I think black men have the tendency to cheat and be polygamous  more  than any race
Also Most polygamous Muslim men are in African Muslim countries  ( Senegal Gambia Mali Guinea Niger Burkina )
Even the ones in the most Christian nation of the region (Ghana) still practice it widely

I wont cheat on my husband and I expect the same from him. It isn't easy as a woman to stay faithful but God strenghtens us. He knows I get hit on and asked out and I know there are girls willing to f*** him but its trust that matters. Besides cheating will hurt him more cos when you cheat you open up urself to a lot of nonsense.

Araboy:

I think black men have the tendency to cheat and be polygamous  more  than any race
Also Most polygamous Muslim men are in African Muslim countries  ( Senegal Gambia Mali Guinea Niger Burkina )
Even the ones in the most Christian nation of the region (Ghana) still practice it widely

Arrant nonsense!Just goes to show how little you know about the issues at stake here.The issue is not just about polygamy but infidelity as a whole.Methinks infidelity is the Caucasians' stock in trade.You ever wonder why divorce cases are increasing at an exponential rate in the west?
I'm leaning towards Richvkunt and Dayo's school of thought here.Though I wouldn't say 'all' men but 99.9999% of men would cheat on their spouses/gfriends etc if the opportunity presents itself.This is an incontrovertible fact,no point pretending otherwise

@ angel hair You feel tempted  are you sure you never cheated

@ cold No wonder your name is cold you must be slow thinker
The issue here is cheating but there is big correlation between cheating and polygamy since in both cases men can not  be content with one woman

@Walala,AMERICA KOR LONDON NII as if u are the first guy to live there  ,i just pity the poor woman that will get married to u. . it's so unfortunate that u view women as toys.may God deliver u.my wish is that u attract a woman who would see u as toy to change u wheneva she feels like.lol
just because ur wife turned 250 pounds doesn't warrant u to cheat on her.the last time i checked u dont expect a woman to remain the same after childbirth,if u want her to remain the same then dont get her pregnant.marriage is not for boys anyways but for [real]MEN
back to topic,not all men cheat only the monkeys who think there are smart do so, gaskiya!

Araboy:

@ cold No wonder your name is cold you must be slow thinker
The issue here is cheating but there is big correlation between cheating and polygamy since in both case men can not  be content with one woman  

I might be slow but you sure are slower to ascribe cheating to colour.What kind of floor where you dropped on as child?

Definitely the floor must not be in Enugu Imo Anambra or Abia but I still think you too slow for an Igbo I find Igbo ones of  the smartest black people I ever met and I have a  lot respect for them

Duh!You must think I care what you think in that warped twisted mind of yours.Go piss up a dry wall son,you don't count in the scheme of things

Having read d different contributions to this topic, i would suggest the poster defined d term 'cheat' that will give a clearer picture of the context of cheating.
If cheating is defined as a situation that is sexually inclusive, then I will argue to the contrary.
If however it is defined as a relationship with another lady apart from ones wife and it's sexually exclusive, I will conclude that all men are guity. perharp the chance to draw down has not or did not present itself. some men are not out to cheat, cheat come to them.
I agree that some men can withstand tough temptations on the short run but belief everyman has a breaking point at the long run. In my opinion, the degree at which each man get involved determines the test of sincerity. As a matter of fact, a man who has a very clean slate are most dangerous.
My precious ladies/wives in d house, I salute your commitments and beliefs but please stand on realistic stance because of high BP, honestly I refused to be delusioned that a man can attain perfection in this matter when he is not God.
ent itself. some men are not out to cheat, cheat come to them.
I agree that some men can withstand tough temptations on the short run but belief everyman has a breaking point at the long run. In my opinion, the degree at which each man get involved determines the test of sincerity. As a matter of fact, a man who has a very clean slate are most dangerous.
My precious ladies/wives in d house, I salute your commitments and beliefs but please stand on realistic stance because of high BP, honestly I refused to be delusioned that a man can attain perfection in this matter when he is not God.

Not all would cheat.
The ones that cheat I wonder how they feel inside and how the wives feel.
I hear these days naija women have started sleeping around because the husband sleeps around too, lol. Tit for tat, me likey . But is that life?
For a man to put his family on the line for few minutes of sex? A family you have nurtured and built together with your wife, then you go and ruin it because of sex? It's really hard to respect such a person. That person can kill me.

Anyway, there's no integrity in cheating including the ones that believe it's something that cannot be done without. Find it really hard to respect those as well.
Selfcontrol is a very very nice quality in a man. Instead of perfecting the act of distributing your seeds to all and sundry why don't you perfect your self control? That must be an herculean task for many. Self control you say? More easier to write than do for these types aka seed distributors, since it's easier to spread your seeds than command the willy to stay in one place and think of your family and risks involved. You see, logic states someone than conquers a more harder task is stronger. The ones who attain self control are the STRONGER MEN. The rest that succumb to cheating are growing boys, buhaha.

I really don't know how someone will feel good about himself/herself after sleeping with almost 10 people whilst married. That is dirty.

What is bosom for tat? lol

jennykadry:

I really don't know how someone will feel good about himself/herself after sleeping with almost 10 people whilst married. That is dirty.

Gotta agree. It's just not normal.
It's not as if it's by force to marry in this day and age. If you say all married cheat, biko, remain single, populate the earth with whoever is ready to give in to your randiness. Still trying to get the logic of a single man saying married men would cheat, but still going ahead to get married?

Any man dat hv recievd a Mouth Action frm 'call girls' wil always cheat. Diz girls r rily awesome & knw hw 2 treat men wel yl d expired women portray d it-is-a-sin attitude. Til wmen learn 2 treat dia men wel, im sowie 2 say, al married men wil cheat. Frm d way im goin, i knw im also gonna cheat buh i'ld try ma bst 2 abstain.

There are few men nowadays. Ladies nowadays end up marrying boys/adolescents who have not or will never mature into men.
Besides, it's not a black man's problem!

all the downlow ones proudly affirming their right to cheat - kindly marry hookers and spare us the sob stories.

maybe i should just add another dimension to this issue for d sake of our friends outside d country.
This days in naija, if a lady wants a man. she go all out to achieve this to d extent of jazzing him up and to think that married men and comfortable guys are their target for whatever reasons.
Look at this scenario, how many men can bost that they have not backslidden in their commitment God talkless of humans like themselves in this context their wives, what is d % and how many wives are lucky enof to be in this category? often times some of them end up in disaster of a lovechild or 2nd wife.
I am not saying there are no exceptions but in my opinion as naija is concerned, it is a matter of time. funny enough those women will be too preoccupied with marrital issues to share their true life experience on NL.

OAM4J:

But I will admit that most men do and giving the chance most men will marry more than 1 wife.

it's majorly an african male attitude to assume all males would prefer to marry more than one wife.

why is it so hard to believe there are men who do not want that?

not all men like the thought of carrying different women on their heads all roped to their [the men's] down below.

I think black men have the tendency to cheat and be polygamous  more  than any race

ikooko:

maybe i should just add another dimension to this issue for d sake of our friends outside d country.
This days in naija, if a lady wants a man. she go all out to achieve this to d extent of jazzing him up and to think that married men and comfortable guys are their target for whatever reasons.

its not only naija.

even overseas you'll be amazed to find ladies jumping on any man they see wearing a ring. Some totally ignore any man without one.

Look at this scenario, how many men can bost that they have not backslidden in their commitment God talkless of humans like themselves in this context their wives, what is d % and how many wives are lucky enof to be in this category? often times some of them end up in disaster of a lovechild or 2nd wife.
I am not saying there are no exceptions but in my opinion as naija is concerned, it is a matter of time. funny enough those women will be too preoccupied with marrital issues to share their true life experience on NL.

you do not have to be religious to be committed to your wife.

some non-religious people are more disciplined than religious ones when it comes to relationships.

it all boils down to personal choice.

and why should anyone feel obliged to share anything with nl?

those who want to share, should do so, but do you get paid for sharing something or why the imperative tone.

the key thing when it comes to cheating is your prior experiences while unmarried are what determine the way you react to women after marriage.

for those who are religious, then it takes the grace of God to be delivered from temptation, while others who arent religious, might not struggle in that manner since they werent inclined like that anyway.

@walala or what do you call yourself

your posts count as some of the daftest on nl.

when you have time and arent in a drug induced haze, ask yourself if you arent downlow or turning downlow, like the ones who were before you.

eni ri nkan he to fe ku tori e.

It is the desire of everyone, the husband, the wife and the in-laws are that both spouses remains faithful to each other, but the HARD TRUTH is, these categories of people will always remain.

Men who will remain faithful against all odds

Women who will remain faithful against all odds

Men who will cheat secretly without their wife ever knowing

Women who will cheat secretly without their husband ever knowing

Men who will cheat openly

Women who will cheat openly


My own conclusion is that, so long as we live in this sinful world, you can only wish away evil, it will continue to exist. SOME MEN will stop cheating on their wives any day SOME MEN  stops stealing.


If you want a faithful man or woman, watch out for that during your dating days, if s/he has ever dumped u to wack another guy/gal, and you still went ahead to get married, the same scenario will repeat itself.

If s/he respects you and don't want to hurt you, s/he will hide it from you, else, you'll see it with your two very eyes.

Men and women cheat equally, trying to catch one is like trying to spy on a cat mating,

Remaining faithful to one spouse far outweighs the disaster of cheating, stds, HIV/AIDS, death of dad, mum, kids, and the whole family is effaced!


WILL ALL MARRIED MEN CHEAT? the Answer is NOOOO! but you have to look for the very few that will not, cause they are really really very few!

I have never,and I never intend in the future to cheat on my wife !
Why are some posts here trying to make it look like it is impossible?
It is not that I am not attracted to other ladies.I am. And my wife knows it. In fact, from time to time I meet ladies who I find very sexually attractive and magnetic and also have the opportunity to f**k without ever getting caught but the love I have for my wife and the peace of mind that I desire is stronger than the few o.rgasms that I will enjoy while cheating.

I've spent time going through most of the posts here. Many posts show very wishful thinking. The reality is that when it comes to sexuality, men are much more polygamous than women. This is not to say that women are not polygamous, they are, but to a very less degree.

Men and women cheat for very different reasons. Men's primary reason for cheating is for intimate gratification. They usually dont have any affection for the woman they cheat with. Therefore even if the home front is in a perfect shape, many men will cheat. For most women that cheat, it is usually not for intimate gratification. Most of them start due to the woman feeling neglected by her man and then getting attention from an outside guy. It is more like a relationship. A lot of times the sex occurs because the outside man starts demanding for sex and the woman doesnt want to lose the attention she's getting. This doesnt mean you dont have women that go out just for sex, but they are in the minority. This is why each time a man is caught cheating, the same scenario plays out. The guy tries to convince his woman that he loves her, that what happened was just sex. The woman is busy screaming that the man cant be cheating on her if he loves her. This is clearly people seeing a case from different angles. The average woman cant separate love from sex, but to the average guy, they are totally different. Most men can actually be monogamous when it comes to love, but in the arena of sex, its a different ball game.

When women say that if the woman can keep herself faithful, the man should do the same, its a ridiculous argument because men and women are not the same. Let me prove it to you. If you tell the average woman that you will give her a new cool guy every weekend to Be Intimate with, most women will not be interested in the offer. But try that with the average guy, thats like his dream come true. This is so, irrespective of race. Music video producers know this and that is why they surround themselves with many sexy women in their videos to show that they have made it, because thats the dream of most men.

The number of men that do not cheat is very low. This number includes some that are actually man-lover, some that have very low libido, some that dont have the opportunity, some that the consequences of doing so is too heavy etc. If you remove all these categories of people, you find out that the actual number of men that are faithful out of their own volition is extremely small.

Polygamy was being practiced in virtually every culture on earth prior to christianity. This is clear evidence that it is the natural tendency of humans. The west embraced christianity and because christianity allows only one wife, monogamy became popular. The monogamy forced on humans is still not working. What you see in most parts of the west is what is referred to as 'serial monogamy'. Since the society is not allowing men to marry more than one wife they end up marrying and divorcing and moving to the next woman. For people that point to the west to show where monogamy works, I laugh in chinese. The number of marriages that end because of unfaithfulness in the west is incredible. The number of american presidents that we have no evidence of their having multiple affairs can be counted on your fingers. Most of them from George Washington to Abraham Lincoln to Bill Clinton had multiple affairs. Cases like Schwarzzeneger's and Weiner's cases will continue to surface. Many people did not know that Newt Gingrich was having an affair while presiding over congress and pushing for Clinton to be impeached. Who is deceiving who.

Even David and Solomon in the Bible know that monogamy is unrealistic. Monogamy is an unnatural state, no matter how much you try to force humans to adopt it. Monogamy is the only area of our lives where we sign a dotted line, that we shall stick to a particular product for life even if a newer,better model comes out tomorrow. That is unnatural and goes against our human nature. The failure rate of monogamous relationships in societies where people are allowed to go their separate ways if it doesnt work out is like 50%. Anything with 50% failure rate is not working. People should stop deceiving themselves. The only other thing that has that level of failure and humans still engage in it is gambling. If you knew an airplane has 50% chance of crashing, would you climb unto it?

The reality is that the average guy is wired to get tired of the same woman. Its pure and simple. Most pornogrephy produced are consumed by men. The society is just forcing monogamy on people. One other very important thing to point out is that monogamy favours women. Thats why every single woman champions it. It allows the woman to have immense control over the man. Once a man has another outlet for his intimate desires like pornogrephy or other women, his woman feels the loss of power and control over the man and she is terrified.

If men were actually given a choice, very few men will take the oath that they will be with only their wife for the rest of their life. The term 'cheat' comes from the assumption that the man promised to be faithful, but in actual sense, he made that promise under duress. Many women feel strongly negative about this idea of the man cheating because our generation have been sold the idea of monogamy from birth. But the fact that you were sold monogamy doesnt mean the genetic nature of men will change to accommodate it. Most women in the past accepted the polygamous nature of men and didnt feel strongly violated when the man had affairs.

Monogamy favours women, pure and simple. You have a guy guaranteed for life to Be Intimate with you, show you love and take care of your offspring irrespective of how you look. Think about it. As men and women age, the man appreciates in value because he's rising in his work place or business but the woman depreciates in value, which is primarily looks. Monogamy guarantees that the man will not leave the woman even though she reduces in value. I know some people esp feminists will attack me for saying women lose value because their looks degenerate with time, but its just arguing with facts.

I'm sure my position will elicit a lot of attacks but i stand by it because its the truth. This issue has been argued by so many generations before us and will continue to be argued even after we leave earth.

VALIDATOR:

but the love I have for my wife and the peace of mind that I desire is stronger than the few o.rgasms that I will enjoy while cheating.

It is very possible to remain faithful! if you wish you fight!

You belong to the very few that are strong willed!

I've never cheated on ma wife

Sometimes, women push their husband into cheating. Some women constantly accuse their faithful husband of cheating at any slight suspicion cos of this all men cheat mentality. This hurts so much that the man may decide it to cheat in order to feel better or get justified for these series of accusations. (Remember how bad a child feels/cries when wrongly accused). I know a friend who started cheating on this ground.

Me for one has never, and will never cheat on ma woman. She has been just tooooo good to me and being faithful is just the very least i can do.

I was very active sexually when I was single. Could have sex with a lady, the moment she's living my place, am calling up another lady for another round of sex. There were scenes of ladies meeting themselves in my place hence resulting to cat fights. But what do I do in such situation, I call up the next girl and we meet somewhere cosy for sex. I love it.
But I always thought that the moment I get married, I will do away with the attitude.
Now am married to this angel, but I still cant help myself. I still call up my old girlfriends for sex. I tell my wife am going for a business trip  and I take a lady to some hotel and we'll have marathon sex for the whole of that period. I dont get home until after 11pm each day because I have to spend at least 2-3 hours with any of my numerous girls.
This is affecting my marraige but I cant seem to say no sometimes when these ladies call. My relationship right now with my wife is strained, because she has put 2 and 2 together.
Infact, all through the rains on sunday, I was in the arms of another woman.   Went back home after 12 midnight.

Maybe what I need is spiritual cleansing.

HELP

All men cheat 

Don't try justify your lack of self control cos you have no guilt

I'm a man and never cheated

In many of the posts here we see what seems like a spirited defense for what is wrong and unnatural. Twist and turn as you may, the fact that many people choose to cheat does not make it a natural law. They have chosen to do so, they were not compelled by any forces whether natural or otherwise. It is a weakness that they have allowed upon themselves. Lets stop stop attributing it to such fantastic reasons like race, culture or genetics.

@SU2011 ( THANKS FOR THE COMMENT)

Cheating is no joking matter. If you are cheating on your girlfriend or wife, it might be that you are unhappy in the relationship, or that you have issues that you should address, let face it, why do men cheat?? i think that's what we should look at

I stated 2 opinion earlier on issue like this, i think its high time we shed more light to the reason why men cheat

1. THE LOVE HAS GONE
Alas, after a long time together, you have lost the feelings you once had for her. But the relationship has remained too much a part of you. Separating seems so painful, so radical that it’s almost inconceivable. So instead of separating, you go elsewhere to get your physical gratification. Most times this does not help matters, but only prolongs the inevitable breakup.

2.SHE HAS STOPPED MAKING AN EFFORT
Long-term relationships have the annoying habit of making people lazy. No longer concerned with staying fit and attractive, a committed woman might lose the allure she once had. Her man may simply not find her beautiful anymore, and making love to her is not as stirring as it once was. Some women take things for granted and stop making an effort to look good and irresistable.

3. WOMEN LET US
Truth be told, women are quick to forgive men for their unfaithful behavior. Maybe it’s their fear of being alone, or that women are simply the more merciful ones of the human species.

4. WIFE NAG
Most men have experienced at least one woman who thrives on making him feel like crap. Constant nagging, fighting and squabbling in the right ratios is the best recipe for a headache. Cheating with another woman is a common escape from this domestic hell, and works better than aspirin

5 .OPPORTUNISTS
It’s an uncontested fact that most men can’t say “no” to sex except for the few like me. Although guys aren’t constantly bombarded with sexual offers, sometimes an irresistible prospect presents itself. Maybe it’s a frisky ex-girlfriend, maybe it’s a Hot hottie on the dance floor. A guy may see it as once-in-a-lifetime chance and turning it down will be criminal.

6.EGO
Nothing lifts the old self-esteem like discovering that other women still desire you sexually. When in long-term relationships, men may begin to question their sexual marketability, which will lead some of them to sow their clandestine wild oats. in some cases the man just needs to know if he ’s still got it. Men going through mid-life crisis may fall victim to this need for re-assurance especially when the woman at home is making them feel less of a man.

7. I CAN GET AWAY WITH IT
“What eyes don’t see, the heart doesn’t feel,”. The knowledge that no one will find out and no one will get hurt is reason enough for some men to grab a different helping.

8.IT’S CHALLENGING AND EXCITING
excitement is in the variety, like changing ice cream flavors for one day after years of sticking to just one.

9. THE WOMAN DOESN’T PUT OUT
Every man has heard that the best way to get a woman to stop having sex with him is by marrying her. Apparently, long-term relationships seem to suck the sex drive out of many women, leaving men gasping for fulfilment. With the need for more sex, some men will start “working late” more often.
Or it could just be that the sex has become boring. She doesn’t want to try new things in bed, or won’t perform MouthAction. Some men may cheat because they don’t want their girlfriends or wives to perform certain sex acts that would ruin their “good girl” image, so they get a mistress to take care of it. Like Robert de Niro said in Analyze This , “That’s the mouth she kisses my kids good night with!”, refering to why he wouldn’t let his wife give him a BJ.

Like i said again cheating is not good!! i will say it, am not sure if am standing by it,

as long as men gat manliness they cheat. You might say the degree of cheating vary from one man to another. Do you ponder why Solomon had thousand wifes+ concubines?