I have seen men who were married grow cold in love, it was shocking to know that a marriage once celebrated with so much of excitement can grow cold.

Living together with a woman only to hide the shame of not being married is disgusting to me, especially when it is so obvious that the excitement of the marriage is ended.

There seems to be some insatiable appetite in man and woman that the bondage of marriage cannot satisfy, I have seen women in infidelity and men too, it is terrible these days that I begin to wonder if marriage is necessary.

My friend leaves for work at 8 am, and returns at 5pm, he came back one days and traced the wife to her shop, he was too lucky to find her locking the shop and he traced her to the house of a custom officer, the wife sat conveniently on the lap of a custom officer in Lagos.

I know someone who does not sleep with his wife anymore but he prefers to sleep with other women,
This thing discourages one from starting a relationship

I have seen many girl boasting about several men and same with men,

When I see married men or women in Restaurants and public places buying food in the morning, I wonder what their wives are doing that their husbands must eat outside,

When I see women in rage and fury, I imagine a marriage with a quarrelsome woman,
With the new civilization that allows women to open their breast of show a bit of their unclothedness, I wonder if one can marry a good wife,

Anytime I see a woman expose her unclothedness, it tears me apart, I know that some men like them so, but would not like it if their wives does it (when Love is really at its birth stage)

Yet, there must be some good girls somewhere

Please for those who are married, when does Love Expire?

[color=#000099][/color]Forgive me for being too clumsy, it is an expression of the state of my heart

And your point is?

Marriage is a big time institution,once u enter no backin out.Marriage is al abt T.O.L.E.R.A.N.C.E.During d time of ur courtship,u wuld hav known d kind man/woman he/she would b,if he/she is d type u can b wit against al odds den dats cool.To me i tink dose dat hav issues in their marriage has nt taken time out of no time durin courtship 2 truly knw who dey truly are,2 knw if dey are truly COMPATIBLE(i mean compatibliity in almost everytin bt nt in al tins sha).I pray God bless married pple n He shal nt forsake we dat r yet 2 marry IJN.My advice,look out 4dat special person dat u re destin 2 b wit.

hmmmm? never knew love has an expiry date

I have seen men who were married grow cold in love, it was shocking to know that a marriage once celebrated with so much of excitement can grow cold.

Living together with a woman only to hide the shame of not being married is disgusting to me, especially when it is so obvious that the excitement of the marriage is ended.

There seems to be some insatiable appetite in man and woman that the bondage of marriage cannot satisfy, I have seen women in infidelity and men too, it is terrible these days that I begin to wonder if marriage is necessary.

My friend leaves for work at 8 am,  and returns at 5pm, he came back one days and traced the wife to her shop, he was too lucky to find her locking the shop and he  traced her to the house of a custom officer, the wife sat conveniently on the lap of a custom officer in Lagos.  

I know someone who does not sleep with his wife anymore but he prefers to sleep with other women,
This thing discourages one from starting a relationship

I have seen many girl boasting about several men and same with men,

When I see married men or women in Restaurants and public places buying food in the morning, I wonder what their wives are doing that their husbands must eat outside,

When I see women in rage and fury, I imagine a marriage with a quarrelsome woman,
With the new civilization that allows women to open their bosom of show a bit of their unclothedness, I wonder if one can marry a good wife,

Anytime I see a woman expose her unclothedness, it tears me apart, I know that some men like them so, but would not like it if their wives does it (when Love is really at its birth stage)

Yet, there must be some good girls somewhere

Please for those who are married, when does Love Expire?

Forgive me for being too clumsy, it is an expression of the state of my heart[b][/b]


Love doesn't expire,but the question should be asked was it love in the first place? Also pertinent question is love enough to sustain a marriage?

Being married for 3years and from my little experience and from a spiritual point of view,marriage is so complicated and complex that you need the help of God for any God ordained marriage to survive,to add to all the complexity you have the devil who fights marriages and then you have the two individuals in the marraige who arrive the marriage with character flaws and yet added to the mix is two people or one persons going into marriage without adequate preparation or knowledged,then my poster what you get is the examples you enumerated above.

Not to fear what you have seen is one side of the coin,there is another side the good side,so go into marriage with adequate knowledge,prepare well,pray and trust God.Let me leave you with a few advices that have helped me

1)Don't marry tribe,complexion,shape,profession,money but marry your friend and marry for love
2)True love comes from God,it's not a feeling but a decision you make to stay committed to your spouse,feelings is usually sustained by this decision,the decision helps you  throught the challenges that always come.
3)During courtship spend more time communicating instead of being involved sexually,communication brings understanding,understanding bring unity and peace.
4)In marriage prepare to change and make compromises to make the marriage work.
5)Agree from the beginning they are areas to are not to be touched,e.g Divorce,unfaithfulness.When this is settled then you feel safe to be yourself in marriage never ever in marriage threaten each other with divorce or being unfaithful for any reason,fight fair,Arguments  will come but there is nothing that can't be settled by two matured adults sitting down and having a talk.
6)Work very hard to keep the passion in your marriage burning hot,let nothing(e.g children,career,business,church activities) take the place of first your relationship to God and then your relationship with each other. Be innovative in the bedroom,go out on dates,never settle into a rote,husbands;keep chasing your wife,and wife;keep seducing your husbands.
7)No matter what or how hard,do two things and your marriage will never die1) Always pray together every day about your marriage 2)Never sleep in seperate rooms or beds and if you are brave enough always sleep close to each other naked!

With all these,not exhaustive in the least,i can tell you that love never expires.

@Jettage!!

That is a lot of headache you are carrying in your head!! .
Stop looking at people's failures and concentrate on building your future or else your giving yourself ulcers for other pple's biz!

Lol!! You are seeing and interpreting too much! more than you can handle!   men and women eating at restos angry women,semi Unclad women?
You are becoming obsessed!! Be careful with your senses

Now peoples' failures/acts do not determine your destiny or make you lose hope in anything esp marriage.There are blissful ones.Check them out!
Listen what you are seeing now has been going on since time immemorial and will continue happening long after you are gone bro.
So relax,be hopeful,optimistic, close your ears and eyes when it comes to other pple's biz. You will not be able to handle.

To answer you question,Love can grow cold and eventually die. I am not sure if die/expire is the same thing here.
All you need to do is work hard to stop it from growing cold.Now that is a booklet in itself but we know the basics.

Plus its human nature to admire/desire what they do not posess. How to stop that? keep your fire burning.

Finally.Its not a must to marry esp if you cannot handle heartbreaks.

A man is not main to have just one woman.Of course you gonna get fed up one thing after a while.love is a pipe dream

Love will only expire if it was based on The physical beauty of a person, wealth, fame etc.

Real true love last forever but the passion wouldn't last forever if you don't put in a bit of work now and then.

P.S I am not married Oo I am only speaking from my own personal experience and common sense.

'True love' does not expire.

Sometimes I ponder over this and My head just feels like its gon explode. Poster, thanks for stating the f***kin obvious and rekindling that fear of marriage in me. Got me a couple of years before momma comes running. Thank you v.much!

There is universal love that cherishes all that is good but there is nothing personal about it.As long as u cherish u will LV

The real question is whether "love" exists in the first place, that's what we should be asking.

Love never expires,it radiates and grows from strength to strength.

Sleek Reek:

Also pertinent question is love enough to sustain a marriage?

Being married for 3years and from my little experience and from a spiritual point of view,marriage is so complicated and complex that you need the help of God for any God ordained marriage to survive,to add to all the complexity you have the devil who fights marriages and then you have the two individuals in the marraige who arrive the marriage with character flaws and yet added to the mix is two people or one persons going into marriage without adequate preparation or knowledged,then my poster what you get is the examples you enumerated above.

Not to fear what you have seen is one side of the coin,there is another side the good side,so go into marriage with adequate knowledge,prepare well,pray and trust God.Let me leave you with a few advices that have helped me

1)Don't marry tribe,complexion,shape,profession,money but marry your friend and marry for love
2)True love comes from God,it's not a feeling but a decision you make to stay committed to your spouse,feelings is usually sustained by this decision,the decision helps you  throught the challenges that always come.
3)During courtship spend more time communicating instead of being involved sexually,communication brings understanding,understanding bring unity and peace.
4)In marriage prepare to change and make compromises to make the marriage work.
5)Agree from the beginning they are areas to are not to be touched,e.g Divorce,unfaithfulness.When this is settled then you feel safe to be yourself in marriage never ever in marriage threaten each other with divorce or being unfaithful for any reason,fight fair,Arguments  will come but there is nothing that can't be settled by two matured adults sitting down and having a talk.
6)Work very hard to keep the passion in your marriage burning hot,let nothing(e.g children,career,business,church activities) take the place of first your relationship to God and then your relationship with each other. Be innovative in the bedroom,go out on dates,never settle into a rote,husbands;keep chasing your wife,and wife;keep seducing your husbands.
7)No matter what or how hard,do two things and your marriage will never die1) Always pray together every day about your marriage 2)Never sleep in seperate rooms or beds and if you are brave enough always sleep close to each other Unclad!

With all these,not exhaustive in the least,i can tell you that love never expires.

Spot  on guy. I honestly feel marriage is so damned overrated in naija. Lots of people get married just for the status. Then what does anyone expect from such unions?

this is so inspiring, Nairaland! God bless Seun

Love doesn't expire,but the question should be asked was it love in the first place? Also pertinent question is love enough to sustain a marriage?

Being married for 3years and from my little experience and from a spiritual point of view,marriage is so complicated and complex that you need the help of God for any God ordained marriage to survive,to add to all the complexity you have the devil who fights marriages and then you have the two individuals in the marraige who arrive the marriage with character flaws and yet added to the mix is two people or one persons going into marriage without adequate preparation or knowledged,then my poster what you get is the examples you enumerated above.

Not to fear what you have seen is one side of the coin,there is another side the good side,so go into marriage with adequate knowledge,prepare well,pray and trust God.Let me leave you with a few advices that have helped me

1)Don't marry tribe,complexion,shape,profession,money but marry your friend and marry for love
2)True love comes from God,it's not a feeling but a decision you make to stay committed to your spouse,feelings is usually sustained by this decision,the decision helps you throught the challenges that always come.
3)During courtship spend more time communicating instead of being involved sexually,communication brings understanding,understanding bring unity and peace.
4)In marriage prepare to change and make compromises to make the marriage work.
5)Agree from the beginning they are areas to are not to be touched,e.g Divorce,unfaithfulness.When this is settled then you feel safe to be yourself in marriage never ever in marriage threaten each other with divorce or being unfaithful for any reason,fight fair,Arguments will come but there is nothing that can't be settled by two matured adults sitting down and having a talk.
6)Work very hard to keep the passion in your marriage burning hot,let nothing(e.g children,career,business,church activities) take the place of first your relationship to God and then your relationship with each other. Be innovative in the bedroom,go out on dates,never settle into a rote,husbands;keep chasing your wife,and wife;keep seducing your husbands.
7)No matter what or how hard,do two things and your marriage will never die1) Always pray together every day about your marriage 2)Never sleep in seperate rooms or beds and if you are brave enough always sleep close to each other Unclad!

With all these,not exhaustive in the least,i can tell you that love never expires.

To whoever wrote this, Thanks bruv. Really beautiful!

@op,

love ought not expire, "For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband." - Rom_7:2.   "And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." - Matt 19:5-6

We never sit, especially i, in judgment of anyone else  “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of GOD;” - Rom 3:23.  Having stated this truth, i tell you, you see and hear all you do re: infidelity because many people truly do not know GOD, or rather are known of HIM and are thus not truly led and kept by the Holy Spirit of GOD.  "What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound?
God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?" - Rom 6:1-2 

Love ought never to expire.  Just as GOD, The Lord JESUS CHRIST has freely, graciously and mercifully bestowed HIS love on many (HIS saints, children - collectively, HIS church or bride), so men ought to love there wives, always and unconditionally and vice versa. 

"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;  That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,  That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.  Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband." - Eph 5:25-33 [the "church" in view here are not these many local congregations that constantly spring up, it it the real eternal church of GOD, all those in history that have have justified and pardoned in The Lord JESUS CHRIST].

I think I love my spouse more after 2 years, not less! I hope our love never expires

@Sleek Reek, can i apply for marriage counseling

@ sleek reek wat a womderful write up. Tnx

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@Sleek Reek, can i apply for marriage counseling Cry Cry

@Skii i'm actually a marriage counselor,it's my passion.

You are really good at what you does I must say.

That was a beautiful write up.

Love does not fade, technically, it only evolves.

Psychological researches prove that after some  years, passionate love (state of intense longing for union with another) turns to compassionate love (affection we feel for those whom our lives are deeply intertwined).

The love is still there. Compassionate is subtle, it's a deep, affectionate attachment.

After two years of marriages, spouses express affection about half as often as when they were newly weds (Houston & Choros, 1994)