Please help me!

Go talk to a counsellor.

Mr cork, when will u get serious? cant u emulate me for once?

You need to forgive your self and know that you are only human whatever is making you depressed has not just happened to you alone.

It happens to many people on a daily basis accept yourself for who you are surround yourself with good friends and family member who will not critisize you.

Talk it out of your system find someone (frien who will listen to you and talk it out as long as it takes talk it out). excersice to will help you. Mr cork for one you make sense

And give it time, time is a great healer and above all pray

Mr, Cork:

bin gbagbo. Best thing to do: Exercise. It usually helps. it takes your mind of alot of stresss. When u feel down and depressed, your heart beat becomes slow and blood circulation is reduced (truss me, I know). This makes u feel more depressed.

Solution: Look for any form of exercise: Jogging or Cadio  but stay away from weight lifting, it does not help. If you can joina Gym, u in safer hands!

cant belive u'r d one making dis comment wit so much sense.
keep it up, d sky is ur limit.

^^^ i'm almost convinced someone hacked into his account .

Smoke weed (marijuana) ,  mostly the skunk / hydro ,  you'll get appetite too and sleep well. Works for me its natural , yeah exercise and play video games too. Get busy wash your car, fix that old fan/bulb/printer/ move things around the house get busy. Go hang out with friends.

People overcome depression in various ways, one of which Mr. Co/ck has mentioned (color me shocked  ) and that is exercise. Exercising releases endorphins from your body, these endorphins interacts with the receptors in your brain which in turn triggers a positive feeling. . .Unfortunately, this is a short term solution.

For a long term solution. . .you may have to seek help from a counselor. They have tools to help you work through the issues that make you feel guilty and shame. Your knee jerk reaction is to say. . .hellz no! Why would I wanna talk to someone about my deep dark secrets so they can judge me but you gotta remember, these are trained professionals who know better than to judge you, besides. . I'm sure there's nothing they haven't heard.

If you're in school, I'd suggest you use the free counseling services you are entitled to.

In the meantime, watch this video to get you started (I like it because it's very informal)

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Also try to answer the following questions in your mind and see what you come up with

Visualize objective answers to these Questions:
1. Who are you grateful for, that has contributed positively in your life?
2. What parts of the world are you glad you are NOT in?
3. What's great about being able to see? Walk? Being healthy? Having a regular place to sleep?
4. What's great about your life? (force this work- what could be)
5. What's great about you?
6. What's cool that you can do, and have done?
7. What was the time you felt most happy about you & your life? Recall & relive this experience in detail.

Note - The questions are from www.realamongus.com, the website for the guy in the video. There are many more worksheets like that if you are interested.

PS - It wouldn't hurt to read the comments on the video, even if it's just see that you are not alone.

Good Luck!!

If u are married, have more sexy time with your lady! try different strokes apart from b reas t-strokes, i recommend back strokes, always the best stroke!

Depression is the worst state of mind ever. I know why you are here, you probably tried talking to someone close but in truth that never works, even where the individuals you approach appear to be much more happy and content, this just drives you deeper and deeper since the only thing they can offer is a dont worry advice.

The truth is you need to worry. Thats why you are currently depressed. What you really want is a break from the pain, the same pain you can be sure you may get over but never forget.

No drugs, alchohol, work or any other form of mind-dumbing distractions can help, you probably just end up hurting yourself and people around you.

There isn't any help out there only time can heal.

Was depressed once, not taking care of myself,  not sleeping for days at a stretch, not eating, working long, drinking way too much but never ever getting sloshed, having a beard cos I forgot what a mirror was, then my health came crashing. It helped because the fever kept me from thinking of her, so I decided not to seek medical treatment until a very close friend came over and insisted I take some drugs at least.

Am not there yet. Its been 15mths sice it all started. These days I think of her like every other 10mins as against every other secound.

Time.

@Tobi_dad you lost someone or what?

Go see a Shrink, get some SSRI and look for a p/-r/-o-s/titute to phock


Thats all you need!

Nairaland version of "The Doctors"
Here is your solution www.lifesucksbigtime.com

@bin gbagbo, what you are asking for is very easy;

1, Confess your sins if there is any to God

2, Give your life to Jesus Christ

3, If you offend anyone go and meet that people and talk off the matter.

4, Forget about the past and move forward with your life because life is too short to waste it on past event, what has happen has happen just look the future with hope because the best is yet to come for you.

5, you can walk in any christembassy Church and tell them you want to get this month Rhasody of Reality i know that book will help you have more faith in yourself and your future.

Cheers dear, you have Overcome.

@bin gbagbo, sorry i forgot to add this to what i already told you, what you are going through now is purely is spiritual.

The Bible!

dominique:

^^^ i'm almost convinced someone hacked into his account .

Com'on babe, let's commend d dude a little, mayb he's tired of his past life & has decided 2turn a new live.

Take some time out to spend a few hours at any General Hospital, preferably a fairly busy one. Dont book an appointment to see any doctor. Just try to go round the wards & clinics for maybe just an hour or two. When you see people suffering, relatives helpless, dead bodies brought out from the ward, accident victims brought in, then you'll realise you have a whole lot to thank God for. Coz some of the sick & dead people are more educated than you are, may even be younger than you are, may be more handsome, but it has pleased God to spare your life & keep you in good health.
Then go home and ponder on these words of wisdom:
1) Health is Wealth
2) When there is life, there is hope.

Think about them, relate it with what you've seen at the hospital, think about the many good things that could still happen in your life within an even shorter time frame than you think, and SMILE.

That should help your depression to an extent. And once the mind is strong, every oda thin seems easy.

Best of luck.

Thankx 2 everybody, im grateful

Bin Gbagbo

You are not alone. We all have done things we are ashamed of, and we live in the tension of what we were and what we would like to become (Well at least I have). I've lost a job due to misconduct, I've gotten entangled with some nasty personalities that really hurt my reputation and self esteem.Didn't know they were nasty at the time

In my opinion one of the ways to overcome is to start over in a new town or place, where people hardly know you (that is easier said than done) because of the enormous cost involved in moving, getting a new job etc etc. BUT a fresh start some where new lessens the reminders of your mistake that cause the feelings

In a new town or place: You hardly get to see people who will remind you of things you wish to forget (some people really know how to rub it in and I tend to resent them for it), you don't have to avoid certain places because you are afraid of running into people who know what you've done and you truly can start over on a clean slate.

BUT what happens when you can't move and start afresh somewhere else? You are going to have to fight your demons (shame, guilt etc) really hard in that old place where you still live and where you probably made your mistakes. Those demons can be effectively fought with the help of God but there are days when even I feel overwhelmed.

Today is one of those days, I just saw a former colleague where I lost my job and it brought back the memories of everything I did wrong while working at that organization the shame I felt at just seeing her was ooooooooo!

Counselling may help but where can you find good, certified and professional counsellors here in Nigeria? I would like to know if anyone has useful information.
The mistakes I've made, my feelings of guilt and shame may not be a bad thing because with them I am reminded to do things differently and live right.

The healing process will take a while but in the meantime fight and win the battle over depression, shame and guilt which ever way you can but please not with alcohol or drugs.

I hope this helps I registered as a new NL member just to participate on your thread and share my views.

Counselling may help but where can you find good, certified and professional counsellors here in Nigeria? I would like to know if anyone has useful information.

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Will be glad if someone can provide useful information regarding that. Have a friend in similar situation just dat his is dat of inferiority complex. He met a psychologist who is more interested in his pocket than providing him with help that he needs. Any guide to a good genuine counselling will be appreciated.

check this out, u might find it helpful

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Back then; i never believe in Depression, use to argue with friends  about depress people ,after witnessing an incident,where a girl throw herself on a train  and die, wat happened, we asked? she was depress and took suicide as the solution ,they answered,   i do still remember saying, how can one be so depress, to de extent of killing himself. last year  it hit me like a thunder bolt,   that i hv to quit my job in dec,  cos it  got me into this mess . it became too demanding after the recession that i couldn,t sleep at night, i keep on thinking, y& x & w&z  & wat coming next day etc( if your familiar with cnc machines u do know what i,m talking about). within months  it,z turn worst, i lost concentration, i found it hard to fall  asleep,relaxing became a problem and i started keeping to myslf,  that was when i made up my mind to quit or end up like one,    jan got myslf another job, this time on the field no more sitting down all day on net, stressing your brains without exercise,  it,z funny how it can hit so fast,                                                                 @ pos,  hit the gym,  it,z the ans,  just  take it cool with your slf,  gd luck,

2 years. back, i lost my job as a result of statement i made out of fustration to my boss. He was so rude, and never appreciate. I stayed at home 4 almost 8 months condeming and scolding myself. The little money i hv was lost to bad business i venture to, i was distabilised, i couldn't eat, sleep or think straight. Sometimes i ask God why me, why didn't i hold on and persevere to my boss nasty approach towards me. I finally broke this yolk when i lay my hand on a book titled " tough time never last but tough pple do" by robert sculler. In this book i learned that nothing great can ever be achieve until one realise and discover that, there is smting inside him that is superior to circumstances. @poster, if u look to much backward, u may soon be heading that way, forgive urself and move on, life is too short to think backward. Best of luck!!!

It is a spiritual problem, when your heart is wounded. You need to go back to your creator and amend your ways. When david sinned he became depressed, in the bible, he cried to God in psalm 51 "create a new heart within me O Lord and renew right spirit within me, cast me not away from your presence O God, take not the holy spirit from me, return unto me the Joy of my salvation and renew the right spirit within me" it is only Jesus that can restore back what is missing in your life. Keep away from those who influenced you negatively, associate with people who can influenced you positively. Have HOPE, it is the greatest healing force in the universe, this is confirmed by the renowned psychiatrists all over the world. There is still hope. NEVER,NEVER,NEVER,GIVE UP. What makes you or breaks you is inside of you. Change your attitude to life. God bless you. God2man.