Strict Christian that fornicates! Is that the new standard for Christians?

No one's perfect not in God or even man's sight. Not one person is without sin not even the strictest Christians.
I'm not saying as Christians that we should do wrong but I'm saying we shouldn't criticize anyone.

^^^^^^ I wouldn't go as far as to say that the western world has discarded religion.


But I think that she is only using this as an excuse to buy time. Scary and irresponsible to use "God" as an excuse!

she has been trying so hard to tell you it will never happen.
Are you waiting till you see her wedding invite without you on it?
Most women I have dated in the past literally kept bugging me to set a date for the big day.
What marriage entails is two people who are in love and ready to make the final leap of committment.
She doesn't sound so sure about marriage with you so maybe my friend she doesn't or ever did love you.
Move on.

my friend I will tell you to move on and find you another girl, she is not the one for you, she is only using you to her advantage!!
Whenever a girl is saying "I am praying over it", it is a big red flag,

^^^
the guy should have know that she is keepind him as reserve

she dey wait for her oda guy response

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@ Ferdii.

I thought he meant investing emotionally and timewise not financialy.
Now If he paid her fees and really spent money on her then that really sucks.But you know what? I blame him for that. If you are blind enough to invest a lot financially when you are only dating then who do you blame when things don't go the way you expect?
Makes me wonder if the money you spend while courting is a form of dowry that you have to cry foul later?
She is not yet your wife so,do it if you choose to but do not cry later when things fall apart.
Nothing is sure or guaranteed till you say I do so.Love is not blind.

@ enoquin

This lady is not putting a fullstop to poster's life.Its the poster who doesnt want to let her go because he thinks 4 years of courting is just to much to throw away.
He has to accept a heartbreak and like I said if He cannot wait for her then let her go! Theres are plenty of women and he will still spend something on them.At least he will always have  real life story to tell in future and encourage somebody in a similar situation.
key thing is he should not force her into marrying her.

So why bringing God inside now because Christ-like people do not take what is not theirs? Fake Nigerian Christians! I have known them ALL.They will actually give you the impression they are for good only that their parents are poor, then along the line they will see another individual that never invested shishi and they go away. Even after graduation or what career, they are still yard women, buying and selling or completely dependent folks.You think you have cheated God too?

Give her maximum 1 year. I believe she is being hesistant because of her age. You are a man, u can still afford to wait a little.
Although that phrase worry, sounds more like a line you say to someone who you dont want to make a commitment to, but you know her better than the rest of us. Me thinks you are in the best position to tell us what you make of that statement.

@ferdii

Yeah its very annoying when people use the name of God in vain.I think they pick it up from their pastors.
Seems like many christian girls in nigeria have been brainwashed then because theirs lots of mentioning God in issues that don't even deserve his attention.
But it boils down to you. If you are searching for a wife then search for 'wife' not a 'christian'.
A christian never made a wife but a wife may as well be a christian so well and good.
But if all you find is a christian girl with no wife qualities then drop her fast. If you do not then God is not to blame. God is not some piece of cloth or umbrella to use only when its raining.
Now how would you have known that 'some' not all are fake if you had not been cheated by one?
Experiences are good ie if they do not end up killing you. You are wiser now so yeah choose well.

Go and buy the damned funnel!!!

^^LOL
I think he already did and it must have worked.Haven't seen him around.
If so he must invite 190 to his wedding.

this idea is the best

I quite agreed wt the lady in question cos marriage is meaningless wtout God believe me. Have u ask yourself why more than 10,000 couples split in a year particularly in Lagos? So i advise give her sometime

@poster, i understand your distress, you don't have to be angry at the nairalanders that are making jest of you all you have to do is that just forget the lady and go on with your life. she is never going to be ready for you. it doesn't take that long to hear from God if your spirit man is well develop to handle such, if she is not for you your spirit wont just rest that is way the spirit of God can guide you through your own spirit, if she is for you then she will definitely come back but just forget her for now, and go back to God, when you see your prospects some thing will guide you from the inside if you are sensitive enough to pick it.

thank you danyl, well said, just continue and go on with your life, the lady is not gonna say yes, thats just the simple truth

Marriage isn't always the big payout you get for time invested and services rendered in a relationship. You might be the perfect deal on paper, but her heart isn't made of paper. As hard as it is to accept cold hard reality, you my dear Sir, are not the one for this lady. Respect and command her for her honesty and her respect of you. She knows you're a cool dude and wouldn't
want to shackle you to an unbearable, loveless forever.

Cut your losses, keep the memories and get on with Plan B. Happily Ever After don't live there, try down the road to the left.

Good Luck.

I really appreciate all your responses. You all are a great resource and basically mentioned just about every thought going through my head. I actually sent her this link so she can see public opinion on her action and reminded her that these are people who neither know me nor know her. I have decided what to do and my decision spans across a bunch of your suggestions. She definitely won't be surprised when I do whatever. This forum should still be here in the coming months and years so I will give you guys updates. Once more, I appreciate all your input and willingness to help a stranger.

you sent her the link?

190's reply will kill her lol

God first in all things

U go and seek the face of God first for direction

1 corithians 1 : 18 " For the preaching of the cross is to them that perish, foolishness; but unto us which are saved, it is the power of God." waiting for God's approval not foolishness. It is the best decision, you can take. It is better not to get married than to marry the wrong person. There is another hell on earth, it is called wrong marriage. If you have to pray, it will be a worthwhile achievment, if you hear from GOD. Do not make that mistake. God bless you. God2man.

There are two decisions you must not joke with in life. 1. Your career 2. The person you will marry. Anything you can do to hear from God on these two areas will be worthwhile, if you can pray and fast on these two points, the more colourful, your life become. Now, many marriages are at the verge of collapse. Why? It is because it is not founded on the eternal rock of ages that is God, If the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do? Psalm 11:3. Many people have married their enemy on the basis of "I LOVE YOU". I pray you will not marry the person that will send you to the grave. So, it is not a foolish thing to pray for God's choice in marriage. God bless you. God2man. people have married their enemy on the basis of "I LOVE YOU". I pray you will not marry the person that will send you to the grave. So, it is not a foolish thing to pray for God's choice in marriage. God bless you. God2man.

1, if she has been with you for 4 years and is reluctant it is most likely that she thinks she can do better and given what I have seen in Nigeria, women tend to be mostly concerned for their financial security so if you don’t have that much that may be it.

2, Maybe because you call yourself WomanRapa and she is looking for someone who doesn’t fit that particular description.

3. Waiting to hear from God is a good thing if she is for real. If she marries you then you know she heard form God so she cannot say it’s a mistake later down the line. If she ever tried to leave you can remind her is God is disobeying o o o