What Can You Or What Do You Do To Spice Up Your Marriage

Every marriage needs spicing up from time to time. What can you do to add the extra pizzazz to your marriage? What have you done that has helped?

Please share so the rest of us can learn.

Well sometimes if I want to get my husband all chummy and deeply in love all over again, I just bring out the wedding pictures and he gets all teary eyed,mushy, chummy, etc
Will post some more spices later.

thats nice but girl those pictures must be something

Date each other as if you weren't married. Dress up, wear make up, cologne/perfume. Recreate your early years. Meet each other on site and pretend as though you're meeting for the first time–or have your partner pick you up from work or home. The whole idea is to go all out.

Turn off the T.V. at least 30-45 minutes a day and spend time with each other. No distractions. too many times we allow TV to take up all the time!

Loveopoly!
Change the game of Monopoly.
Change boardwalk into back rub, and Tennessee into take your shirt off. Every time you pass go, you get a kiss, etc.

Remember when,
buy a box of nice cards, could be the ones sold durring valentine(good to keep them for during the year, especially the ones that don't ahve happy valentine) and on every envelope write, "remember when, " and on every card write a memory that you share with the love of your life.

Send the kids if you have any to their Grand parents for the weekend and just walk around the house naked like it's nothing. your husband would be so turned on. I can just see you guys doing the nasty all night long.

well said sistah!!

oops my bad! well said brother

Play and chase each other around the house like kids.

nice IAH, i would add one of you should be naked preferably the female

drop little lovely notes in his car, suit pockets,etc

nice one teefah. am going to try that tomorrow. you guys should tell as soon as you try any of these stuff so we'll know how it works out

Letting your man do the cooking can too will spice up your marriage and make him in touch with his feminine side. And that gets him mushy!

nikinash, nice posts.
sing to him in bed or anywhere private, a special love song. if you are good in singing/ ask him to dance with you.

take long walks together and just talk and enjoy each other's company.

A weekend getaway once in a while, does wonders.

wow. smoking hot ideas

Give him lunch park on his way to office or business.
Dress to kill and be hot. DOnt be careless about your outlook because u are married.
Express affection to him/her especially in public,

yep dressing well is definitely very key. sometimes we get careless when we get married and stop looking good, that just turns our men off, don't ever forget that those mini-wearing monis are out there.

Interesting topic but where are the men to balance the equation.

You know what, I've only been married a year now, I was married at 17 and now i'm 18 years old, wearing makeup and stuff doesnt change the fact that some people wern't meant to be or just have a marriage that is dead, wedding photos, i always look at and he doesn't seem to say anything oh you look beautiful or anything,

i always look at and he doesn't seem to say anything oh you look beautiful or anything,

He doesn't know he's supposed to say those things. He's probably new to much of this: if only there was a way you could make him understand.

Showing appreciation, expressing love regularly, watching tv till late once in a while when the kids are asleep, buying gifts, preparing food once in a while, showing concern about your partner's welfare, listening, carrying your partner along, staying up in bed late into the night and just talking, etc etc

BUT HOW MANY COUPLES CAN SUSTAIN MOST OF THESE WHEN CHILDREN ARRIVE THE 'SCENE'

LET'S BE TRUTHFUL. LET ONLY THOSE THAT ARE NOT LESS THAN 5YRS IN MARRIAGE WITH KIDS COMMENT. NEW COUPLES SHOULD KEEP QUITE AND LEARN. IT'S GOING TO BE USEFUL. THE TRUTH IS ALWAYS BITTER.

I have been married for 12 years and my last child is 7 plus. Spices include getting away once in a while to where you would be alone, maybe a full weekend. Secondly, the woman should at times be the one to initiate sex. Both should not be afraid or shy to try hot and uncommon postures at very funny times. Pray together once in a while.

Wow. Uncommon postures at funny times. Nice to hear; must remember that!

Regular sex. Simple as that. It keeps the relationship fresh.
Als knowing the difference between Sex and making love.
Making love is a romantic happeneing but having sex is a physical need being fulfilled.

Regular sex. Simple as that. It keeps the relationship fresh.
Als knowing the difference between Sex and making love.
Making love is a romantic happeneing but having sex is a physical need being fulfilled.

You know what, I've only been married a year now, I was married at 17 and now i'm 18 years old, wearing makeup and stuff doesnt change the fact that some people wern't meant to be or just have a marriage that is dead, wedding photos, i always look at and he doesn't seem to say anything oh you look beautiful or anything,

some men have difficulty expressing themselves, you have to tell him what you want to hear, its just like when you make love most times your partner would not be able to satisfy you except you let him know what it is that gets you there so let your husband know what is is that will make you happy, if he says it fine, if not then learn to understand him by reading his nuances. even if he doesn't say it he may look at you in a way that will make you know that he appreciates what he sees.

by the way, are you sure he even likes you making up?

These things seemed to work for us:

1. Go out on dates
2. At times I place notes on the steering wheel of his car
3. I make him a CD with our favorite songs
4. Wear sexy lingere around the house
5. While he's in the shower, I'll sometimes join him
6. Put on some music and dance for him
7. Make his favorite meal and we'll eat with soft music playing and some candle light
8. Do different things while making love. Try positions that will turn him on.
9. As soon as he enters the house, I'll sometimes jump him right there and we'll make love on the couch
10. Shower him with compliments.

Ok, that's all I can think of for right now.

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ur marriage must be a very happy one then

when i get married someday i would like mine 2 be like dat