maclatunji: So, I see people wanting such a platform but not clearly defining how the process would work. @Simbiatadesomi, I see your suggestion.

@All, The danger with these arrangements is that you could have guys or even ladies acting this way:

1. Guy: Sister, I like you, you like me and we met on Nairalan Singles Forum that supports the idea that we get married. We have been getting along for 6 months now, don't you think it is time for you to come to my place? Don't you trust me? The sister is already emotionally attached and feels obliged to make concessions she is not supposed to make.

2. They start meeting in the wrong places, sex enters their relationship and it becomes "we will use condoms, so people can't find out " and then voila, pregnant sister arises.

These things happen and I am not interested in cluelessly engendering such. Can't the serious guys set out their marriage intentions to sisters they think have what they want?

As a sister too, can you not notify a brother you think is compatible for marriage? You never know, he may fancy you as a wife too. You guys can sort-out impediments together.

I am not throwing the idea of creating a platform for Muslim Singles to connect towatds marriage but you should give me better reasons why I should go through the trouble.

onegig: Maybe you guys stop trying to spoonfeed people. Anyone old enough to get married and can't hunt by himself without external factors ain't truly ready to settle down. There are lots of people making the necessary connections behind the scene. Once you create a platform for such you have already set it up for failure because you can't truly control the outcome and proceedings. Laudable idea but not fit for this platform. There are thousands of single people here. If you can't discern and do your home work then all i can say is good luck. Please don't give me the community excuse. There are some things that an individual must undertake by themselves. This is one of them.

Sissie: Theirs a limit to what can be controlled but at least an enabling environment can be created, with criteria I.e graduate and/or has a job and ready to get married or almost ready.

Some people are very shy and ultra conservative. More people are beginning to meet their spouse online, infact a high percentage. And like all other methods with its pros and cons, this has too.
Must they be in the same locality, they could even be continents apart and it could work.

onegig: ^^ Sissie..i am a big fan of such meetings. But truth is once you put up that one. The kain "advert" you go dey see would baffle you.

But wait the forum is anonymous enough. You don't use your real names, no phone numbers, your email address is not displayed and so on. So what's holding back the shy ones?

Also think about this. We would be encouraging poachers and people with fictitious characters whose job is just to come here and look for a partner .
I can assure you that the results would be outstandingly poor. Because i can not imagine a lady that would respond to a user who just registered and his first post is. "Male, 27, graduate, looking for bla bla bla." we can't truly judge those people and can't trust them enough. It's basic human psychology. I see many threads with people leaving their numbers and i as a guy always just scroll down and move on. I never for once even thought of making contact because of catfishes and those set of people are generally termed and believed to be "desperate". That fact has registered in the mind. You can't change that fact.

Compare that to a long time or even say an active muslim here with at least 3months activity. Lets say for example mac, tbaba, baba11 etc showing interest in a muslimah. At least that sister has a picture of what they are like from their previous posts. They have something to hold on to and true friendships that can lead to marriage may spring up from there. That's what i am saying. Lets encourage people to be active here. Form friendships first , you may never know what would come after. If however people still believe it would work, then fine and okay. I am willing to help participate in any capacity that may be suitable.

onegig: I am not objecting to the idea (i can only advise you on things you want to do. I cant stop you from doing it) if that's what you think and i can comment on anything i want. You don't tell me when to stop or move on with an opinion. I decide that. I hope you understand.

tbaba1234: A free service comes with all kinds of people, serious and unserious.

I do believe that the muslims must make meeting eligible people easier but I also think such an arrangement should be specialised and paid for.

This will reduce the number of high school students using such an avenue. Also, there has to be other measures to ensure that the personality type can be identified. This can be by asking basic questions.

tbaba1234: A free service comes with all kinds of people, serious and unserious.

I do believe that the muslims must make meeting eligible people easier but I also think such an arrangement should be specialised and paid for.

This will reduce the number of high school students using such an avenue. Also, there has to be other measures to ensure that the personality type can be identified. This can be by asking basic questions.

ShehuAba: Salam alaikum brethren, going to the discussion proper this is my suggestions.
As Muslims we all know the implication of Zina and the goods attached to Nikkah, though reservations might arise in Match making nairalanders but sincerely it might be in evitable owing to the situation we find ourselves these days, so in making that realizable I advice all on the following.
1. There must be an intermediary who should be a respected and married nairalander, male/ female who should be responsible for getting the necessary information from intending brethren, and likewise been the one to match those suitable.
2. A thread can be created for this purpose solely, and there must be stringent rules regarding what those interested should post there. This should basically be for the necessary information needed and the intermediary can afterwards hook them up.
3. It should be discouraged that members who intend to get hooked up do so themselves without the intermediary's knowledge so as not to scuttle the whole process.

wishing to make more contributions later.

maclatunji: Wizeboy the "wizkid".

Do we have volunteers for this assignment? Would you like to work on such a committee?

simbiatadesomi:

Salam alaykun,
I am suggestin dat anyone interested shud send dia info to an email add instead of postin it on a thread whr evry tom dick & harry can com make derogatory remarks as dis is goin to discourage sis dat wud v been interested. It not goin 2 work if u don't av sis signin up & knw d way women think cos I'm one . Gracias

Wizeboy:

Why me bro? Let great scholars we have here volunteers and formed the Committee. Anyway, I can work on such a Committee too as an ordinary Member.




Good suggestion, brothers can post their own on the dedicated thread while sisters send their own through email which will be provided by the Committee. Such sister can also suggest any brothers they saw his profile on the thread. If such sister did not suggest any profile or the brother she suggested have already been hook, the Committee will then hook her up with another brother fitting or nearly fitting (as nobody can see 100% of what he/she desire in a particular partner) her profile and desire spouse.

yeyenatu: ermmm... food for thought ooo. because they may not want to admit it, but guys are shy!! And some ladies are too self righteous for their own good so when the right man for them is brought out from his shelf and they start seeing things they didn't know were there, things may change.

But is this not going to be turned into a sex thing? Boyfriend/girlfriend things can be very tricky..so I suggest you add criteria! No students?! Age limit?! Employment status nd the likes?!. So no 100 level brother will come here and start saying he wants to meet a sister; that 'meet' carry baby for belle ooo. Just saying.

maclatunji: Looking for volunteers that might want to help develop the Muslim Singles Matching Service (MSMS).

maclatunji: People should volunteer or status quo remains, there is no must about it.

baba11: ..i'm in..let's keep the ball rolling!

maclatunji:

Thank you for volunteering, more volunteers will be needed. Like Wizeboy suggested, expert and experienced individuals might be invited to join the team.

I am incredibly busy designing and developing things at the moment but I will try and make things work here too. May Allah make it easy and rewarding for us.