is idealy any woman dream. His only offence is HE WAS MARRIED. But he didn't pretend about it. Personally, I am a living witness to the fact that a man can actually shower love on a lady without dating her. I am not alone. I know some guys that are better than i am. Though, i am not married, I have had to make some personal sacrifices to kept some ladies with broken heart happy. Gave advice, yet make it clear, i am not going to date them.I NEVER DID. Yet my girl would be the first to know. At least she know her man and can vouch for me. I hid nothing even an intimate text from other ladies. That is trust. Nobody is perfect but sincerity and trust is greatly required in any relationship. I just don't know why everyone generailizes just because some cassanova are having a field day banging some uncultured, and ignorance ladies.

In a matter like this, caution is the best approach. Is the guy or lady a muslim? Are they from culturally polygamous home? Is the guy interested in marrying her? Has he indicated so? What was his wife response? How old is the guy? All sensible questions need clarification before advi should be given. Take care.
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by SweetT1: 2:56am On Jul 23, 2007
@Sexychica
The bastard is sexing the s#!T out of your toto and his helping you to plan marriage too?? egbami o ! What has Nigeria turn to? I wonder who the unlucky guy would be. Because you will definitely cheat on him with this loser called sugar Daddy. Please give me his wife phone number, so i can get your yeye @$$ in trouble. Olosi ! onisekuse ! You should change your name from sexychica to scandalous chica angry
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by naijacutee(f): 3:20am On Jul 23, 2007
The sooner you snap out of it hun, the better. I know it's hard but it's got to be done. Somehow. It's simply not right, and nothing can justify your actions. Just genuinely make up your mind to give it up, ask God for forgiveness and you're good to go.
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by ima1(f): 7:39am On Jul 23, 2007
hun no man would want another man's trash, get out now n find ur own man b4 u get pregnant n he denies the baby, n u r left alone with no man wanting you, don't be silly, he is MARRIED, how clear can i be hun HE IS MARRIED n will never leave his wife 4 u, don't be a home breaker, remember wat goes around comes around.
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by benit(f): 9:34am On Jul 23, 2007
got tired of my single boyfriend cheating on me
Now, you have a MARRIED man cheating on his WIFE with you. Is that cool?
he said he is willing to let go whenever i find a single guy that would be serious about me

You may have to wait for a long time cos serious guys study a lady they would want to marry(at least my hussy did that) and here you are soiling yourself with this man whom you have no future with.
hes always there for me and ive been having the greatest sex of my life! really!,
You could have that with the right one too, so don't get carried away
i love him deeply

but whenever i remember hes married it hurts,because he probably doesnt realize how much i love him but i don't want to come btwn him and his wife,im confused i need advice,would also appreciate those with similar scenarios to comment,please no judgement,didnt plan to be in this type of relationship!
You have already come btw him and his wife and if it hurts you, get out fast or tell him to get a divorce(which i bet he will not do) so u can go in. I am not judging you and you dont expect me to clap for you for being an unfaithful man's "spare tyre" No, you planned to be in this sorry relationship that's why you have remained in it.
Well, my advice to you is that u should ADVICE URSELF cos I think you should be smart enough to tell what u want in life and remember not to love a married man deeply unless his wife has solicited for ur help.
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by SweetT1: 12:28pm On Jul 23, 2007
@Naijacutie

Hey sweetheart, i was looking at your profile and you look good, but i wonder why you didn't look up in the picture. Are u dat shy?? C'mon cutie pie keep your head up, you look good. Just my kind skin ! Where is hatfield by the way, is it in Virginia or Georgia ?
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by efuah(f): 12:48pm On Jul 23, 2007
hmm darling, pls remember the adage that say:
do unto others what u want others to do
unto u.
life is a circle, n u will surely meet this kind of
angle in ur marriage life too.

run out of it for a better future.
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by OhGrey(m): 3:23pm On Jul 23, 2007
Damn I hate it when peeps come and drop their hypocritical bullshit here n xpect everyone of us to buy it. You are doing something wrong and you don't want anyone to judge you, yet you are hoping some of might be able to support you.

"ive been dating this particular married man 4 about a year and a half,i love him deeply because he reallt cares about me,got tired of my single boyfriend cheating on me,this guy dotes on me we spend an immense time together"

You say your boyfriend's cheating on you and the married guy dotes on you instead, and I ask whats the difference between the married man and your ex-boyfriend. The answer is nada cos the married man is also cheating on his wife - with you, and that makes you an accomplice and maybe worse a husband snatcher.

You love him right? but maybe his wifes loves him more cos even though she might know that he is cheating on her with you. she is still hanging in their hoping and praying maybe he like a prodigal son will give it all up one day and return home to her

Remember what goes around comes around some day. And any time you want to start blaming your ex for causing this or doing dat. Remember you and you married friend aint any better.

Now who was it that said that forbidden fruit taste better
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by uchetobi(f): 10:21am On Nov 28, 2007
[b]i just got a movado wristwatch that cost me roughly £1000 and my new jimmy choo stilletoes i had been craving for,that cost me £350,and my boyfriend just bought me first bank shares worth 2million bucks! isnt that d life! also expecting my diamond rock soon! yes we r getting married soon!!!!!!!!!!!!!![/b]






But on the same day you posted this on another thread, maybe I should stop responding to all this cooked up story on NL
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by dot2002(m): 10:31am On Nov 28, 2007
I can't help you with this, it is a sin (sorry its not me to judge i will leave that for God). but honestly it don't sound too good to me, try other interest dancing or library or young professional or student or religious singles-get-together and u will meet that mr/mrs right.
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by didisky(m): 10:53am On Nov 28, 2007
Wonders will never cease shocked.So u left a guy that was cheating on u and u are dating a married man ,who in turn is cheating on his wife.Baby,u need a doc
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by safoly(m): 11:02am On Nov 28, 2007
i think there is every need for sober reflection in life. Someone has to be positive and straight forward in life. I think you are really making a great mistake dating another persons husband. How wd u feel if you are married and someone is dating your man secretly at ur back. I think what u are practicing is adultery. Watch it and pray 2 God 2 give you ur heart-felt husband. I pray God wd give u the understanding and approach towards it. God bless. AMEN
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by bellychiz: 11:10am On Nov 28, 2007
ma dear do u av conscience at all? u av dated a married for a year and ur stil happy wit urself? do u know dat wt u do any lady's husband anoda person will do to urs? dont u know dat even if mr rit cums and discovers ur invloved wit a married man wil take off on his heels? pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease b4 it gets too late quit dat relationship b4 it gets too late pls. why cant oda girls be like me ? its not as if am justyfin u but believ me i av never dated a married man n wil never try it an hey i wud realy like to know u better ma email adyy nellyleez_tee@yahoo.com hup to hear from u and try n put it in prayer u will see dat for every lady on earth, God has a man for her. ciao
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by ettehgate(m): 11:17am On Nov 28, 2007
this lies, pretence, double standard will not help us ooo
so a babe falls for a married man ehenn? so what?
befor you crusify her,
let the person that have no stain of double shagging trow the first stone

and what is wrong if she becomes wifey number 2?
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by 9star(m): 12:58pm On Nov 28, 2007
THE THINGS WOMEN DO, I CANT SHOUT.

ettehgate:

this lies, pretence, double standard will not help us ooo
so a babe falls for a married man ehenn? so what?
befor you crusify her,
let the person that have no stain of double shagging trow the first stone

and what is wrong if she becomes wifey number 2?

@ETTEHGATE: NO WONDER U R STILL SINGLE AT 33.
C UR NAME SEF ETTEH.U WILL NEVA GET MARRIED IF U CONTINUE bleeping ANODA WOMANS HUSBY.
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by defman: 7:04pm On Aug 13, 2009
You're tired of your single boyfriend cheating on you? So you are willing to let another man "cheat" with you? Ok, welldone! Mission accomplished!! Revenge carried out. Now wake up from your dream and move on
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by saintobi14: 10:35pm On Aug 13, 2009
If he aint gonna leave his wife for u then please i beg u in the name of God leave him and move on to finding someone else
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by saintobi14: 10:38pm On Aug 13, 2009
Why re u letting him enjoy the best of both worlds by having sex with him.If ur so Hot use ur fingers or get a intimacy gadget
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by Outstrip(f): 3:23am On Aug 14, 2009
How nice of you not to try to come between him and his wife. Wake up ode. You cannot say you do not want to come between them but you are boinking her husband. Am I even awake reading this. This has to be a funny dream.
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by 3spade3(m): 3:28am On Aug 14, 2009
stone her!!!!
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by Kulas: 9:44am On Aug 14, 2009
U re an .Useless girl!!.Are u a child of God atall?,let alone attending church service.Lucifer!!.U re very bold to be enjoying ur fellow woman's property by stealing her husband's d**K.I am afraid if ever a professional flirt like you will get married,but if u later did so,another woman will pay you back by stealing your husband's d**k as well.Nonsense idot!!!.
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by henryhemon(m): 11:33am On Aug 14, 2009
@poster,
you are in love with the money lol.stop deceiving us joo.
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by izeek(m): 12:28pm On Aug 14, 2009
dont crucify her,
she already knows her mistake.
advice her on ways to go about getting out of the fix.
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by tboy1(m): 12:36pm On Aug 14, 2009
izeek:

dont crucify her,
she already knows her mistake.
advice her on ways to go about getting out of the fix.
Dats NL for you, bunch of hypocrites

@ post
im sure u've found a solution to ur problem cus this is more than a 2 yr post
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by GEW: 12:38pm On Aug 14, 2009
tboy1:

Dats NL for you, bunch of hypocrites

@ post
[b]im sure u've found a solution to ur problem cus this is more than a 2 yr post
[/b]exactly my tots. i know this home and away business is what naija men and women do best.
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by NOWORRIES: 1:08pm On Aug 14, 2009
@poster

Is some thin wrong with you! eh

you better mind your self and carry yourself somewhere else.

Go and look for money somewhere else you are in love with a man with money

dou


Nonesense this is how you useless girls cause wahala for us

Miinf yourself and respect yourself o
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by yjay(f): 1:55pm On Aug 14, 2009
yeah just like someone said u must ve found a solution to ur problem as this isnt a new post but anyways the name callings a lil overboard someone even called her[b] lucifer[/b] geez, she asked for help! i actually found myself in this situation when i was in school, all my friends were doing it & i was like why not knowing fully aware of the consequences of my actions plus all the goodies i was getting as well! i was so carried away, it ddnt even seem like i was doing anything wrong at some point but i ddnt fall in love with him because i knew it wld do nothing for both of us especially ME since the relationship has been defined from the beginning! but some of my friends did fall in love with these men & got real broken! i just woke up one day & felt ENOUGH WAS ENOUGH cos at the end of the day the girl always looses out cos u just realise that its time wasting & that time could ve been spent building a good relationship! funny thing is the guys(married) actually do care but they never plan to leave their wives!!! till today we are still friends but i know better now!

@poster, u know wat to do, DO THE RITE THING!!!
Re: Help Im In Love With A Married Man! by Fiona0007: 2:31pm On Aug 14, 2009
@sexychica

I sincerely believe you want to get out of this so-called relationship. Please check out this link
http://www.gloryb.com/

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