Is marriage an obligation?

Even though it seems like marriage is an obligation that we have to fulfill, I personally disagree with every bit of that idea. Maybe I'm wrong and that's why I need to hear from you.

No, marriage isn't compulsory.

Nopes! Some people may choose not to marry for religious reasons.

Marriage ain't compulsory. Apart from religious reason, one can decide not to for his own personal reason.

though marriage makes life a whole lot more enjoyable and comfortable, its not compulsory.

Well for me yes, i have to get married. Because if i dont, and many people dont. Thinking that it is not compulsory although they are able (especially the guys). The human race is doomed for extinction.

Compulsory=must.

Marriage isn't a must!

For me I think marriage is not compulsory,
My reason is obivious, it's certain that it is not every person will get married the Bible has made it clear, that if one can't stay withstand the temptation of this world fine, u can remain single but if one can'nt withstand it, u should go ahead and get married, it's not by force as some my say.

So, I think the chioce is urs.

God created Eve for a reason

hopy2005:

For me I think marriage is not compulsory,
My reason is obivious, it's certain that it is not every person will get married the Bible has made it clear, that if one can't stay withstand the temptation of this world fine, you can remain single but if one can'nt withstand it, you should go ahead and get married, it's not by force as some my say.

So, I think the chioce is urs.

i agree with you.

how can someone even think marriage is compulsory, No way!!, its not.
so kazey what do u say about the monks,priests, etc ,are they comitting a crime..?

Marriage is not compulsory but there comes a time in everybody's life when you need to settle down and raise a family. Having children out of wedlock is totally unfair to the children, they need a stable environment to grow and become morally upright. Secondly as we grow older sex becomes less important to us, we need companionship, someone to gist with, this is where a spouse fits in. If you keep changing partners and never settle with one, you would end up being lonely during your old age when you need a companion most.

That's a good point CalabarMan. why is it that some people especially Nigerians feel like marriage is an obligation that has to be fulfilled?. They seems to be under pressure when they don't get married and have children like their mates. For example, my friend who is now 29 feels like marriage is his next step and there's nothing wrong with that but the problem is that he is more focused in getting married than finding the right companion. Do you identify this problem with me? Why does it have to be this way? Is it our culture? what is it? What is it that pushes our young men and women into something that could cause frustration and even early death?

This drive to get married results in a lot of unecessary pressure being applied to relationships. Some years back I was dating a banker, the relationship was less than a week old when she started mounting pressure on me, asking me what do I want from this relationship, where is it leading to etc etc. The first day I visited her (she was staying alone in a 2 bedroom apartment), she had a big piece of paper on her wall titled new year resolution with the objective to find a young handsome man to marry and have healthy kids with. I guess this resolution was her driving force for the year and she kept mounting pressure on me to make a committment. I tried explaining to her that we need to know how compatible we are before making future long term plans, but she was in a hurry. So I called off the relationship and we went our ways. A years later she tried coming back apologising that she was very childish back then, and now understood what I was trying to explain. It was already too late as I was into another relationship. I ran into her a few weeks ago she is still single but no longer searching aggresively.

The urge to get married for most of us especially ladies, is to start raising kids, women who have their 1st kid after 30 are considered as high risk mothers during pregnancy and are given additional attention. There is also a general believe that kids born to women under the age of 30 are stronger and more healthy. While most babes start thinking about marriage at the age of 25 and start panicking by 30, most men don't until they are around 30.

I think we all need to relax a bit on this marriage thing, make sure you find a partner who is a good friend, someone you like being with and gisting with, cause once the initial novelty of the marriage wears out, which happens within the first 2 years of marriage, it is the friendship that would sustain and strengthen the relationship, bear in mind that physical beauty is relative and fades with time.

which one you dey miss world?

Huh calabarman, you've said it all. Experience is the best teacher.

Marriage is not compulsory. Only our society makes it seem so.

marriage is not compulsory but it is neccesary,
Even the bible said that it is better not to marry than to marry

gina34:

Even the bible said that it is better not to marry than to marry

Now that i must say is very interesting. Hum what chapter? I would love to read.

[url=http://bible.gospelcom.net/passage/?search=I%20Corinthians%207;&version=31;]1 Corinthians 7[/url]:

Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.
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Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
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Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife. But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned.

Well, any comments?

This is serious O

Marrige isnt an obligation in the Bible.
it depends on individuals

if you don't want to marry don't marry but don't you go fornicating.

though marriage is a union instuated by God himself.

to answer ur question simply miss world... not necessarily; but remember... NO COW; NO MILK!

well i think you are right but it is a thing of choice.

marriage it is not compulsory it is a choice... like gina and most people are saying

its good but its not compulsory

NO

absolutely no! it's a choice and on this depends your entire life. you should never do it just to please your family who wants to see you settled. if you have to be prepared: physically and psychologically!

Well for me yes, i have to get married. Because if i don't, and many people don't. Thinking that it is not compulsory although they are able (especially the guys). The human race is doomed for extinction.


listen! you don't have to get married to have children. but if you believe in abstinence before marriage!

Sorry i did'nt get your last paragraph.

i mean if you believe there shouldn't be sex before, that's when you can say I've to get married to have children!