Help me oooooooooo, 10 years ago, I thought I had a wife, She did not tell me how that in her Village somewhere in the eastern Part of Nigeria (Not Ibo) a first daughter is dedicated to a Deity by all fetish means,

The rule is, every one dedicated to this deity, must not have a Physical Child. She might become pregnant and even give birth to a Child, But the Child will return By way of death,

These happened severally, I lost my first Child and second Child by mysterious and unexplainable events, I figured out that there was a problem, since I had a background of Christianity; I started praying and seeking help from men who can pray along with me

I was puzzled that my wife never really cared after the demise of our kids, she will return to her normal life as though, the pain was really nothing. Although, not that I expected anything different from forgetting sorrowful events, but her carefree attitude worries me, It was like one who is aware of the issues and wanted me to suffer.

I started quizzing her for reasons, I pleaded with her to tell me what I needed to know about her past life, It was difficult to get her to speak, but she eventually owned up,

According to her, as the first daughter, she is dedicated to a deity in her clan, that deity claims ownership of her and she is not supposed to give birth in Physical world,

Every Child born her meant either dies for her to live or live for her to die, all she does is eat and get fat, while I mourn my childlessness, I have the money to and strength to raise kids and a large apartment in Abuja. But my pain ……………………… I have asked her to go for deliverance, but I saw a lackadaisical and seemingly uninteresting push for solution.

I have had to stop bearing kids after listening to my unfortunate choice of a river goddess as wife,
Its been 10 Years, without any issue, there is nothing wrong with me……………….

Please advice me before I run away from the Marriage and never return……………………
You may want to know that I never really consider that any metaphysical power can become a hindrance to me, I was somewhat stable spiritually in the past, the problems of life has weaken me and I have become really lax,

As for genotype, we have done all the necessary checkups medically and there is no reason for us not to have a Child safely, we both are compatible according to medical reports,

The children died before they turned one year, according to my calculation, it happened the same time time for the second Child, she died about the same time, the First in November, and the second died in August, for both of the children, they never celebrated the first Year.

I became worried about it when I observed my wife’s seeming unconcerned attitude; I had to stop the search for children to resolve the problem
For the past few months (about three) I have stopped sleeping with her

Now that she observed that I am not so happy and that I may be planning to leave the house, she has started seeking solution, but I have lost interest in the whole marriage thing
It’s been Ten Years of pain for me

Trust Nairaland. Someone comes on here with a serious issue, and all they get is st.upid replies from ignorant minds thinking everything must be black and white. You guys should quit behaving like kids.
@OP, honestly i dont know wat to tell u. But u should probably consult true men of God and also use your head. God have mercy.

Mynd_44:

I thought A-holes like you were extinct

sexkillz:

GIBBERISH. . . . . . . . . . . . . NEXT!

I wonder what warranted these replies.

@ OP, what are ur family saying about this issue? Did u tell them the kind of wife u married and what has been responsible for the death of ur children?

Sorry if this bothers you, but i suggest that you leave her. Praying is good, but it can only get you so far with the little perseverence you have got left. Besides my brother, it's not impossible but it's super hard fighting any supernatural force. Just imagine praying for a devil to burn that you can't even see.

It is true that people come in here with fake stories but we have to be careful at walking on the hearts of a troubled person out of the suspicion that he/she is fake. I read the past posts of this poster and it seems to me that there is a probability that he is 60% real and simply expressing a burden in his heart.

@Poster
I am only hoping that it isn't the frustration of your kids dying that had you thinking and accusing her of that. Some couples can get frustrated and go to the extreme of accusing each other of the unprintables. If it's sheer frustration do continue being prayerful, couples get blessed after many years of misfortunes with birthing issues.

Did you say that she really told you so---that she is----- (I don't even want to mention those dirty fetish things biko)? It sounds unbelievable but if that is so, it's a pity that it's not in my place to tell you what to do here. I only feel much for the pain you are going through for losing your babies, it hurts to lose loved ones. Do accept my sympathy.

@poster,you should go to the religion section of the forum

It's a medical issue. Nothing more, nothing less. Consult a doctor to find out why. Stop being silly.

ouch, sad story, i think you should be seeing a Pastor.

touch one man, Gods grace.

Seun, Medical for real?

at Poster. Did the kids die in their sleep. Tell us more about it. Something can stick out to someone and realize that this isjust a medical problem. It could also be genetic. Did they fall sick? What happened

It is not your wifes fault.

Someone has placed a curse on you.
You must find out who that person is.
You might know who wants to hurt you like this. Or you might pay someone to find the evil person who has done this.
A witch smeller will help you.
Then either the person repents and takes the curse back and pays you retribution.
Or fire cleans the the curse away.
You must find your enemy if you are weak the curse will follow your family

woman born pikin them blame her she no born them blame her! do you even know you guys genotype? years back people were shouting ogbanje, abiku and all that crap but today abiku don migrate out of naija! go seek medical help and go on your kneels if you think its spiritual. God is everywhere and he know both you and your problem morethan any so called man of God! we're all children of God so pray for yourself because once you start running around you won't stop! that's when you'll know that men of God has grade by grade and diff prices

worry246:

It is not your wifes fault.

Someone has placed a curse on you.
You must find out who that person is.
You might know who wants to hurt you like this. Or you might pay someone to find the evil person who has done this.
A witch smeller will help you.
Then either the person repents and takes the curse back and pays you retribution.
Or fire cleans the the curse away.
You must find your enemy if you are weak the curse will follow your family

Witch smeller ko, Mammy water sniffer ni
Na make him begin run after Some business men disguised as prayer warriors and babalawos abi??
One thing is certain here, if the wife in truth have no dealings with any dirty spirit, and it is cleared medically that there is no problem causing that they will have and  hug more children that will grow into adults in Jesus name, Amen.

I am not good with these spirit things but if in truth she is linked with them, deliverance (with a true man of God that has a heart for God) may set her free.

prince_onx:

woman born pikin them blame her she no born them blame her! do you even know you guys genotype? years back people were shouting ogbanje, abiku and all that crap but today abiku don migrate out of naija! go seek medical help and go on your kneels if you think its spiritual. God is everywhere and he know both you and your problem morethan any so called man of God! we're all children of God so pray for yourself because once you start running around you won't stop! that's when you'll know that men of God has grade by grade and diff prices

Mr. Prince that your Abiku statement is real funny but this thread is not one to laugh in or I would have enjoyed your joke. You are very right about the grades and different prices of some faky men of devil. I have relatives that got swindled off their savings while following such in search of solutions. I agree that he shouldn't run after people that only want money in the name of praying for him, he is already a prayerful person and should stay strong and remain prayerful

One thing you must know is that your wife may not be able to help herself if she is involved "spiritually" as you said. That means you are the one to help her out. Afterall, are you not in the marriage together? If you claim you are a christian did you not say " for better for worse, in sickness and in health" when you were at the pulpit? Marriage is sacred and that is why you need to look B4 you leap. You have leapt and now you can still remedy whatever is the problem is if it is that children die before a year of birth and just that. Deciphering the source of the problem means it is half solved. If you love her as a wife then its a wake up call to you. Am sure its because " its either her life or the children'" is the reason for her nonchalance .
There are several churches that specialise in casting out unclean spirits ( mountain of fire for instance). You may even attend some of the services of Baba Kumuyi. Though this depends on if you are in Nigeria as I believe other options are available where you reside.
What makes a man is his ability to provide support for the " weaker vessel" especially when they need it most. You neednt part with any money in a church with God's presence if you want to achieve that except on your on volition. YOUR TIME STARTS NOW

Guy, no disrespect, you are absolutely wrong. It's amazing that people still think like you in 2011. Listen, I'm 100% sure that your interpretation of the situation is wrong. You are intellectually lazy. There is a medical condition that is causing your kids to die young. They may have some variant of sickle cell or a number of other conditions. Instead of you to find the medical issue, you are talking about some yeye goddess. If there is juju in Naija, why dem no use am fight the people wey come colonize us. Guy, wake up from the stone age. If you can afford to go abroad with your wife, do so and undergo a detailed medical check-up.

There are a lot of conditions whose sufferers have a high mortality rate. I'm not saying they did not dedicate your wife or what not, but that has nothing to do with your kids dying, unless your wife really believes the story and is therefore negligent. Your mind and your wife's mind needs to be disabused from the false belief,

This is most likely a genetic condition that the both of you have. This is why some people go for genetic tests before they decide to marry. If it is not sickle cell, it is a genetic condition. It may be the two of you that have it or you Mr. Poster. The both of you may not be genetically compatible. Kepp trying, who knows what God can do. If you have the money you can take her for IVF abroad and have the doctors screen for genetic defects.

The probability of this being a medical problem may be more than the spiritually believed one. I don't believe in all these amazing powers we ascribe to things and exalting some dirty looking old men in some village as having great powers when they are unable to rescue themselves from poverty in the first place yet there is no denying the fact that evil forces lurk around. If the wife has those fetish dealings she should go for deliverance  and they should also look at the many medically explained causes of child mortality like the Rhesus Factor issues etc
Marriage should not be carelessly broken with piles and heaps of blames when the problems therein may have been solved if the right channel of solving the problem is followed. Time has moved and the world is so developed that people shouldn't pack up on their marriages and blame it on the gods.
This couple should not sit at home and frustrate & depress over themselves. They should go to seek the counselling, examination and advice of good doctors as well as be strong in prayers.  The doctors in the house/NL should advise this man before he chases his wife out of their matrimonial home.
I saw these very explanatory write-ups on the Rhesus factor and decided to post the links below

http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-the-rhesus-factor.htm
The Rhesus factor, also known as the Rh factor, gets its name from experiments conducted in 1937 by scientists Karl Landsteiner and Alexander S. Weiner. These revolutionary case studies involved rabbits which, when injected with the Rhesus monkey's red blood cells, produced an antigen present in the red blood cells of many humans. The Rhesus factor is an antigen, or more specifically a protein, that exists on the surface of red blood cells.

There are four general categories of blood: A, B, O, and AB. Each blood type is further labeled as positive or negative, which is a reference to the Rhesus factor of the blood. People with the Rhesus factor, that is, people with the antigen present in their blood, are Rh-positive. So a person who has a blood type of A and has the Rhesus factor is said to have A-positive, or A+, blood. More than 85% of people are Rh-positive. People without the Rhesus factor, that is, people that don't have the antigen in their blood, are Rh-negative.
A person's Rh type is generally significant only with respect to pregnancies. Specifically, a Rh-positive child born to an Rh-negative woman runs the risk of developing Rh disease. Only Rh-negative women risk having children with the Rhesus factor disease; Rh-positive women do not. So, for a Rh-negative woman to have a Rh-positive child, the father must have been Rh-positive. A Rh-positive man has a 50% chance of passing on his Rh-positive blood type to the child.

If the mother is Rh-negative and the child is Rh-positive, and the child's blood enters the woman's bloodstream during the pregnancy, labor, or delivery, the woman's immune system may respond by producing antibodies to fight off the child's antigens which are foreign to the woman's system. That is, the woman's body may naturally produce antibodies which attack the baby's blood, causing the baby's red blood cells to break down. The result of this incompatibility will not affect the health of the mother but it can affect the child's health. Potential health problems include jaundice, anemia, brain or heart damage, and in severe cases Rh disease can be fatal.
The Rhesus factor is less likely to affect the first-born child because the woman's system will have had less time and is therefore less likely to produce the antibodies to fight off the antigens in the child's Rh-positive blood. If the woman has become sensitized, that is, her immune system responded by producing antibodies, those antibodies will be present in her system for the rest of her life. Therefore, disparate Rhesus factor types between a woman and her child can increase the potential for Rh disease in each subsequent pregnancy.
Preventative measures to protect against the Rhesus factor disease and their devastating effects are available. Women should be tested early in their first pregnancies to determine whether they are Rh-negative and whether they are sensitized. Sensitization may not only occur through normal pregnancies, but at any time a woman and her child's blood mix, including miscarriages, ectopic pregnancies, and blood transfusions.

If a woman is Rh-negative, and has not yet been sensitized, she will likely be given an injection of a blood product known as Rh immunoglobulin (Rhlg) at about seven months into the pregnancy. This should prevent sensitization for the rest of the pregnancy. The Rhlg shot seeks to destroy any antigens present in the bloodstream before the mother is able to create antibodies. Additionally, it is generally recommended that the newborn be tested for his or her Rhesus blood type. If the child is positive, the mother is often given another Rhlg shot shortly after birth to prevent her from becoming sensitized. Rhlg injections only last for a given pregnancy. Subsequent pregnancies will likely require separate Rhlg injections.
If the woman is Rh-negative and has been sensitized, the Rhlg injection will not help. Close monitoring of the baby should be conducted to ensure that Rh disease is not developing. Blood transfusions to replace the diseased blood with healthy blood may be given during or after delivery depending on the circumstances

other links
http://www.infoplease.com/ce6/sci/A0841716.html

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rh_blood_group_system

how many times dem dey move this topic

if u think ur wife is possess den u are also possess. cos de two of u are now one de dy u marry. the best thing u should do is pray repent of any hidden u've committed in inthe past and God will so readily change ur story

My wife has refused to go to MFM for Prayers, she prefers Churches where they teach principles of success and practices of failure,
She has Tanda in the house refusing to pack and threathning if i marry another woman
Please Help me,
What else can i do?

I am not sure why she is still putting up with you. Go to MFM and cast out your own demons

@oldtime. You are such a looser. Get a life. Take your wife and the kids to the doctor and find out why there are actually dyeing.

There may just be a carrier of the disease sickle cell Anaemia

for better, for worse, till death do us part" does it mean anything to u? she is ur wife and ur responsibility.help her get delivered from her bondage. do u think she does not feel pains.i'm sure she also wants the kids to stay. she needs you now. be there for her.

I can tell you with certainty that your wife is not possessed and is never possessed. If you don't mind , can you list the symptoms
your children had before they died? Can you shed some light on the post mortem findings?  I suggest that you visit a reputable
hospital with a reputable paediatricians and pathologists. I bet it might be a rare genetic disorder