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|Should I Build A House For My Dad by gas plant: 1:17am On Sep 05, 2011|
I grew up in a polygamous home.My mum stopped living with us when i was 10 yrs old.My dad took another wife and threw my mum out.When we were still young ,this woman maltreated us soo much and i believe even went to the extent of attempting to hurt us, but God didnt permit her.Our dad happily welcomed the children this woman had with another man into our house,as if that was not enough,they became lords over us in our own fathers house,they had the key to our daddys room and keep it under locks.All these while my mum was in Lagos suffering to make ends meet while we were in the North living with our dad and his wife.My dad was then working and making good money and enjoying with the woman,but he didnt save to put a roof over his head.He still lives with the woman and my mum stays alone
God has now blessed me with a good job and i earn enough to be able to build a house for my dad,but the problem is that,i cannot imagine this strange woman living in the house i use my sweat to build, while my mum lives in a rented appartment.If I build a house for my dad,I cannot prevent this woman from living in the house,but i have this burden that despite all my dad did,I still owe him this duty to build a house for him
Now I am in a fix,What do you guys think
|Re: Should I Build A House For My Dad by jennykadry(f): 4:20am On Sep 05, 2011|
Where does your mum live now? in a rented apartment or her own house?
What is your relationship with your mum?
|Re: Should I Build A House For My Dad by tpia@: 4:31am On Sep 05, 2011|
Now I am in a fix,What do you guys think
usually a sign of a scammer but let me reply anyway.
the money will probably dry up after that, but at least you'll know you did a good deed.
|Re: Should I Build A House For My Dad by nassiwa: 7:26am On Sep 05, 2011|
At least first build for your mum a house. I believe She needs it more than your dad and his wife.
|Re: Should I Build A House For My Dad by isod: 7:49am On Sep 05, 2011|
If I were in your shoes, I think I would consider my Mum first. Settle her, then my Dad. But as you say - you owe your dad a duty, , If God has put this in your heart to do, I think you need to do it because you may find yourself struggling with your consience for a very long time.
|Re: Should I Build A House For My Dad by chaircover: 7:53am On Sep 05, 2011|
@poster the people that you owe most are your unborn children by making sure that you dont put them through the type of trauma that you went through when you were growing up.
As regards building a property, build one for your own self first if you already dont have one.
|Re: Should I Build A House For My Dad by gas plant: 9:55am On Sep 05, 2011|
Thank you all for your response,
I have a very good relationship with my mum and she lives in a rented appartment,I already started building for my mum,but it got stuck along the way,you know how slow it is to get a land from Lagos state govt
@chaircover, I already built for myself and my family
|Re: Should I Build A House For My Dad by jennykadry(f): 11:21am On Sep 05, 2011|
It got stuck along the way? You haven't even started building for your mum yet and you are here talking. My friend c'mon go and make that woman comfortable.
What arrant nonsense. Your mum is there in a rented appartment , you claim you have started building, and you are still here talking about getting land from govt. Go and settle that woman.
|Re: Should I Build A House For My Dad by ayomifull(f): 4:48pm On Sep 05, 2011|
|Re: Should I Build A House For My Dad by sleekdot(m): 7:05pm On Sep 05, 2011|
Build for your mom alone,cos it seems your dad is rich enough to take care of himself
After building for your mom, continue building for yourself and your mom,
Cos in the long run, what you build for your mom belongs to you and your maternal siblings while the one for your dad you would start fighting with your half brothers for it and they might even attemot to hurt you over a property you built with your own money
Take care of your mom, All the care she was denied of, You are the husband that she never had and as you do more for her God would continue to bless you.
Did you mom re-marry?
|Re: Should I Build A House For My Dad by OYINBOGOJU(m): 8:51pm On Sep 05, 2011|
Always on point
|Re: Should I Build A House For My Dad by armyofone(f): 10:33pm On Sep 05, 2011|
Please go and take care of your mom. now that she is renting, make sure she lives in a good apartment fully equipped with everything.
then complete that home you are building for her (only if you have the money and more of it and not make your own family starve in the process o). give your dad money when he needs it but don't bug yourself abt a home for him.
your dad ma be looking for way to have a new home to show off to his friends and make them miserable .
|Re: Should I Build A House For My Dad by horny4u(f): 11:33pm On Sep 05, 2011|
Men should read and learn, do not maltreat your children's mother if you must part ways do it in such a way that your kids respect you and aim to emulate you as the main man for being fair.
Build for your mum and if you can then, build for your dad. It is not a coincidence that he is your dad , as for the step madam, do what you can for her too.
Donot be afraid that she can harm you, the more you do for her the less power she has over you,
Sympathetic understanding says you are a man and you know how he be down in the trouser : not an excuse to throw the mother of your kids into penury sha o but just understand with him , one day he will be gone . the pain will be gone too and you will wish you showed him how much you loved him even though you do not realise you love him now,
Baba ba P lo ni: not his fault women sweet well well.
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