Why Cant A Girl Go Back  To Her Motherland When She leave Her Husband  Home

I REALLY DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY SOME PEOPLE TALK TOO MUCH CRAP WHEN A MARRIED GIRL COMES HOME COZ SHE HAD PROBLEM AT HER MARRIAGE HOME.

U DON'T LIVE WITH THEM, U DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT SHE MAYBE GOING THROUGH AT THAT HOUSE BEHIND CLOSE DOOR.

SO Y IS IT A CRIME FOR HER TO COME BACK TO HER PARENTS HOUSE, THAT'S WHERE U FOUND HER THAT WHERE SHE SPENT HER WHOLE LIFE GROWING UP INTO THE WOMAN U MARRIED.

SO IF SHE CAN'T GO TO HER OWN HOME WHERE ELSE TO U THINK SHE NEED TO GO ON THE STREETS. 

SO Y DO PEOPLE TALK TOO MUCH CRAP WHEN A MARRIED COME TO BACK TO HER OWN HOME. 

but what happens if the problem iss to much for one to handle 

your suppose to stay there and put up with it,

i swear the African culture need to end now 

i know it only in Africa i tell u

Its a taboo and shame to her and her family

but y do black people make such a big deal out of it

Hotie Tima:

but y do black people make such a big deal out of it

Because it's a big deal!
This girls sef!

cantell:

Because it's a big deal!
This girls sef!

lord if u can't give me a good answer don't start anything with me pls 

coz i want to know y this happens is that a crime  now

^^Blondieluks answered your question but then i guess you need to see other people's opinion.

cantell:

^^Blondieluks answered your question but then i guess you need to see other people's opinion.

wow u think 

coz i believe it's bull not to return home when u need to

^^i don't know what you think or believe.
I don't care.

Silly culture

Like Goldieluks said, we africans are not so keen on quitting marriages for the flimsiest of reasons like you believe.
Marriage is a for better or worse. The only time I would support a lady quitting is when her life is in danger.
So before you choose a guy or a marriage partner, look well cos from the moment you say I do, your marriage is your cross to carry. You make whatever you want out of it.

another qweshion,why is it frowned upon in naija wen a woman divorces her husband??

@goldieluks lol a married women hmmmmmm

its a big deal when you are married off you are expected to stick with your husband, no matter the situation because a dowry has been paid on your head, or easy explanation you have been sold off,

Why dont you legally divorce your husband and get some alimony/settlement to rent your OWN house

deniyor:

Like Goldieluks said, we africans are not so keen on quitting marriages for the flimsiest of reasons like you believe.
Marriage is a for better or worse. The only time I would support a lady quitting is when her life is in danger.
So before you choose a guy or a marriage partner, look well cos from the moment you say I do, your marriage is your cross to carry. You make whatever you want out of it.

What if the wives are being abused and lives are threatened and they informed the parents.  The parents tell them to stay there and take it.  What would you suggest for them to do next?

Mrs, Chima:

What if the wives are being abused and life are threatened and they informed the parents. The parents tell them to stay there and take it. What would you suggest for them to do next?

i swear i want to know ooo someone please tell me what the hell do u do then. stay and get abuse coz people will talk crap when u go bck home

cantell:

^^i don't know what you think or believe.
I don't care.

u freind needs to get a life i have come across ur kind, so please go use ur energy else where is is needed from huh.

Why should a grown ass woman go back to her parents house after a crash marriage? maybe that is part of African culture but to me it's also a sign of weakness and total failure. In my world the word INDEPENDENT is pretty much alive irrespective of how wealthy your/my family is.

Mrs, Chima:

What if the wives are being abused and lives are threatened and they informed the parents.  The parents tell them to stay there and take it.  What would you suggest for them to do next?

I said a woman who is being abused or whose life is threatened should quit. Whether her family is with her or not, she has to take that stance and leave the dude. It's also her decision, not her family, if she wants to go back to him.

I come from a family that believes that a man and woman tough it out. But we will never support anyone beating his wife or a member of the family being beaten by the husband. The family house has always been a safe haven for everyone no matter what. However, get ready for the talk that tells you to go back to work things out if there is no abuse or life threat.

Mrs, Chima:

What if the wives are being abused and lives are threatened and they informed the parents.  The parents tell them to stay there and take it.  What would you suggest for them to do next?

Suggest they get out of the marriage and get their own shit together. That is when the word independent comes in. So my actual point is,  no woman should rely on men because they are horrible people to rely on in financial areas of life

And yeah, women should be able to take care of themselves either being single or in a relationship/marriage. Tht goes without saying.

Who cares about what society thinks or what the neighbours will say If my husband happen to beat the phuck out of me or something serious happend in my house, do you expect me to sit at the road side and cry? HELL TO THE NO! I will run as fast as I can to my mom house. To hell with traditions/culture or whatever you want to call it. I take the good ones, and drop the bad.

A girl may married and go to her husband house, but her mother house will always be her home. Same goes to the man.

deniyor:

And yeah, women should be able to take care of themselves either being single or in a relationship/marriage. Tht goes without saying.

Yaa women need to learn to be independent, take care of themselves etc etc. And no one is saying that is wrong. . . but we are emotional beings and we need emotional support. No matter how independent a person's is, they will need support once in a while.
And I see absolutely and I say ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with going to your family in time of need. My mother is my parachute
and I will run to her anytime I fall. Any man who can not deal with that, can run to the next available woman.

And as for Society, phuck them! Its my life.

Well

rokiatu:

Yaa women need to learn to be independent, take care of themselves etc etc. And no one is saying that is wrong. . . but we are emotional beings and we need emotional support. No matter how independent a person's is, they will need support once in a while.
And I see absolutely and I say ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with going to your family in time of need. My mother is my parachute
and I will run to her anytime I fall. Any man who can not deal with that, can run to the next available woman.

And as for Society, phuck them! Its my life.

I know of a lady that says she's ashamed to go back. And to start seeing all old neighbors asking her what happened. And looking at her as a failure.


Well I advice rent a small studio flat insead of moving to parent house. It might be difficult to adapt back home. Washing dishes, sweeping permanently in the old house you grew. And being monitored like a baby again. Because you will never grow up from your parents view

tEsLim:

I know of a lady that says she's ashamed to go back. And to start seeing all old neighbors asking her what happened. And looking at her as a failure.


Well I advice rent a small studio flat insead of moving to parent house. It might be difficult to adapt back home. Washing dishes, sweeping permanently in the old house you grew. And being monitored like a baby again. Because you will never grow up from your parents view

well i don't go for that idea now renting a flat that's even worse to me i swear

coz that time of life when things get out of control u need ur parents to be there, that's y they are called parent's for a reason. coz no matter where in life we go we will some how always need they help, even if it's mean coming form ur marriage home to feel at home.

but thanks for ur answer tho

Move in with a friend that is living alone , a good friend. Else go back home. I left home very early dont know if I can go back to live with mum anymore lol. Well I'm a guy and dont think there will be a reason to do that, Even when I go drop my kids for holiday I dont stay more than an hour or 2 and I'm out.

Yoruba says: Oke ni omo iyan dun (The relationship is sweeter from distance)

tEsLim:

Move in with a friend that is living alone , a good friend. Else go back home. I left home very early dont know if I can go back to live with mum anymore lol. Well I'm a guy and dont think there will be a reason to do that, Even when I go drop my kids for holiday I dont stay more than an hour or 2 and I'm out.

Yoruba says: Oke ni omo iyan dun (The relationship is sweeter from distance)

well ur a man so that's understand

not for us

well something like that i was trying to find the right word but it was doing mine head in.