usqoh:
I am afraid of the unknown. For those interested in me for a relationship for marriage or anyone who want to counsel me:

This is my contact:

Email: adekunleman@yahoo.com

Phone number: 08186971526

May ALLAH help us and guide us aright. Amin

usqoh:
Salamalaekum. I cant imagine myself broadcasting this but I just have to because i am losing patience.

I am actually looking for a good virgin muslimah who will be my wife. The goal is to get married and not boyfreind/girlfreind relationship.

I am a 26 year old male muslim virgin. I would also want to marry a virgin. Y have I not seen. Y ar our female loose. I am ready to marry but cant just find one that fits.

Islam enjoin virgins to marry themselves and vice versa.

It would be ideal if I had
someone of similar class, which as per my
definition is a virgin or Am I right seeking
this ideal-ness? Am I right in thinking going
with a non-virgin equates to me going for
someone of lesser class?

I saw this below on a nairaland thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/2292198/how-many-men-too-much/1

"Me I will never marry a girl that is not a virgin.
Reasons:
1. women that are not virgins tend to have
some sort of spiritual problem like lack of
favour, breakthrough and the likes " since God
is against it"
2. being a virgin shows some level of discipline
and self-whorth.
3. you respect your wife more when you marry
her as a virgin.
4. Let's just say you just happen to meet a guy
in the future who have FUC.KED your wife
countless times. How will you feel.
5. marrying a Virgin is the only assurance that
your wife has not committed murder
( ABORTION) thus reducing the possibility of
childlessness, And even if she can still give
birth, she is already cursed for committing
murder.
I am not and never ever going to marry a girl
that is not a virgin.
After you don waka from Sokoto to Jalingo
finish you wan come carry your silly self come
near me, I go just shoot you. Basterd silly runs
girl"

Also, wat if i cant satisfy her compared to d guys she has slept with or wat if she has std's?

Kaff23:
[color=#006600][/color]Assalamun alaikum

ummsulaym:
Good Lord!

Can't believe I have this much time to spare for celebrities' gist.

Although the people involved are non Muslims and their circumstances can hardly translate directly to Muslims' but still, there was so much to learn from it of which number one to me is, don't go ahead with marriage because "I must marry" when there is a major fault spotted in your spouse to be, a kind of fault you know you won't put up with in the long run but because you told yourself "he will change", " no body is perfect " et al.

Yes, change is a constant thing and no human above it but make sure you are ready to endure it if the change doesn't occur. Nobody is perfect but make sure his/her imperfections is 'copable'.

People usually give list of the ingredients they want in their homes but mine has always been two - compatibility and understanding. Love can exist without those two but those two's existence is accompanied by true love and those two help one stand the test of time save God have planned something really different for the two.

Another lesson learnt:
Society, culture, people's talk will drive a lot to their graves.
May Allah distant talaq from us and us from talaq but when that becomes solution, then it is. Stretching it unnecessarily will amount to greater defect especially when it will still happen anyway.

Just like teebillz and tiwa saga, a close one's dirty linen was washed in the 'community square' each of the couple explaining to who cares to listen, why they have to part ways. Now this is a shameful and disgraceful thing. They would have been able to do this honourably, early enough with 'irreconcilable differences' being all they owe whoever 'cares' to know why.
Beauty of Islam, you can still return to each other within the limits set but this grace might be jeopardized the moment you give people CCTV to watch your lives with.

Another thing is some brothers earning 50k monthly want to settle with a sister whose monthly pocket money almost double his salary. Brother, there are still such good sisters though but ehm, Khadija r.a wasn't cloned nor photocopied. We need to be more realistic.

And to sisters, if you are a salafi, don't marry a staunch Sufi, Shi'a and vice versa. This has nothing to do with sectarianism but your marital success. The differences in opinions and ways of practice is a WIDE margin. People who don't really know about their practices have no problem with this but if you are a Shi'a and you really KNOW it, leave the Salafi brother who KNOWS it too, and vice versa. This is a huge incompatibility. We hear things like, 'haba one can change the other na' but egbon mi, that's a rare happening if the two really, like really understand what they do.

And other examples of huge incompatibilities follow...

No home or marriage is perfect. Even couples of over 50 years who are still very much together have many sad episodes and went through tough phases.

You know, when mummy asked me how marriage life was I replied "so sweet mum. I wish it can only get better ( I was this girl really scared of marriage because of the husband and Jannah thing #scary. LOL).

Mummy said " that's good to hear. I wish you the very best and pray it works even better for you than me BUT the down moments will come and how you two handle it will determine its longevity"

Sweet Grammy told me to firmly deposit this up moments in my memory box and remember it to enable me work to get it back when other moments set in "
Till tomorrow, I can't forget those lines and sometimes, I get really scared.

The good news is the medicine is there "ISLAM" we have the Qur'an, hadith and the seerah of the family life of the salafiyyoon lead by Habibullah, salallahu alayhi wassalam but we always don't know which particular medicine to use for one illness or we don't know the right dosage.

Wallahi, I wish this sweetness in nikkah just never pause not to talk of taking a turn even for a moment. LOL!

In a nutshell, regardless of the inevitabilities in marriages, we need to lay a good foundation first, then struggle with what follows. Getting married is one, staying married is another aluta. Yes, I believe in qadar just as I believe in freewill.

May Allah help me and every student of this eternal college 'nikkah' and may it be an accelerator of our speed to jannah.

#prayforeveryhome

ummsulaym:
Good Lord!

Can't believe I have this much time to spare for celebrities' gist.

Although the people involved are non Muslims and their circumstances can hardly relate directly to Muslims' but still, there was so much to learn from it of which number one to me is, don't go ahead with marriage because "I must marry" when there is a major fault spotted in your spouse to be, a kind of fault you know you won't put up with in the long run but because you told yourself "he will change", " no body is perfect " et al.

Yes, change is a constant thing and no human above it but make sure you are ready to endure it if the change doesn't occur. Nobody is perfect but make sure his/her imperfections is 'copable'.

People usually give list of the ingredients they want in their homes but mine has always been two - compatibility and understanding. Love can exist without those two but those two's existence is accompanied by true love and those two help one stand the test of time save God have planned something really different for the two.

Another lesson learnt:
Society, culture, people's talk will drive a lot to their graves.
May Allah distant talaq from us and us from talaq but when that becomes solution, then it is. Stretching it unnecessarily will amount to greater defect especially when it will still happen anyway.

Just like teebillz and tiwa saga, a close one's dirty linen was washed in the 'community square' each of the couple explaining to who cares to listen, why they have to part ways. Now this is a shameful and disgraceful thing. They would have been able to do this honourably, early enough with 'irreconcilable differences' being all they owe whoever 'cares' to know why.
Beauty of Islam, you can still return to each other within the limits set but this grace might be jeopardized the moment you give people CCTV to watch your lives with.

Another thing is some brothers earning 50k monthly want to settle with a sister whose monthly pocket money almost double his salary. Brother, there are still such good sisters though but ehm, Khadija r.a wasn't cloned nor photocopied. We need to be more realistic.

And to sisters, if you are a salafi, don't marry a staunch Sufi, Shi'a and vice versa. This has nothing to do with sectarianism but your marital success. The differences in opinions and ways of practice is a WIDE margin. People who don't really know about their practices have no problem with this but if you are a Shi'a and you really KNOW it, leave the Salafi brother who KNOWS it too, and vice versa. This is a huge incompatibility. We hear things like, 'haba one can change the other na' but egbon mi, that's a rare happening if the two really, like really understand what they do.

And other examples of huge incompatibilities follow...

No home or marriage is perfect. Even couples of over 50 years who are still very much together have many sad episodes and went through tough phases.

You know, when mummy asked me how marriage life was I replied "so sweet mum. I wish it can only get better ( I was this girl really scared of marriage because of the husband and Jannah thing #scary. LOL).

Mummy said " that's good to hear. I wish you the very best and pray it works even better for you than me BUT the down moments will come and how you two handle it will determine its longevity"

Sweet Grammy told me to firmly deposit this up moments in my memory box and remember it to enable me work to get it back when other moments set in "
Till tomorrow, I can't forget those lines and sometimes, I get really scared.

The good news is the medicine is there "ISLAM" we have the Qur'an, hadith and the seerah of the family life of the salafiyyoon lead by Habibullah, salallahu alayhi wassalam but we always don't know which particular medicine to use for one illness or we don't know the right dosage.

Wallahi, I wish this sweetness in nikkah just never pause not to talk of taking a turn even for a moment. LOL!

In a nutshell, regardless of the inevitabilities in marriages, we need to lay a good foundation first, then struggle with what follows. Getting married is one, staying married is another aluta. Yes, I believe in qadar just as I believe in freewill.

May Allah help me and every student of this eternal college 'nikkah' and may it be an accelerator of our speed to jannah.

#prayforeveryhome

usqoh:
Salamalaekum. I cant imagine myself broadcasting this but I just have to because i am losing patience.

I am actually looking for a good virgin muslimah who will be my wife. The goal is to get married and not boyfreind/girlfreind relationship.

I am a 26 year old male muslim virgin. I would also want to marry a virgin. Y have I not seen. Y ar our female loose. I am ready to marry but cant just find one that fits.

Islam enjoin virgins to marry themselves and vice versa.

It would be ideal if I had
someone of similar class, which as per my
definition is a virgin or Am I right seeking
this ideal-ness? Am I right in thinking going
with a non-virgin equates to me going for
someone of lesser class?

deols:


Religion-wise- *Muslim
-has good Qira'a
-is working on being a better muslim

Physical attributes *good-looking
*tall-my height or taller.
*dark skinned
- should love the gym

Endearing attributes *in love
*confident
*should make it obvious(in every way possible) what he thinks of me
*Intelligent- dont like to explain wat I mean all da time.
*mature
- any form of pretence wld put me off
Profession
-no specific one
*should be able to think beyond his nose

* compulsory
- can do without

snapscore:
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busar:
Something is telling me you are deols... You have so many things in common, just that you are more matured than her in relating(which is understandable, growth)