lisasmiles:

I have a friend who has been dating a guy from Nigeria for over 9 months and she has falling in love with him and considering marrying him. He claims that he loves her as well. I see them together and they seem as if they are truly in love. My problem is with their relationship she found out the got married last year to a woman in Nigeria and they have a child together. She asked him about it and he claims that he had to marry her, because her father was the minister in the village and the father wanted to save face, because of his status in the village. She also told me that he said the marriage was not legal; it was just something that they did because she was pregnant at the time. Her guy said that the child lives with his mom and he claims that the only thing that he misses about Nigeria is his child. He claims that the mom is no longer in the child’s life, but I personally saw the mom and child pictured together on face book. I tried talking to my friend, but she is convinced that he is telling her the truth. She said that she talked with his mom and brother and they know that they are dating with the intent to get married and neither of them mention anything about the marriage. My question is could this be true as far as the marriage not being legal or is there a Nigerian law that marriages have to be legal? Is there a possibility that his family is in on hiding his secret marriage? She said that he is in America on a student visa and she does not want him to leave, so she is willing to marry him. Please Help Me Help Her,

tom28:

lisa in nigeria a man can have 28 wives and nobody is going to do anything about it.Polygamy is much legal in naija but very inconvinient and this explains why child labour is on the rise in nigeria.The Govt ought to ban poor ppl frm engaging in polygamy but then all the nigeria govt is intrested in is looting.

olas2u:

what nonsense are you writing here,you dont paint Nigeria wrongly,there are laws in our country.Do you go to the law courts.You better wake up.

tom28:

Is this the law you talking about?
Since when did nigeria have laws?
Lets not deceieve ourslelf nigeria is a lawless country were anything goes.
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l travel more and understand different societies and know there are know perfect society and systems.Keep condeming your place of origin .How can you come on a forum and judge people by just a mere right up .She is not married and does not want to lose her friend.she will be happy when she is single again.

xxcarolxx:

Your friend is heading for heartbreak. The guy will marry her for green card and as soon as he gets it, he will make arrangements to bring his wife over, You can only try and get through to your friend with the hope she will listen, Since he is married it's legal,

MRbrownJAY:

there are many ways to confirm if he is playing her or not, marriage is a BIG step and you are right to worry about your friends because some people out there are blinded by love and dont use their brain to evaluate the situation.

- there are always THREE sides to a story, if you said that you saw the African wife pictures on FB then why dont you contact her and let her give her side of the story?
- since there seems to be a lot of confusion regarding Africa then why dont they go to Africa to sort it all out?
- as someone rightly said before, if your friend doesnt mind being a second wife then let them get married then.
- why does your friend wants to get married? is it because thats what she wants OR because he needs it to stay in the country?