blessin011:

he said that God called him as a pastor not to work

Before we got married my husband promised me of starting his ministry but 4 the past one year now nothing has been done,am the person feeding him yet he told me that for now he did not want any child from me as a result of finance which he has not been doing
to do any work g anything to that,every day he is at home and when i confront him he sees it as insult,pls nairaland tell me what to do ,and he said that God called him as a pastor not to work and only face the church,am still young for these bullshitter.he is as young for all this delay ,he has not bought me anything not even a hand kerchief .

You don EFF-UP jor

blessin011:

Before we got married my husband promised me of starting his ministry but 4 the past one year now nothing has been done,am the person feeding him yet he told me that for now he did not want any child from me as a result of finance which he has not been doing
to do any work g anything to that,every day he is at home and when i confront him he sees it as insult,pls nairaland tell me what to do ,and he said that God called him as a pastor not to work and only face the church,am still young for these bullshitter.he is as young for all this delay ,he has not bought me anything not even a hand kerchief .

Hellllooooooo! Did you or did you not make your underground research, before concluding to marry him? Now that you have, it's your duty to support him ma'am, at least until his ministry or whatever kick starts! Quit insulting your husband, calling him a bullshitter, at this early stage? WTF is that supposed to mean? You married him, so stick with him! If you cant take the heat, stay outta the damn oven! Did you not hear marriage aint a bed of roses? Or did you actually marry him with high hopes of being a pastor's wife, and feeding fat from the offerings? WAKE UP DUH! Welcome to reality!

pendo89:

I am a believer but I run away from such men. Especially those who say use words like 'full time ministry,called to serve and all the other excuses lazy servants of God use.Its unfortunate you are marrried to one.
Write this scriptures in bold and stick them where he will read daily.

2nd Thessalonians 3:10>> If a man will not work he shall not eat.
1st Timothy 5:8>>If anyone does not provide for his relatives esp members of his own household,he had denied the faith and is WORSE THAN AN UNBELIEVER.

If he says church is work tell him some of the 12 apostles were fishermen and others doctors. Tell him industry is crowned with God's blessing and idleness is loaded with a curse.

I wont ask you to pray cz am sure uv done that.You guys dont have kids,So to get him to act stay without providing for a week. Go hungry both of you.
I know it sounds harsh but I cant think of a better way.
Hes too comfortable cz your doing everything but instead of seeing your sacrifice and getting up to work,he sleeps more.
That is not what God called us to do! What a shame to God's name.

pendo89:

Yeah these kind of men appeal to single ladies in church.They are full of hype and revelations.They are young and full of vigour promising heaven on earth.
They lead the youth,choir everything.They are admired cz they seem to know it all.
So she fell for one cz he promised a church. Its waste of time condemning her for marrying such a lazy dude who expected to feed from tithe cz she's already married to him. Now you deal with results not prevention.
Unless this dude wakes up,this lady is fed up and anytime shes walking out of this relationship.

Ileke-IdI:

I usually run from those types

Everybody is preaching nowadays, even Shina rambo quoted the Bible.

But the thing is annoying. Everything has a bible verse attached to it with these men.

pendo89:

@ shina

Trust me I have worked with them before. They have away of woing vulnerable ladies with scriptures LOL.So if your dumb enough you fall for them.
What the ladies fail to understand is that these dude's source of finance is the church ie if they have no meaningful job outside church.
They are given some cash y church to support them as they carry out their youth work/whatever ministry.
But when they marry they are on their own unless they become pastors. Am sure he had enough cash to date this lady before marriage.
I passionately hate anybody who uses God's name as excuse for laziness.Its just criminal!

M M M:

op

Divorce him
And
Marry anoda husband

Ileke-IdI:

I always wonder how Pastors survive, thought the Govrnment atleast pay them (when I wa young o).

I've ruled out Pastors long time ago. God forbid bad thing.

Any man that is more religious than me is a no no. I pray not to be bored out of my life.

And then you have the most dirty pastors.

Ileke-IdI:

[size=17pt]I always wonder how Pastors survive,[/size] thought the Govrnment atleast pay them (when I wa young o).

I've ruled out Pastors long time ago. God forbid bad thing.

Any man that is more religious than me is a no no. I pray not to be bored out of my life.

And then you have the most dirty pastors.

CHURCH Offerings! Anyone?

Honeycity:

bad adviser

can i lick ur p like honey

.NET:

All the disciples of Jesus Christ had meaningful jobs before they started following Jesus.

James, John and Peter were fishermen
Luke was a physician
Matthew was a Tax collector

and so on.

[size=18pt]Personally, I dont understand how you allowed yourself to be deceived into marrying a man whose ONLY source of income is a church which he has not even started.[/size]

tellwisdom:

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[color=#000099] Yes u can babe, on here behalf.

pendo89:

^^ you are not even helping her just making her feel worse cz the milk is already spilt. People make mistakes.
Hers was major but what to do now?  Picture a dude sitting on sofa the whole day doing nothing but reading bible!!
Good lord,I think I would place a sign outside the gate of our house reading 'Welcome all to the church of lazy dudes.'
Then go hide.

. . . . . . . . . And praying for God to send him Money through e mail! What an A[b]S[/b]S!

pendo89:

[size=19pt]I wont ask you to pray cz am sure uv done that.You guys dont have kids,So to get him to act stay without providing for a week. Go hungry both of you.
I know it sounds harsh but I cant think of a better way.
Hes too comfortable cz your doing everything but instead of seeing your sacrifice and getting up to work,he sleeps more.
That is not what God called us to do! What a shame to God's name.[/size]

blessin011:

Before we got married my husband promised me of starting his ministry but 4 the past one year now nothing has been done,am the person feeding him yet he told me that for now he did not want any child from me as a result of finance which he has not been doing
to do any work g anything to that,every day he is at home and when i confront him he sees it as insult,pls nairaland tell me what to do ,and he said that God called him as a pastor not to work and only face the church,am still young for these bullshitter.he is as young for all this delay ,he has not bought me anything not even a hand kerchief .

pendo89:

Better still Pray like this

Dear God I first want to thank you for this great husband you gave me.
You have been faithful to supply our needs according to your riches in glory.
God you have said it in you word that whoever does not work should not eat.
Lord we don't want to go against your word and its for this reason that I have decided to fast dry!till you open a door for my hubby. _{hunger strike}
God my heart aches at the thought of denying ourselves a great blessing in the name of a baby simply cz we cannot afford to raise one.
Haven't you said in your word that kids are a blessing and that blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them? It means that we are not enjoying your full blessings God and we are nothing but mean and very very selfish.Forgive us Lord.
Dear Father, help my husband to get a real job like the rest of the folks he ministers to. It's a shame to you Lord when your 'humble' servant eats from the handouts given by fellow brethren who toil day in day out for their families. My income is not even enough to help me buy him a nice pair of shoe,tie or even take him out for dinner!!
Please God,we have suffered enough shame and its time you gave my hubby a real job!.
In JC name Amen.
[size=20pt]Pray like this everyday in his presence.[/size]