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tpia@:

the traditional wedding is for the two families, or communities, while the church wedding is for the couple themselves and members of their denomination.

traditional wedding is also called engagement party. It's where the brideprice, traditional requirements etc, are presented.

and it fulfils the cultural requirements of african, or maybe nigerian, weddings.

Tpia can we do Juju marriage

tpia@:

the traditional wedding is for the two families, or communities, while the church wedding is for the couple themselves and members of their denomination.

traditional wedding is also called engagement party. It's where the brideprice, traditional requirements etc, are presented.

and it fulfils the cultural requirements of african, or maybe nigerian, weddings.

BABE!:

Why must there be two types of wedding: Traditional and Church --?

The funny part is that the Church/white wedding is driven from another culture--and surprisingly, it's given so much emphasis than OUR OWN TRADITIONAL WEDDING!

Why can't there be a Priest/Pastor/Imam at the traditional wedding to join the couple and close the deal IN ONE DAY?

Why the waste of money? Why the Efizy? Why do we get married twice? 

On Point! BABY! I commented earlier on another thread that what we call WHITE WEDDING is actually the TRADITIONAL WEDDING of westerners! It's their Culture for as long as i can remember! We have ours! I see it as a waste of money sha and a SHOWY DISPLAY of wealth by AFRICANS especially NIGERIANS to indulge in both kind of MARRIAGES! You marry the same person TWICE?

pendo89:


I am learning a lot here. You mean to say that in nigeria people conduct 2 weddings before they are considered man and wife?

Yes o. We do. TWO SOLID weddings. Actually I can almost say it's THREE. Because, there's typically a thanksgiving ceremony a day after the white wedding. The thanksgiving is like another wedding on it's own.  
Actually there's FOUR  ---there's a ceremony thay call "The Introduction". That's before the traditional wedding.

pendo89:

What about dowry negotiations? are they done before the traditional wedding or are they part of the traditional wedding?

pendo89:

What happens if you skip the traditional wedding then pay dowry and proceed with the white/church wedding or better still settle for the traditional one once and for all?

BABE!:

Yes o. We do. TWO SOLID weddings. Actually I can almost say it's THREE. Because, there's typically a thanksgiving ceremony a day after the white wedding. The thanksgiving is like another wedding on it's own.  
Actually there's FOUR  ---there's a ceremony thay call "The Introduction". That's before the traditional wedding.

LOL--- I always pity a typical  Nigerian Groom and his family. Before the Traditional wedding, they would have visited the bride's family like 50 times (I'm exaggerating)--and they typically would take something "Dowry-ish" along with them to give the bride's family. But that doesn't stop them from bringing YAM, GOATS, SHEEPS, 190s, BAGS OF RICE, CARS( ), CASH MONEY with them for the main TRADTIONAL wedding.

NOTHING O--Nothing happens. We are just too wasteful and confused.

sexkillz:

It's their Culture for as long as i can remember! We have ours! I see it as a waste of money sha and a SHOWY DISPLAY of wealth by AFRICANS especially NIGERIANS to indulge in both kind of MARRIAGES! You marry the same person TWICE?

Yh---the thing is if it's left to me (and only me) to decide on the kind of wedding I want have(If I ever get married), It's definitely gonna be the TRADITIONAL wedding---Kapish.

But, I know it's not possible. My mother and her crew will kill me. If I tell her I want only a Trad. wedding, she'll start giving me her "America has influenced you negatively" talks.

pendo89:

Wow am shocked .That why the likes of 190 have disappeared from nigeria.

Ha. 190? That dude is a lost Sheep. He's still going to marry a Nigerian whether he likes it or not. All he has is mouth.    Ile l'abo isinmi oko.

BABE!:

@ MR.Deniyor

But why? Why are you trying so hard to sound "dumb"?

Can't you just disagree (make your point) with me without incorporating nonsense in your post?

All those questions are rhetorical btw.