before you take the sex plunge with your new beau keep this in mind; the act of sex brings on a moment of intimacy whether you want to admit it or not. And there is no going back from that.

“That moment either solidifies that you want to be with the person and take it seriously, or that moment makes you repell the person and want to run away as fast as possible, ”If you have sex too soon, both reactions can be the end of what might have been a promising relationship if taken at a slower pace.”

Here are three things you should consider as you make a thoughtful decision about when you should have sex for the first time:


There are mythical stories of sex on the first date turning into long lasting relationships, but I’ve never experienced this (and I’ve dated a lot) or actually met anyone in this situation, My rule, and it’s a good one, is to wait until the fourth date to have sex. This is assuming you want a relationship and not just fun casual sex. There is nothing wrong with that, but be honest with yourself about what you are hoping for with the specific guy/girl in question.

Sex right away sends a message

If you have sex with a guy immediately you’re basically telling that guy that you have sex with everyone you meet immediately (whether it’s true or not) and that automatically lowers your stock, so to speak. Waiting a ridiculously long time also sends the wrong message, since it’s not the 1800s anymore. After four dates you should have a pretty good feel for the guy and he will have had plenty of time to try and picture you naked, under all your cute date outfits. If, after four dates, you still like each other and want to continue, then go for it.

Sex right away takes the fun out of flirting, getting to know each other, and building up a little tension.Waiting to do the deed makes a statement that you seem worth it. You seem confident that sex isn’t the only thing you have to offer. And you seem to respect yourself.

Agree or disagree

Rubbish,

I know of someone who met a lady and had sex with her the same day.Then proposed

They are still happily married 15 years later

oh well, the proof of the pudding is in the eating.

please fill us in with the aftermath, @ whoever is involved in this kind of stuff.

Mr.Presdent

I holds nothing about having sex on a first date especially if u r a very sharp girl. To each his own

annita19:
it’s a good one, is to wait until the fourth date to Be Intimate

Agree or disagree

There won't be a fourth date unfortunately, if no action on the 3rd date then it's adios amiga.

The days where Women (I don't date Girls) need to keep up a false pretense (of being a pure person) are over as far as I'm concerned.

All I will say is for all players to be safety conscious. It's a must.

There is no rule on the right time to have s[i]e[/i]x, if the conditions and the atmosphere is kool, why holding back

I just wanted to add that some Women make this rule for no reason. I wager that most Women, if in the dating demographic, met Dezel Washington, LL Cool J. etc they will drop their pants at a moments notice.

Somorin#1:

I just wanted to add that some Women make this rule for no reason. I wager that most Women, if in the dating demographic, met Dezel Washington, LL Cool J. etc they will drop their pants at a moments notice.

In your mind

^^^But he is not far away from the whole truth

Disagree

I agree totally !

I will just add some guys are green snakes so 2 to 3 mnths wait is good to be able to identify him.

But of cos bodi aint firewood and if it is casual , let's get down to it now and pls no upgrade from here.

I suggest women know whom they are dealing with before Being Intimate with them.  2 minutes of erotica doesn't have to end in a lifetime agony.

All gold isn't glitter.   

^^^only 2 minutes

Okay. 1 minute.

^^^ha, even worse, lol

@Annita

I agree with you to an extent, but as a guy women all too often women apply double standards to different guys, which is where many guys have a problem. The guy who is nice, who takes you out on multiple dates, and who tries to get to know you is the guy who does not get laid. The jerk or some dude who does not do much is the one who gets laid on the first date or as soon as possible. Women don't reward niceness, so that is why many guys have evolved to act like jerks.

I have seen women throw themselves at celebrities, often times wanting to sleep with those celebs as soon as possible. So why should the so called nice guy be the mugu who is waiting on the fourth date before he gets laid after presumably spending a lot of money on the dates?

If the girl wants to go on three or four dates or more before she gives up the punny, I have no problem with that as long as she pays for the every other date after the second date, if the subsequent dates involve money.

It is easy for women to want to go on one hundred dates before they give any action if they are not spending any money.

I don't believe in any rules; just go with chemistry.

just be sure to let us know how things went after the sex.

hope no complications, etc, afterwards.

annita19:

In your mind

Okay. I know your type.

Princek12:

@Annita

I agree with you to an extent, but as a guy women all too often women apply double standards to different guys, which is where many guys have a problem. The guy who is nice, who takes you out on multiple dates, and who tries to get to know you is the guy who does not get laid. The jerk or some dude who does not do much is the one who gets laid on the first date or as soon as possible. Women don't reward niceness, so that is why many guys have evolved to act like jerks.

I have seen women throw themselves at celebrities, often times wanting to sleep with those celebs as soon as possible. So why should the so called nice guy be the mugu who is waiting on the fourth date before he gets laid after presumably spending a lot of money on the dates?

If the girl wants to go on three or four dates or more before she gives up the punny, I have no problem with that as long as she pays for the every other date after the second date, if the subsequent dates involve money.

It is easy for women to want to go on one hundred dates before they give any action if they are not spending any money.

I don't believe in any rules; just go with chemistry.

Unfortunately the Mugus spoil it for the rest of us.

It depends on d chemistry btw both parties, if there's none y i'm i invitin her for a date? sex on the 1st date is very ok, o make sense. Cos delayin till d 4th or more is crap, d lady will start takin for granten n d slowmotion continues. D only way slowmotion can occur is when she avoids comin to ma crib, if not i must touch light o when i knw be okobo

nna poster you fine o

sex outside of marriage at anytime is a bad idea. Comes with physical (promiscuous or not, diseases, drama, etc), and especially spiritual consequences (sin before GOD). Pls, avoid it.

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” - Hebrews 13:4

Somorin1:
I just wanted to add that some Women make this rule for no reason. I wager that most Women, if in the dating demographic, met Dezel Washington, LL Cool J. etc they will drop their pants at a moments notice.

even our very own Davido