Hi Love 44

If you really love your Guy don't let anyone take him away from you or you may live to regret it.

Good luck and God Bless

honestly, i think u should let go. Guys are really funny, In letting go u may actually help him to ,make a decision. If he was meant to be your he will always find his way back. Sit him down and make your position known, be firm and open. HE NEEDS TO RESPECT YOUR EMOTIONS

FILLLLLLLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! Like the koko master would say

I really think you should take a break from that relationship before it becomes more painful.

he has either opened up 2 u cos he cares or as a means of authenticating his plans 2 run back 2 his ex. keep ur eyes open, gal

if your boyfriend claims he has stronger feelings for you then he should be able to make the sacrifice by allowing all the feelings he has for his ex to die or else if you are not careful you will discover that your man will be professing love to you and at the same time will be having another affair so think twice well you can go make the same post on www.dynamitesinglesforum.com and let people give their own opinion cheers

Rethink abt ur r'ship coz if he can still feels for his ex, u don know, mayb they still date.

My dear,it could be heart broking,but the best thing to do is to leave the guy alone.He isnt urs.it happened to me and he latered ran back to her so pls move on.

this is recipe for disaster, such tales either mean, he harbours those feelings for his ex, and your relationship continues to suffer ,by you resenting him ,or you break up and he goes after her, they sleep together and then he finds out all he really needed was closure and there were no concrete feelings for her, just a nostalgic romantic idea and he regrets breaking up with you.

I would suggest a separation if he comes back to you or it works out in the future and you still want him back and love him then all well and good. But if its not meant to be then it won't happen. Break up for now is what i say. It won't be easy because he may want to test his feelings for her (by either sleeping with her, or seeing her for a while) this is hard to swallow i know. But sometimes when things like this happen , it sometimes feel like there is unfinished business between the two people and sadly one person has to suffer i.e YOU.

My dear,

I SINCERELY advise u allow some time 4 him to make his final decision.
Plz,try n avoid bn pushy or scared!!!!!
just be natural n always make him realise wat's urs wil eva b urs(wit no disrespect intended).

In short,nuetralize ur mind n c as tins b, live ur life n make him feel u weneva ur tgether.
b ur normal person sha n dnt giv 2 much so as nt to appear desperate(e might take advantage of dat).
Be preserved bout sm issues,face ur life n b an achiever.

No b only by Love nowadays,,Ladies gat to b up n achieving 4 a guy to stick his neck 4 her, Learn n develop urself evriday.
make him c new n inspiring tins bout u always.

Wish u Luck.

sorry about that.lol

I think u have to forget about this guy and move on with ur life, if u know what u want .U are not getting younger, at 25 u should be thinking of how to complete ur education and settle down. You have to sit down and think about ur future. Unless u still want 2 play around but it won't help u.

Girlfriend I must tell you, the guy is lying, he only claimed to be two weeks ago but am sure its more than that, I believe he still have feelings for her, gurl please don’t dull yourself and don’t allow him to play smart on you. Catch your fun too, and don’t allow anyguy to use you. am sure he is trying to prepare before hand so that when you finds out he will have something to say

cheers

Well, thanks to all for taking time to respond. I think that i've grieved enough. He called me twice, i did not pick up. He left a message on saturday ( this thing happen on thursday) saying that he gets the message, that i don't want to talk. That he is glad he told me the truth, that he is relieved and is going to give me my space. On getting that message i decided to call, he did not pick up. i left a message telling him that if he is this very honest person he thinks he is, that he would have told me the truth from the beginnig . I also asked him what he expects me to do with his truth that he needs to make a decision. he did not respond to that message, i called him 2x that day and also sent a text asking to talk to him. That was saturday, so it's been two days now he hasn't responded.

I've realized that he doesn't care about me, at least that is what his actions says. He is mad at me! i wonder why? but i know this is another personal mistake.  He should be callling me at this moment, not ignoring me so i guess i get his message.

I'll let you guys know of any new development. Thanks for all your advice.

Thanks very much for your extensive insight into this mess. I really do appreciate it. i'll do as you say and even more. I'm not in love with him though, but that doesn't stop me from hurting a little bit. I know i'll be fine. time is a great healer. i just hope i don't make anymore mistakes. And I'm DEFINITELY DONE with NIGERIAN guys. Well, at least for now

uyai:

Thanks very much for your extensive insight into this mess. I really do appreciate it. i'll do as you say and even more. I'm not in love with him though, but that doesn't stop me from hurting a little bit. I know i'll be fine. time is a great healer. i just hope i don't make anymore mistakes. And I'm DEFINITELY DONE with NIGERIAN guys. Well, at least for now

lol the usual comical conclusion based on isolated experiences. Who told you American men are better? you did not even love him in the first place so somewhere along the line you would have hurt him too.
Nigerian girls na wa. Sometimes you wonder why you even bother.

SwtNsoFLyy:


Good for you, but no he is not mad at you, contrary to what his actions are indicating. what he is doing right now, is playing a 'mind game' with you dear sista , meaning, he is trying to make you WANT him more, by not responding to you, when in fact he is clearly showing that he cares for the other girl more. Theres no sugar coating it from a woman of experience,

Not really, speaking from a guys perspective the fellow has achieved what he wanted all along by a stroke of genius. He has successfully offloaded poor old Uyai while shifting the guilt on her shoulders. I call that a masterstroke!

wow!

If that is the case then so be it. I mourned him for two WHOLE days and that is the end of it. But your perspective is refreshing.

He is not the first bad apple but the third. maybe i'm doing something wrong. I've never given a guy any "known" reason to break up with me, apart from being me.

quit being malicious, david.

the dude's a jackass. It's that simple.

stop calling him uyai, he's feeling happy with himself. If he cared at all, just the fact that you bothered to call him back would make him jump at your calls, thankful even if you two dont get back together he wouldnt just let things end like that. He's a pompous maggot.

maybe you're meeting the wrong men. There's nothing inherently wrong with broken relationships, not all of us will be lucky to meet one person and have it end in marriage.

Set a standard, make sure you both know your expectations of the impending relationship before you jump into it, that way you have a clear understanding of what he is thinking and what his future for u is. Gone are the days when we just saw a fine girl and asked her out right away. Everyone is looking out for where his interests are best served now.

Its not being malicious, its the truth. The red flag that Uyai failed to see was when the guy mentioned that infidelity might be a problem. C'mon, if that did not cause you to raise eyebrows then what will? What man goes into a relationship telling you he is likely to cheat on you in the future and you blindly follow him?
The handwriting was on a wall a long time ago, you just didnt read them.

The more you call him the more you swing the balance of power in his favour.

PTH:

. The red flag that Uyai failed to see was when the guy mentioned that infidelity might be a problem. C'mon, if that did not cause you to raise eyebrows then what will? What man goes into a relationship telling you he is likely to cheat on you in the future and you blindly follow him?
The handwriting was on a wall a long time ago, you just didnt read them.

this is true.

Move on with your life girl friend, until an ex can stay ex in his mind, the relationship is not worth it, or better still give him a break to come to terms with his feelings for her, don’t let anyone use u to get over another person

I think the problem with uyai is that she can't discern the average guy, talk less of those who enjoy infidelity (aka players).

Guys are not as complicated as ladies. A guy tells you he has issues with infidelity - he means it!

Uyai, I think PTH's advice is in order - chill out a bit on dating.

Also, try to have more guy friends; no strings attached, just hang out and do non-intimate stuff together. You really need to hang out more with guys to understand how they think.

pple! pls hear this one fa. wel, may b his Ex sabi the ting pass u.
Dats y he has abandoned u 4 her. u knw say sabiing d ting 4 bed
counts wel enuf in a boyfrnd and galfrnd relationship. For u 2 gain
possesion of ur bf again, mek u go sabi the ting.

My dear,i understand the way u feel.But i must tell u that if u truely love him,dont think of leaving him.Allow fate to take care of everything.What will be will be.Dont worry.It happened to me & i sat down & decided who i really wanted.Just give him time to think about it,after which u will ask him to decide between both of u, Macben Echianu(U.K)[color=#990000][/color]

macechi:

My dear,i understand the way u feel.But i must tell u that if u truely love him,don't think of leaving him.Allow fate to take care of everything.What will be will be.Dont worry.It happened to me & i sat down & decided who i really wanted.Just give him time to think about it,after which u will ask him to decide between both of u, Macben Echianu(UK)[color=#990000][/color]

Wha-aa-at??!!  Give him time to think about. . . . .just what exactly?

Uyai, the guy is playing 'mind' games with you. Avoid the trickster! Listen to PTH and ThiefofHearts. Take SwtNsoFLyy's advice, too. It is worth its' weight in gold.

My recovery level is at 80% right now. Thanks to all. We still haven't spoken yet about the whole stuff. It's been 5 days since his " honest revelation". He did send me text on monday. He was like we haven't spoken in days, it's sad how things have changed. I did not dignify the text with a response.

Thanks to all, i really do appreciate all your response.

Lmao how can he send you such an idiotic text when you tried to call him and he never picked up.

Lmao men are so retarded. Obviously he'd trying to make you try to call him again so he can continue his game. Avoid his trap and removie his number. Gosh, what a loser

uyai:

My recovery level is at 80% right now. Thanks to all. We still haven't spoken yet about the whole stuff. It's been 5 days since his " honest revelation". He did send me text on monday. He was like we haven't spoken in days, it's sad how things have changed. I did not dignify the text with a response.

Thanks to all, i really do appreciate all your response.

"ur" guy deserves a medal, he needs to write a book titled - How to turn the tables and burden a girl with guilt when it was all my fault

and someone else needs a medal for not knowing how to leave voice mails