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MY GRANDPA'S WORDS

by Odili Nathaniel Tobechukwu on Saturday, 23 July 2011 at 01:07

Three people you can never beat in an argument God, a woman and me; God because He knows all things, woman because she thinks she knows all things and me because I'm the one writing this note, a lawyer and most of all I don't know anything. One day after a long argument with dad, my grandpa called me and said given your penchant for argument especially when you know you are on the right, three things you must do if you want to enjoy your life in marriage:

1) While quarrel is inevitable, as much as you can avoid arguing with a woman, you can never win the argument. If you are wrong, you are wrong; if you are right, you’ll still be found to be wrong. The only problem he said is that if you are always agreeing with her, she either questions you manliness, suspect you of cheating or throw tantrums.

2) Listen more and don’t speak too much especially when you are angry because women never forget - five, ten, twenty, thirty years down the road she will always remind you of what you said even in the heat of argument. Irony, is that she would never remind you of what she said. Unfortunately, you can’t remember either, even if you do, she would either tell you that you misinterpreted her or acting like a woman.

3) Lose the battle to win the war; what is the gain in winning an argument, then served an undone, over-salted and over- spiced food? How would you contend with her been sick from the day you won the argument; you can’t touch her and don’t think of even going near her in bed. If you are going to apologise eventually while not give in before the battle starts. LOSE THE BATTLE, WIN THE WAR.

In my youthful exuberance, I said it makes no sense why people are always in a hurry to get married. When you lose all your rights, and all the days of your miserable life, you would be trying please just one person. Then my grandpa said, son you still got much to learn:

1) There is a mystery about the woman that draw us to them, you can’t escape it. The only way you can try to solve that mystery is getting married. Unfortunately, you can’t solve that mystery all your life because the more you try, the more complex it gets. So you are stuck my son. Reading my thoughts, he said moving from one woman to another only compound the mystery, leading to a more miserable life. (I can’t contest that, he had three wives).

2) You need them more than you think you do; you need them more than they think you do. Look around you, presidents, kings and the real important people in the world, how many there is without a woman? Our Obi cannot be crowned king except he finds a wife - simply put, they make KINGS. They mature you, calm you and reason differently (though silly at times) help make you a greater you. God help you though if you fall into the hands of a wrong one, you will be buried before you die.

He said well, is not that you won't take my words to heart or you wont try not to engage in too many arguments with your wife but you are a man, you wont even remember my words when quarrel starts. God help you my son.

There are some things i need to find out about my grandpa's movements when he was younger but unfortunately i guess i'll never know and i dont think my mum does either.

He was a witness to nigerian history, i think.

Your Grandpa is a very wise man

tpia@:

There are some things i need to find out about my grandpa's movements when he was younger but unfortunately i guess i'll never know and i dont think my mum does either.

He was a witness to nigerian history, i think.

If he is who you claim he is, he'd have a journal somewhere. Question is, are you ready to dedicate time for it?

dedicate time meaning?

yes, one would expect there to be a journal of some kind but i doubt there's one.

journal keeping is a white thing.

nigerians back then went by word of mouth.

Not if they were schooled and had a "white" man they looked up to who kept journals as well.

^Can you give any example of an african who kept a journal back then.

In any case, there was no journal so that's that.

Anyone bringing some fake writeup from nowhere will not find an audience in me, sorry.

Your case has never been hard to decipher and handle. Always looking for SOURCE or is it SAUCE?

Wait while I give you journals by Africans of old.

^Oversabi people like you amuse me.

Have you found your "journals" yet and please do not post anything by diasporan africans such as olaudah equiano.

Keep waiting "diasporan african".

So you get amused? I vex in spanish.

I'm pressed sorry, I'm impressed!

^^you've had your two minutes of attention from me.

hope you enjoyed it, now you can go crush on someone else.

yes, you can fall in love again- there are many lovely females on nl even though you only have eyes for tpia.

Stop winking @ me.

Not interested!

not interested = not following tpia around.

interested = always following tpia's posts.


dictionary definitions:

-If you are interested in something, you think it is important and want to learn more about it or spend time doing it.

-1.having an interest or share; concerned
2.influenced by personal interest; biased or prejudiced
3.feeling or showing interest, or curiosity



so, you seem to have it really bad. Wish i could help but unfortunately i'm not into black guys.

What a dumb blonde you are!

. . .quoting scriptures for me? I laugh in eskimo tongue.